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Lent house in shambles (Katrina evacuees trash accomodations)
Carroll County Times ^ | 29 Nov 2005 | Diane Reynolds

Posted on 11/29/2005 6:01:20 PM PST by Nomorjer Kinov

When the Firm Foundation Worship Center got the call that a family of nine escaping Hurricane Katrina had arrived in Westminster needing a house, church members jumped into action.

"They came here with nothing," said Marge DiMaggio, the church's co-pastor.

As quickly as possible, church members made a house on church property look like a home.

When the Brown family left on Sunday, the DiMaggios were horrified to find the house in shambles.

"Hurricane hits Firm Foundation," said Marge DiMaggio.

While answering the call in September, church members' hearts were filled with compassion for the unknown family.

"We brought our pillows over," said Marge DiMaggio, so the family could sleep well the first night.

The church laid new carpet donated by Altieri Builders, redid the bathrooms, found appliances and even hung curtains to make the old-fashioned white-frame house welcoming to the family.

They bought clothes, assembled beds out of mattresses donated by the Westminster Rescue Mission and stocked the pantry with food.

The Browns paid no rent and no utilities for the house.

On Sunday, the DiMaggios entered the house after church, at about 1 p.m., said Marge DiMaggio's son, Brian DiMaggio. The Browns left during church services, between 11 and noon, he said.

A lamp was smashed on the floor, the lampshade stomped.

The screen door was torn off the hinges and flung onto the back deck.

Someone cut a hole in the trampoline that belonged to Joann DiMaggio's children.

Curtain rods were ripped from the wall and left bent and dangling from one screw.

Clothing, potato chip bags, soda cans, socks and empty bags were strewn throughout the house.

A hole was punched in a bathroom wall.

In another bathroom, dried toothpaste was smeared on the vanity, a capless toothpaste tube on the windowsill above.

A big, broken pink plastic car was abandoned on the hill outside the house.

In a dirty refrigerator upstairs, someone left a coffee mug with an inch or two layer of coffee sludge in the bottom.

Dirty dishes were stacked in the sink or on the counters.

But in perhaps the biggest insult, the words "MD Sucks" were emblazoned in black paint on the side of the home.

"When our eyes caught this, we all stood here and froze," Marge DiMaggio said.

Unhappy in Maryland

According to 42-year-old Keith Brown, who with his wife and children was halfway back to their home state of Louisiana, the property was not misused.

"We cleaned up as much as we could," he said.

He denied painting "MD Sucks" on the side of the house. His wife denied knowledge of any vandalism.

Yet Brown, whose family was referred to the church by Home Services Resources of Westminster, admitted to being unhappy during his stay here.

"We had a lot of problems with people about the house," he said.

The DiMaggios would come in and sneak around when the family was out, he said. The DiMaggios would tell them they needed to clean up this and that.

"Living in that environment and having someone watching over your shoulder wasn't worth crap," he said.

Marge and Joann DiMaggio were stunned at Brown's angry response to their generosity.

"The house was so fresh two months ago," said Marge DiMaggio. "We didn't check up on them," she said. "We didn't lord over them. We had no idea."

A few times early on they did ask that things be cleaned up, but that was only natural, she said.

Further, Brown said, the family was never provided with money he said the church promised to help them return home.

"If I wouldn't have done some under-the-table work ... I would never have the money to come home," Brown said.

All of this, he said, left a bad taste in his mouth.

They had to fight to keep items given to them, such as one of the home's two refrigerators and a washing machine, he said. The DiMaggios, who let the Browns have the items, said they had believed the appliances were donated to the house, not the family.

Brown said the DiMaggios, having heard a rumor the Browns were leaving, insulted the family by showing the house to another couple without the Browns' permission.

The DiMaggios had a right to show the house to prospective renters, Marge DiMaggio said. "Frankly, we didn't need permission to bring someone in."

The prospective renters said the house was trashed, but they did not see any vandalism, according to Brian DiMaggio.

The Browns never thanked the church for what it did, Marge DiMaggio said.

"I don't know why they would have a bad taste in their mouth when everything was given to them," she said. "We gave them everything. They never paid for anything."

