Skip to comments."Paradise Lost" (Washington Post re: Lesbians' Exit from Virginia)
Posted on 12/18/2005 5:42:02 PM PST by tsipple
Barbara Kenny's eyes narrow as she cranks the faucet in a freshly painted bathroom of what will soon be her new home in Frederick. [....]
"This just makes me madder and madder," Barbara says, staring out the window at the bare February landscape. "I mean, this is a perfectly fine house, it's just not where we want to be."
Where they want to be is Virginia, in the little townhouse in downtown Fredericksburg they've owned for 17 years, in the community they've come to treasure. It took them three decades of isolation and living in the closet to find Fredericksburg, and come out as lesbians. [....]
[They] were watching television in their living room rocking chairs in the summer of 2004 when they heard the news they'd been dreading for months. A new law in Virginia had taken effect, called the Affirmation of Marriage Act. It declared that couples like them were not entitled to any of the benefits or protections that straight, married couples got. [....]
For Barbara and Tibby, the legal language it used was scary: A civil union, partnership contract or other arrangement between persons of the same sex purporting to bestow the privileges or obligations of marriage is prohibited and such an arrangement entered into in another state or jurisdiction is void in Virginia and any contractual rights created thereby are void and unenforceable.
Tibby initially refused to believe that the legislation was aimed at Barbara and her. They were law-abiding, low-key Virginians, people who ran their neighborhood homeowners association, called bingo nights at the firehouse and served on their church's board of trustees. "That's not meant to include us. It means people who come from other states," Tibby said with her typically earnest tone to Barbara, who responded with a typically skeptical look.
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A Unitarian Universalist church - a.k.a. the Democrat party with a steeple.
Yes. They do.
And it is their responsibility to "enlighten" us.
They leave because nothing is any different.
No thanks, there are already plenty of them up here.
These women could do everything they want in a legal manner right now. There was no reason for them to leave their home in Fredericksburg. Did they never do any research on this?
They could always join a band of roving lesbian gypsies
Film documents law's effect on same-sex couple
A Unitarian Universalist couple leaves Virginia to preserve their rights.
By Amelia Koford
Fall 2005 8.15.05
Fredericksburg, Va. - Suzanne Moe planned to screen her first documentary just once--to help her church, the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Fredericksburg, Virginia, better understand the plight of a same-sex couple in the congregation. But within a few months of the December 2004 screening more than 1,000 copies of the film had been distributed to congregations, libraries, and individuals across the country.
The documentary, Barbara and Tibby: A Love Story--in the Face of Hate, tells the story of Barbara Kenny and Tibby Middleton, who have been together for 39 years. The couple decided to leave Virginia after the July 2004 passage of legislation restricting their rights as a same-sex couple. I was so moved when I knew they were leaving, I knew I had to do something, Moe said.
After Kenny was diagnosed with a brain aneurysm in 2001, the couple made sure they had the power to deal with each others medical and legal affairs. But the 2004 law prohibiting any arrangement between persons of the same sex purporting to bestow the privileges or obligations of marriage is so broadly worded that it could supersede contracts such as powers of attorney, property rights, and medical directives. Kenny and Middleton decided to leave Virginia rather than risk their contracts being challenged.
The premiere of Moes documentary drew the largest crowd the church had ever held. The atmosphere was so supportive and emotional, Moe said. It validated the couples decision to share their story.
The film DVD and a study guide will be available in all districts.
Liberal religion and life
Documentary Explores Impact of Virginia Law
Couple forced to leave state because of anti-gay legislation
FREDERICKSBURG, Va.In 2004, over the protests of the governor of Virginia, the state legislature went further than any other in the country in passing legislation to prohibit same-sex unions by any name. "Barbara and Tibby: A Love Story in the Face of Hate" looks at the impact of the law through the lives of one Virginia couple, forced to leave the state when the discriminatory and arguably unconstitutional legislation went into effect.
Barbara Kenny and Tibby Middleton, both in their 60s, had lived quietly, silently bearing the burden of discrimination throughout their lives. They are not activists; they are simply two people who have loved each other for nearly 40 years, and wanted to live out the rest of their lives together, confident that legal steps theyd taken would enable them to always care for each other. Virginias Affirmation of Marriage Act robbed them of that peace of mind.
HB 751, which became Virginia Code Section 2045.3, prohibits people of the same sex from entering into legal arrangements purporting to bestow the privileges or obligations of marriage. Many lawyers believe the law could impact wills, medical directives, powers of attorney, and other legal documents, not just between same-sex couples, but between any persons of the same sex.
Suzanne Moe, Photo by Scott Neville, Free Lance-Star Virginia artist Suzanne Moe put a human face on the people targeted by this controversial legislation, interviewing her friends after they made their decision to leave their home. Combined with family photos, and music from Uppity Blues Woman Gaye Adegbalola, Moes partner and close friend of the couple, "A Love Story in the Face of Hate" provides an insightful, entertaining and educational glimpse into the often misunderstood gay lifestyle.
