Posted on 12/06/2004 9:12:18 AM PST by MississippiMasterpiece
Oh, OK, so you lied. LOL
Most cultural stats aren't gathered by a census, but I'll concede you found an exception to my generalization that most cultural information is going to come to us in the form of generalizations.
Probably, if you and I met face to face, we could find a lot to agree on. I think we're both better than this discussion. Agreed? (Extending hand for shake.)
Generally.
But that really only works for someone who has some concept of how important religion is. If they don't care, it seems like an excuse... bah. This stuff is too complicated.
If they think it is an excuse you are no worse off than before. You are not responsible for their reaction as long as you were level with them.
Yeah, but then they'll come on FreeRepublic and whine about how evil and cruel American women are!
Sigh. I thought I had things all figured out when I was fifteen, but then it got really complicated and I haven't met a nice guy, in real life, who wasn't already married/dating/otherwise ineligible since. Which hasn't been that long, I admit, but it's not like college was an alternative to early marriage, for me.
Can I dress you up like "Ami" from "The Hi Hi Puffy Ami Yumi Cartoon"?
I've definitely got a 'thing' for the Japanese 'Elegant Gothic Lolita' fashion trend.
The Japanese are such gastronomic and sexual perverts--I applaud them.
LOL!
;)
But that really only works for someone who has some concept of how important religion is. If they don't care, it seems like an excuse
That's not your problem, though. You've told them your reason, and it's a sincere one. If he knows you at all, he knows your faith really is important to you.
As far as a guy is concerned, that beats the heck out of "I don't feel that way about you and just want to be friends" leaving him to wonder ... is it that mole on his chin ... does he have bad breath ... did you overhear him belch after lunch ... are you really sincere or just making him put in some effort to prove he's for real ... or is it ... or maybe ... then again, it could be ...
I could picture her with Donald Trump --- they wouldn't have much time for each other because they have to spend a lot of time on their silly shows.
good post...
You laugh, but (Catholic theologian) Scott Hahn makes the (admittedly controversial) argument that the narrative of the Fall is essentially one of a bridal test ... which Adam failed, essentially by not telling Satan to butt out and leave Eve alone. Adam, Hahn's argument goes, was afraid of death (since preternatural immortality consisted of the possibility of not dying, not the impossibility of dying) and failed to support his bride against the threat.
Hence the need for the true hero to come along, pass the bridal test on Calvary, and conquer death by rising on Easter morning.
Maybe it's wrong, but it's still intriguing. :-)
My 2 cents for the guys...
If you see a girl you are interested in then go and tell her that. In whatever manner is best for you. "Hey I really find you atrractive and would like to get to know you better." to "you are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen and I just had to come over and talk to you."
Be engaging, show a real interest in her, tell her what you think of her, tell her how she makes you feel, "just wanted to say thanks for brightening up my day."
Ask her a thousand questions. What's your favorite food or drink or flower or vacation destination or play of movie or band...etc.
My goodness man go and talk to her. Just the simple act of talking to her shows that you are interested and you can tell rather quickly how she feels about your interest in her.
Don't be afraid to say exactly what you are thinking as long as it makes her feel good about herself. Tell her she is beautiful or smart or funny or charming. Tell her why it is you decided you just had to come over and talk to her.
Ping. :-)
The thing is that the world is getting more and more mixed -- I live in Brighton, south of England and the odds are that a couple is of mixed ethnicity -- same ethnic background couples are the odd ones out!
well, not exactly -- and those generalisations don't work either way. The thing is that guys still want to marry a Lady -- and that doesn't mean she should stay at home and not have a job or anthing, it's just that in demeanour, in manner etc. she should be a lady. If one wanted to be with a person who'd burp and scratch, one could hang around with the boys, but a lady is different. Again, there are many successful career women who are still very feminine (and again, I'm not talking just beauty here)
Gotta agree to some extent -- I really disagree with the entire free-love, live-in, quickie-divorce-if-you-have-one-argument kind of life. But then again, I'm not married and seem to spend most of my life en transit, so can't really say how difficult it could be!
*sigh* Which is what I ended up doing, after he called back all het up and asking for the real reason. And then he got upset with me for being "judgemental" - took it personally. But I think I did the best I could.
To be honest, because I won't date someone who isn't a potential marriage partner (and I try to be fairly open minded there...), I don't date much. And therefore...I almost think this guy thought I'd jump at the chance to go out with anyone - though it was just that no one had noticed me and I was probably desperate for a date.
Annnnnyway...didn't mean to go on so much about this! Ya know...sometimes it amazes me that men and wimmin are able to get along at all. ;-)
Yes, it is!
Was that in a book of Hahn's? I've read a little of his writing, but not a lot.
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