Skip to comments.Why I´m Divorced And why you´re next
Posted on 08/30/2005 10:14:07 PM PDT by tbird5
I've seen two movies lately, one very funny ( Wedding Crashers ) and one infuriatingly stupid ( Must Love Dogs ), but both baffling in their lockstep to happily-ever-afterland. Why does romantic love, the kind that doesn't occur in life except fleetingly and disappointingly, still play to the crowds? I give the impecunious boat-builder and the petit bourgeois schoolteacher five years at the outside -- he's not going to keep her in end-tables. And Daddy's Little Girl will have ditched the immature arriviste long before that.
Why, in an era when men and women can barely achieve détente, in a First World where everyone suffers from attachment disorder, are we still ponying up for marriage? On the HBO series Six Feet Under a show I adore because all the characters behave abominably at all times, yet never manage to have more than a millisecond of fun men and women can't stay married or remain faithful from one week to the next. We're not quite that bad, we HBO viewers, but we're getting there.
I'm no historian, but it doesn't take a Paul Johnson (author of A History of the American People ) to tell us why it's so hard to stay married. We live too long. Marriage is a naturally polarizing process that causes one person to detest, over time, what the other person loves. Only after a couple divorces do they move back toward the center, where their interest in one another began. (I knew a man who left his wife because of the endless chintz and throw pillows. I went to visit him once in his new Bauhaus apartment, but he couldn't really talk he was too distracted by trying to choose the right tassels for his new Salamandre curtains.)
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She's just drunk on Amontillado
Marriage, like democracy, is not for wimps!
LOL, I'm truly sorry. Heh heh heh...
Downhill as in "easy," or downhill as in "increasingly depressing?"
After crawling halfway through the editorial, sinking deeper and deeper into her cynical wading-pool of cow crap, I'm just going to call her a miserable, self-absorbed, over-thinking b!tch.
She seems like that kind of woman who wants to hyper-talk every aspect of her emotional life in hushed, serious tones. Like anyone can give a rat's a$$ every minute they're within reach of the melodramatic vomit that gushes out of her mouth.
I guarantee that almost no one on the planet can stand being friends with her.
I despise this type of woman...much the same way I despise guys who can't help but hit on, or cat call, every chick they find the least bit attractive.
It's the same over-indulgence mental sickness that manifests itself differently in each of the sexes.
Speak for yourself sweetie. You can stay single and bitter. One wonders if that's why your man dumped your bitter self.
I may be wrong here, but tell me this isn't a new literary form: drunken bitter chick. You known the type, they sit down next to you in a bar (or sometimes a cross country flight) and the next thing you know, you're being treated to in-depth descriptions of every indignity or slight that she's ever sustained.
Bitter old sow ain't she? He probably said WOO HOO! it's over.
Good heavens. I hope the newspaper pays for her upcoming years of therapy. Or maybe they should just lock her up and be done with it.
Marriage isn't a piece of cake, but if both people have the ongoing commitment, there's no reason it can't work. We've been married about 15 years now, lived through hellish circumstances for part of that, and although things were rough a year or two ago, I'd say that now, in a way, we're closer than we've ever been.
It's not the blazing passion of being newly married, but a better, settled, warm, confident, deep affection that comes from having lived through hell together and decided that if you have to go through hell -- or heaven -- well, there's no one on earth you'd have by your side.
This chick ought to go marry Modo....then they can be miserable together but at least they would have someone that the other would sleep with.
Hey Now ....don't you pick up any bad ideas this close to yer wedding day !!........:o)
Get off this thread Young Lady !!!
No need to apologize :)
My first "marriage" was HORRIBLE...........I'm married for a second time, but now I have a MARRIAGE........very large difference.
Oh yeah hehehe. You're invited squantos. Just don't try to spice up the punch ;-)
What she's saying is she was too smart to stay married. She's so smart she's miserable. That if anyone can stay married to one person year after year, then they must be idiots.
It is no wonder why the author of this article is divorced.
Aw! She expresses how some of us feel right now. The rest of you were lucky, so don't forbid us the enjoyment of the writer's humor or her protrayal of harsh but somehow comforting reality. The lady has a point.
which is? I don't understand.
My wife and I have had our rough spots, but we realize we are pals, best friends, determined to make the best for us and our little corner of the world. We are bound together by the love of cats, knowledge, books, and truth, and we are bound together by a common hate of people such as the Clintons and their coterie of liars, apologists and criminal obstructionists, plus the unprincipled, condescending, lying crooks in the lamestream media and the left wing political machine.
I highly recommend hating the same people and groups as a solid foundation of marriage. Try it, you'll love it!