Natural response

Therein might lie the problem, said psychologist Harald Graning of Confidential Counseling of Westminster.

While the Browns might look like the ultimate ingrates, their response is not unnatural, he said.

"Suppose that you were living your life," he said, "and all of a sudden God came down and destroyed your house? You'd probably be pissed."

The anger that people feel under such circumstances needs to be vented and often isn't.

Unfortunately, the overwhelming generosity of others can backfire by intensifying the recipient's sense of anger and helplessness.

"You are forced to accept charity," he said. "It's demeaning."

Doing good makes the benefactor feel better, not the person being helped, he said. When the person on the receiving end can't repay the kindness and feels compelled to feel appreciative, he or she can become extremely frustrated. Acting out can occur.

Church members trying to make sense of the situation shouldn't feel rejected or upset their gifts were rejected, he said.


TOPICS: Extended News; News/Current Events; US: Louisiana; US: Maryland
KEYWORDS: charity; christians; dirtbags; evacuees; fromtrashtotrash; graning; haraldgraning; ingrates; katrina; katrinarelief; keithbrown; lowlifes; pondscum; psychobabble; vandalism
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To: Nomorjer Kinov
Somebody's gotta send these people a copy of Emily Post!
121 posted on 11/29/2005 8:31:03 PM PST by Savage Beast ("Oprah: The light that shines so gently on those who need it most." ~Sidney Poitier)
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To: plain talk
"Suppose that you were living your life and all of a sudden God came down and destroyed your house?

And somebody took me in? Why naturally I'd trash his house and write grafitti all over his walls. What the hell do you think I'd do?

122 posted on 11/29/2005 8:41:05 PM PST by Savage Beast ("Oprah: The light that shines so gently on those who need it most." ~Sidney Poitier)
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To: Savage Beast

Doesn't everyone?


123 posted on 11/29/2005 8:47:33 PM PST by TexasTransplant (NEMO ME IMPUNE LACESSET)
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To: Nomorjer Kinov

Therein might lie the problem, said psychologist Harald Graning of Confidential Counseling of Westminster.

While the Browns might look like the ultimate ingrates, their response is not unnatural, he said.

"Suppose that you were living your life," he said, "and all of a sudden God came down and destroyed your house? You'd probably be pissed."
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Suppose that you were living your life, and a deadly hurricane began tracking toward your house? You made unwise choices for whatever reasons, and suffered devastating consequences, but you and your family escaped with your lives, and God provided a way out of the devastation, and a home for you and your family with all of the necessities of life. Those provisions were free, with only the expectation that you would bear the responsibilty of maintaining them, and leaving them in the condition in which you found them for the next family that might be in need of them. Wouldn't you be thankful? Wouldn't you be appreciative enough to meet those expectations because you would want to help someone else the way you had been helped?

However, you could follow the counsel of the "psychologist" - or, perhaps your "natural" instincts - and blame good, and excuse evil, and be offended that the provisions were too little, and too late. He would say that is "not unnatural", and he is a psychologist, so he must know - right?


124 posted on 11/29/2005 8:51:47 PM PST by LucyJo ("I have overcome the world." "Abide in Me." (John 16:33; 15:4)
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To: Nick5

I tend to believe your experience was the norm


125 posted on 11/29/2005 8:57:13 PM PST by When do we get liberated? ((God save us from the whining, useless, irrelevent left...))
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To: Sender

remember hurricane Floyd in N.C. 1998? I saw the FEMA homes there as late as 2002...still there for all i know.


126 posted on 11/29/2005 9:00:00 PM PST by When do we get liberated? ((God save us from the whining, useless, irrelevent left...))
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To: twntaipan

Yeah, the problems arise when they make the dung shine on your property...


127 posted on 11/29/2005 9:02:49 PM PST by When do we get liberated? ((God save us from the whining, useless, irrelevent left...))
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To: MinuteGal
Personally, I can't wait. Before FedGov dumps any more of my tax dollars into these louts, we need to see what we've been paying for up close. Come January, it's going to be really messy. Not even the MSM is going to be able to cover this up.
128 posted on 11/29/2005 9:04:07 PM PST by zeugma (Warning: Self-referential object does not reference itself.)
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To: Nomorjer Kinov
It is unfortunate that some people will take advantage of a situation and ruin any future help for others. I understand what the psychologist was trying to say, but there are other ways to handle anger and frustration than destroying someones property. If they were that unhappy they should have moved. In two months that man and woman should have been able to find a job and another rental place.
129 posted on 11/29/2005 9:13:33 PM PST by RebaJ
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To: LucyJo

Well stated.


