I had two babies aborted, admits oldest mother

Sunday Telegraph ^ | 23/01/05 | Monica Petrescu

[grellis]

When did I post anything about people--especially couples in a committed relationship--not being allowed to have sex? I should give up having sex with my spouse because I CAN concieve? Babies are what normally happen when you have sex. When they don't happen, you do the responsible thing--you find out why, you rule out what you can, you ask yourself: What is God's plan for me? You know what? I give up. If you want to understand how I feel about IVF, ask the Pope. He and I are on the same page. Clearly, you and I are not. Amen for me, FRegards.

[grellis]

Actually, to answer your question about why we didn't adopt: Before my husband and I began having children our combined income was right around $23,000. Adoption chances: zero. FWIW: we are no longer able to have children. I have already begun looking into becoming a "Friend of the Court," which I think is a logical first step toward our ultimate goal, which is fostering.

[ellery]

So you would have chosen adoption instead of having bio-children if you had had the means?

It's true -- adoption can be a ton more expensive and exhausting than IVF, and just as unpredictable in terms of actually ending up with a baby. If it were easy, I would have to think more people would skip IVF and go straight there. Unfortunately, I understand why there has to be red tape, as they can't just give these children to people off the streets. It's tough for people who have medical problems, and I don't know that there are any easy answers.

I'm very sorry to hear you can't have more children. For myself, I just wouldn't feel comfortable taking on troubled cases or older kids until I had experience raising children. But for people who have experience and more parenting in them, fostering sounds like a wonderful thing. Best of luck.