This story, however, transcends gay rightsit is a story about human rights.
Though she planned only to screen the documentary for friends, to help them understand why Barbara and Tibby had to leave, Moes documentaryand the powerful story it tellshas taken on a life of its own. The documentary already has been shown throughout the state, including a screening by Equality Virginia, the states leading gay-rights organization, at the Virginia General Assemblys lobbying day during the 2005 session. Though the law has passed, and Barbara and Tibby have left Virginia, the controversy is far from over. During the 2005 session, the General Assembly passed an amendment that would write this anti-gay discrimination in to the Virginia Constitution. It will go before the legislature again during the 2006 session, and if its passed there, could be put before voters as early as November 2006.
Inform, educate and activate, Moe said. That is our mission.
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Attorney Leila Kilgore provides legal interpretation.
Also included are three songs by Gaye Adegbalola (of Saffire-The Uppity Blues Women), with accompaniment by Roddy Barnes.
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Copies of Love Story DVD are available for sale, and public screenings, complete with an educational program, are being arranged.
Ah - good one! Best FR Pun of the Day! (gets my vote!!!!!!!!!!)
A Unitarian Universalist couple leaves Virginia to preserve their rights.
Unitarian Universalist - is a liberal religion and life. We believe that personal experience, conscience and reason should be the final authorities in religion, and that in the end religious authority lies not in a book or person or institution, but in ourselves. We are a "non-creedal" religion: we do not ask anyone to subscribe to a creed.
Whadda surprise - not. I would also not have been surprised to see these ladies hooked up with the United Methodist church which has become amazingly liberal in recent years. As a result, I dropped out.
In a new documentary titled A Love Story - In the Face of Hate, lesbian couple Barbara Kenny (right) and Tibby Middleton, share their history and explain why they decided to leave Virginia. (Photo courtesy of SuMo Productions)
I feel that Barbara and Tibby helped put a face on the law, Moe says of Kenny and Middleton. Once you get to know these women, you can put a human dimension on the consequences of [the] law.
A Love Story In the Face of Hate, starts off laden with emotion, due to the soulful singing of lesbian musician Gaye Adegbalola, a longtime member of Saffire-the Uppity Blues Women. In the 38-minute film, she sings: They came for the black, they came for the Jew, they came after them, they might come after you.
Moe, a graphic artist, and Adegbalola have been together for 14 years. Moe directed and produced the documentary, which focuses on two women who met in high school, parted ways and later got together again. Before moving to Maryland, they lived for years in Fredericksburg, Va.
Middleton married a man and became active in her Mormon church and had two children. Kenny, who has an interest in art and drag racing, became a psychotherapist.
One graceful moment occurs when Tibby, a former teacher in Fairfax County, says that upon the two womens reunion, Barbara asked her if she was happy.
Moe includes commentary in the film from Leila Kilgore, a Fredricksburg attorney who opposes the law and talks in the documentary about how it could affect gay couples wills, joint property and bank accounts (LIAR!).
Virginia is not for lovers, Kilgore says in the film. Its not about love.
Tibby Middleton (left) and Barbara Kenny play their guitars together at home. They're leaving Virginia because of a law that may invalidate legal documents they have to protect each other.
Caption: Tibby and Barbara singing, "Kumbayah...."
Film will be used to educate
March 13, 2005 1:09 am
By LAURA L. HUTCHISON
Couple's story being shared
When Fredericksburg artist Suzanne Moe first picked up her video camera to make a documentary about her friends, she never could have imagined the paths it would take her down.
She wanted to tell the story of Barbara Kenny and Tibby Middleton, a lesbian couple who'd been a vital part of the Fredericksburg community for years. They were her friends, and a Virginia law that went into effect last year made them feel they had to leave the state they'd called home for decades.
The documentary was intended to explain to friends at the Unitarian Universalist fellowship, which Moe and the couple both attend, why they had to leave.
But the small documentary turned into a big project, and now Moe's film is being distributed around the state and the country.
"Inform, educate and activate," Moe said. "That is our mission."
GAY COUPLE MAKE FILM OF GAY COUPLE (did I mention they are all gay?)
Gaye Adegbalola, Moes partner and close friend of the couple
"A Love Story in the Face of Hate" provides an insightful, entertaining and educational glimpse into the often misunderstood gay lifestyle.
A study guide is now available for download at: www.sumoe.com/lovestory/LoveStoryGuide.pdf
This 38 minute DVD can be used as a tool to educate, facilitate and promote informed discussions within a variety of group or classroom settings.*
BRING IT! (to your school )
by Candace Gingrich
Youth Outreach Manager
Human Rights Campaign
In 2004 the Virginia state legislature passed the most draconian measure in the country, prohibiting contracts which purport to bestow the privileges or obligations of marriage between two individuals of the same gender. A Love Story in the Face of Hate is an inspiring and educational documentary that looks at this laws impact through the eyes of one couple, forced to leave the state when the discriminatory legislation went into effect.
