What Japanese Women Want: A Western Husband

The Christian Science Monitor ^ | December 6, 2004 | Bennett Richardson

[Age of Reason]

Control? Sounds to me like you have an issue.

I got lots of Issues.

Especially around the wrong kind of woman.

[Fatalis]

Ungrateful? We are very grateful for kind, supportive, respectful men who see us as a friend and partner

Many are, some aren't, and more aren't now than ever before, at a time when there are more such men in America right now than in anyu other country, ever.

while women may have enough to fill a bass boat, most guys could sink the Titanic

Ah, see? You do blame American men.

[Fatalis]

American women have a very bad reputation thanks to what the American MSM puts out every day.

Yes, and also because too many American women believe it.

[processing please hold]

First of all, Halloween is over.

Laura Bush is a woman. I am a woman. We do not dress like that. If that is your idea of how women really dress....you don't get out much, do you?

[Age of Reason]

We are very grateful for kind, supportive, respectful men who see us as a friend and partner

Gotta earn it first.

[marajade]

"Close enough to conservative ?"

Yes. But I think its more than just how a person votes or what kind of chores/money one can contribute. I think its more about how a person thinks about life and their character.

[Lazamataz]

What Japanese Women Want: A Western Husband

That's because Asian men are rumored to have tiny wees.

[najida]

The problem is the definition of "appreciation".

You hit the nail on the head of why I refuse to get married again (done it twice, both croaked, won't do it again).

I don't like not being appreciated. I didn't like being the workhorse and never hearing a kind word. I won't go into the world of TMI, but marriage was so bad, it is something I don't want to do again.

Anyhow, I have discovered that dating is a lot more fun. I can dress up, be all girlie, go out, have fun...make a friend, have delightful conversation etc. If he is a jerk, I can pick up the tab, trot home, put on my sweats, eat Godiva Chocolate Truffle Ice Cream in my messy, but all mine home while hogging the remote.

[Hi Heels]

There are great conservative women out there, you haven't met them, so, they don't exist?

okeee....

[Captain Rhino]

I met my wife while attending the University of Washington during the 1970's on a military scholarship. She was a friend of a fellow military student's wife and had attended the same college with her in Japan. They were both from middle class Japanese families and had observed close-up the roles and relationships between men and women in "traditional" marriages. Both had been completely soured on the idea of marrying a Japanese man exactly for the reasons stated in the article.

However, it's hard to see how Japan's society and Japanese men could change quickly enough to meet the complaints of these women. It has taken the West a couple hundred years and the process is still not finished. (Plenty of Neanderthals still out there.)

FWIW, it was my second marriage, so I was a bit more realistic about my shortcomings and more reasonable in my expectations. I think it also helped that she had had the opportunity to work, to live an independent life and to see the world in the time between college and marrying. This has helped her be a much more interesting partner in our years together. (27 in the Spring.)

[Revolting cat!]

Oh baby, marry me!

[vetvetdoug]

Do you need a butler for the trip? I know a single well educated veterinarian that knows a little Japanese language that would be willing to accompany you for the fringe benefits. I lived in Japan between 1958-1963.

[katana]

That's just an ugly rumor. But, to quote Madeline Kahn in Blazing Saddles (opposite context) "it's twue! it's twue!".

[derllak]

Tell it like it is, workerbee! All men need to do is show a bit of appreciation once in a while and they'd be surprised how friendly their wives can be!

[marajade]

"Especially around the wrong kind of woman."

I guess I'm the "wrong kind" of woman for you. I've always been one to think that the need of being controlled is a rather negative one. But hey, whatever works for you and yours... Being "controlled" just ain't my cup of tea. Do you have lots of growth in your relationships with the women you "control"?

[Bella_Bru]

Conservative women also think for themselves. We don't need our husbands to give us our opinions. Some around here think that "conservative woman'= parrot's husbands thoughts.

[cyborg]

I exist :-)

[najida]

You wouldn't marry an American again?

I MIGHT get married again if: He lives 5 days a week in another place and ONLY comes to see me on the weekends.
He looks like Kevin Sorbo, has the brains of Steven Hawkins, and the sensuality of erm, ah....well, I know what I want.
He just accepts my life as my life, doesn't want to change it and doesn't want to 'fix' stuff that isn't his to fix.
He doesn't have to love me, but he really, REALLY has to like me as much as I like him.
And ideally, he can fix things (s'ok if not, I usually figure it out).

[Hi Heels]

LOL Sorry. 13 brothers and sisters. Three married foreign. Two successfully (sisters), one unsuccessfully (brother). Painting with a broad brush never works.

Relating figures of American "spinsterhood" is smoke and mirrors. There are nearly 2 to 1 more women than men. Further, and this won't sit well, some American women, when given the choice between marrying American Godlike Men and remaining single, have CHOSEN to remain single. Easier on the nerves. Easier on the wallet. And you don't have to wash those nasty stains out of someone else's underwear. AND you can, conceivably, get laid whenever you want. WHAT is the downside?

[vetvetdoug]

Taksan chesai is what Japanese women say about the Japanese male genitalia.