Posted on 11/05/2005 7:45:30 AM PST by kalee
It is classic liberalism. Poor women must work, so to be fair, all women must
work.
Equal outcomes for all, regardless of personal ability, motivation, or external
factors like geographic location, marital status, and imcome.
Traditional feminists would be rolling over in their graves. This is hijacked
feminism.
Don't forget GLBT studies. That's a real major at my University now.
And to monitor these enlightening programs, we have a new Dean of
Indoctrination.
Full time motherhood IS an improvement over many meaningless careers. Careers are for the purpose of supporting a family; emotional and intellectual gains from them are purely secondary.
Amen to that. I now homeschool my three children and work one day a week while my husband is home with them or my mother-in-law comes over for 4 hours in the afternoon. I can't tell you how much more stimulating and fulfilling staying home and raising/schooling my children is than my job. My job is just a means to an end- a way to make some extra money to help out our family and be able to afford more for our children. I am a college-educated professional and people have hinted that I 'wasted' my time, money and potential, but I really don't care. I made my choice and am doing what makes me happy and is best for my family. I realize I am lucky to be able to do this, but to insinuate that only a 'career' can keep you happy and fulfilled or provide value to society is ridiculous. Maybe when you're young, single and enthusiastic to start out, but when more meaningful things happen in your life (like marriage and kids), you really start to see jobs as what they really are- other people making money off of your hard work and nothing more.
See Maureen Dowd for Example Number One...
Her perfect soul(less)mate is the 20 year old Andy Weakling who wrote this article http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1515588/posts
posted yesterday. I pray Andy and Julie never meet. Could you imagine their kids?
Well, there IS a "black person's manual" for how to Think Black, at least in the mind (sic) of certain editorialists.
The Milwaukee asswipe editorialized that Justice Thomas is an "asterisk black" because he does not 'think like a US black [should].'
There's your precedent...
A critical look at any era of Western Civilization will show that it has been impossible for men as a group to force women as a group to do anything unless a Koran-like code of conduct is in place, backed up by magistrates with beheading swords at the ready. This certainly wasn't the case in Victorian England.
It is much more logical to assume that women chose and accepted Victorian-era roles as a means of maintaining their own power and status within society - allowing men to appear to have the public control while women essentially ran society from behind the scenes. Older women taught younger women how to play the game, and a rough balance of power came about - to the extent a balance was possible in an era with no birth control and minimal medical knowledge.
Feminists threw away all of that to grasp at what men had: the illusion of control and "dominance", as young Julie calls it approvingly. They are only just starting to realize what they gave up by doing so.
Being a full time mother is the most important profession.
Silence? Is she serious? I'm a stay-at-home mom. There is absolutely NOTHING silent about me. Ask my husband who runs the household. Ask my husband who takes care of the finances. Ask my husband who knows how and why every penny is spent. I like to joke that he makes the money and I spend it, but seriously, if I left him in charge of the checkbook, he would probably fritter his paycheck away without another thought to other bills and walk around in rags. He is fantastic at supporting us, I know how to budget. We're a team.
I think all Mothers should work and all Fathers should sit home and eat bon-bons...
That works too. I was often envious of my wife and wished I could have had the chance to spend so many hours with my children.
Utterly selfish, dishonorable?
Excuse me, but normal people try to live their lives according to what they think is best for them not as cannon fodder for some discredited "cause". These people ARE nuts.
**Full Time Motherhood?, How Selfish**
No it isn't selfish! This is fulfilling God's plan. (much more important than fulfilling the plan of the secular world!)
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I think the basic problem boils down to the authors inability to cope with the idea that many women don't feel the same duty to have a career as she does.
Interestingly, she tacitly frames this duty as a duty to herself and to and the female sex.
Very odd.
I think it is because they have been programmed to believe that in order to be deemed successful, they need to define themselves so they can be compared/judged to a standard by other people. It is easy to judge a person in the workforce because they get promoted, raises, bonuses, etc. How can a successful mother be judged? It has too many intangible qualities that can't really be compared to other people. How can you really judge a clean house? A good meal? I try to make most of my foods from scratch with store bought ingredients, but I get a starch, veggie and main dish for the dinner every night. Does this make me better than a mom who heats prepackaged dinners with all a starch, veggie and main course included or worse than a mom who gardens all the ingredients. It can really only be judged by yourself, kids and (gasp) the hubby. There is no outside recognition, no promotion (except having more kids, which is my hubby's joke) no pay raise.
What probably threatens them the most though is that I am comfortable enough in my own skin, I don't need to be defined by someone else, which is not what they were programmed to believe. I have my own self worth, which is independent of another's opinion of me. Which is precisely the repression that they were programmed they needed to overcome to begin with.
Of course, who knows what those nutters think! :)
Just over 40 years ago I spent two years in Thailand with the Air Force. We had household help: a girl to do the laundry, one to clean the house, and a driver. We needed them because my wife's health was poor and the tropical environment took a toll on her. Besides, I didn't want to risk driving in Bangkok traffic (left hand side of the road, crazy Thai drivers, etc.)
Cost was low, easily covered by our housing allowance. However, I swore that I'd never have servants again if I could possibly help it, no matter how inexpensive they were. It was like having three more children in the house. We were glad to get back to the Land of the Big PX, where we didn't need household help.
I just don't understand people who want nannies, gardeners, etc. I know, it takes all kinds, but some kinds are a bit strange.
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