130 posted on 11/29/2005 9:25:38 PM PST by Nomorjer Kinov
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To: Nick5

In my opinion, Mark Morial was the most corrupt mayor we have ever had, and that is saying a lot. I would not be surprised if the levee's poor construction had something to do with kickbacks to him.


131 posted on 11/29/2005 9:53:16 PM PST by Saints fan
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To: Nomorjer Kinov

I'm sorry, but this is no excuse. Accepting charity doesn't demean you. Good people would appreciate the help. This case sounds like they didn't get the best of everything they thought they had coming to them.


132 posted on 11/29/2005 11:05:22 PM PST by Shery (S. H. in APOland)
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To: Nomorjer Kinov
there are no excuses for trashing the house, no matter what psychobabble is spouted.......

something I have to tell myself however, is that "giving" to a needy person or family can help the giver more than the receiver, and we can't always look at where or who our giving goes to....we're going to be dissappointed.....we have to instead, focus on how charity is improving our lives, our outlooks, our humanity, our Christianity....

lately, I have been more prone to help people that I know personally, or neices or nephews that are struggling with young families.....I don't even like to give to the food bank anymore.....I'd rather bring stuff personally to someone I know that needs it....

133 posted on 11/30/2005 2:21:16 AM PST by cherry
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To: Nomorjer Kinov

WELL, THEY TURNED THE DOME INTO A GHETTO IN THREE DAYS, WHY IS THIS SURPRISING?


134 posted on 11/30/2005 2:27:36 AM PST by A CA Guy (God Bless America, God bless and keep safe our fighting men and women.)
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To: Oatka

>> On an almost yearly basis, they raised the rents of everyone but us - gotta be a connection.

My in-laws have a little rental empire of 25-30 houses in a town of about 50,000. I've watched them operate for many years, and helped some when there (I helped swap out a water heater on Black Friday while there for Thanksgiving).

Let me assure you, there was most definitely a connection, if your landlord was at all like them.


135 posted on 11/30/2005 2:47:26 AM PST by FreedomPoster (Guns themselves are fairly robust; their chief enemies are rust and politicians) (NRA)
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To: Nomorjer Kinov

BFL


136 posted on 11/30/2005 3:08:17 AM PST by gridlock (eliminate perverse incentives)
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To: blogblogginaway

I was taught to "pass it on." If the family had been busy working and going even further to fix the house up, and had tried to do some charity work on their own, they wouldn't have had any energy left over to "vent."


137 posted on 11/30/2005 3:19:32 AM PST by hocndoc (http://www.lifeethics.org/www.lifeethics.org/index.html)
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To: Nomorjer Kinov

Natural response, my derriere.


138 posted on 11/30/2005 3:41:38 AM PST by mewzilla (Property must be secured or liberty cannot exist. John Adams)
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To: Nomorjer Kinov
Doing good makes the benefactor feel better, not the person being helped, he said. When the person on the receiving end can't repay the kindness and feels compelled to feel appreciative, he or she can become extremely frustrated. Acting out can occur.

This is sad, but true. If one wants to do good, one should do good. Just don't expect any thanks for your efforts.

People who find themselves in need of charity often have poor impulse control, for one reason or another. They may frequently lash out. It has ever been such.

Helping the poor, clothing the naked, feeding the hungry and sheltering the homeless is it's own reward. You will get no other, so don't expect it. But you are not doing it for yourself, anyway.

139 posted on 11/30/2005 4:46:39 AM PST by gridlock (eliminate perverse incentives)
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To: Nomorjer Kinov

These folks better hope they don't get in a similier situation in the future. Someone out out there is making a list and I'm sure they'll be checking it twice, gonna find out who's been naughty and who's been nice. ( Merry Christmas)


140 posted on 11/30/2005 4:56:06 AM PST by wolfcreek
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