Barbara Kenny and Tibby Middleton, both in their 60s, arent activists; they are two people who have loved each other for nearly 40 years and simply wanted to live out the rest of their lives together, confident that legal steps theyd taken would enable them to always care for each other. After Barbara was diagnosed with a brain aneurysm, these issues were of even greater importance. Unable to risk having their legal contracts invalidated by the new law, the couple made the difficult decision to leave Virginia.
Barbara and Tibby provide a very real glimpse into the misunderstood and often demonized "lifestyle" of GLBTQ America, and by doing so, they put a face on the laws oppression and its far-reaching consequences. The battle against this specific legislation in Virginia, and similar legislation across the country, continues. Learn the policies of your state and promote informed discussions in your community.*
The documentary also features three songs by Gaye Adegbalola of Saffire-The Uppity Blues Women.
* Educators: share this film with your students!
A Discussion & Study Guide is available for download at: www.sumoe.com/lovestory/LoveStoryGuide.pdf
Their Love Is Here To Stay
Opinion: Joe Volz
December 9, 2005
The couple first met as Utah high school students but lost touch when they graduated a half-century ago. A decade later, they got in touch again and fell in love. They will celebrate their 40th anniversary together next month. It will not be a wedding anniversary, however. Fredericks Barbara Kenny and Tibby Middleton, both 67, are banned by Maryland law from getting married. Their crime? They are lesbians. The News-Posts Katie Leslie wrote of their dilemma on page A-1 on Wednesday.
Ms. Kenny, a retired psychotherapist, and Ms. Middleton, who was a Fairfax County high school teacher, are not rabble rousers. No, they made the best of it living as second-class citizens for years in Virginia.
That is, until last year when the state legislature passed a law prohibiting any contracts purporting to bestow the privileges or obligations of marriage between those of the same sex.
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Bring it! To your campus...
A Love Story DVDIn 2004 the Virginia state legislature passed the most draconian measure in the country, prohibiting contracts which "purport to bestow the privileges or obligations of marriage" between two individuals of the same gender. A Love Story in the Face of Hate is an inspiring and educational documentary that looks at this law's impact through the eyes of one couple, forced to leave the state when the discriminatory legislation went into effect.
Barbara Kenny and Tibby Middleton, both in their 60s, aren't activists; they are two people who have loved each other for nearly 40 years and simply wanted to live their lives together, confident that legal steps they'd taken would enable them to always care for each other. But Barbara was diagnosed with a brain aneurysm and unable to risk having their legal contracts invalidated by the new law, the couple decided to leave their home state.
Barbara and Tibby put a face on the law's oppression and its far-reaching consequences. The battle against this specific legislation in Virginia, and similar legislation across the country, continues. Learn the policies of your state and promote informed discussions at your school. This 38 minute DVD can be used as a tool to educate, facilitate and promote informed discussions within a variety of group or classroom settings. The documentary also features three songs by Gaye Adegbalola of Saffire-The Uppity Blues Women.
More information including a study guide, additional downloadable resource materials, and ordering options are available at: http://www.sumoe.com/lovestory/
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Human Rights Campaign
Escape from the red states: gay parents can wake up to find that their home state wants to break up their family. Some fight back; others simply leave for friendlier locales
Advocate, The, July 19, 2005 by Kelly Griffith
Boxes are stacked in the garage, the walls are barren, and an air mattress on the den floor serves as bed for the night in the Orlando, Fla., home of Janine Kirchgassner, 45, and Julia Robertson, 43, and their children, Jessica, 6, and Matthew, 4. It's their last day living here, and the moms look tired. They have a right to--it's their second move in three years.
When Virginia passed its law last year, that rendered moot many contracts between gay partners, Barbara Kenny, 66, and Tibby Middleton, 67, knew it was time to leave their home state of more than 35 years.
For years the couple had numerous legal documents protecting them in case of sickness or death, but the law seemed to make many of them useless. "I said, 'Tib, let's go,'" Kenny says.
Associated Press continues to feed the media fantasy that the impeachment proceedings against Clinton are all about his racial policies. AP reporter Michelle Boorstein went out of her way to elicit some of these reponses from "representative" black citizens:
Writer Michelle Boorstein smears Caner thusly:
Most of his books have focused on Islam's "trail of blood," as he calls Islamic history, and when prominent Southern Baptist leaders call Muhammad a "demon-possessed pedophile" angering Muslims worldwide they have cited Caner as their source.
it would be far more helpful when writing about an author, it's often helpful to at least skim through his latest book.
Selling Christian music without selling out
Michelle Boorstein, The Washington Post
Antiabortion Group Plans 'Campus'
by Michelle Boorstein
The Washington Post With its small sign and plain, wood-cabin-style design, the modest Stafford headquarters of the American Life League underplays what lies within: a plan to revolutionize the antiabortion movement.
Call a lawyer...you can appoint anyone you want to be in charge of your affairs. This is all about forcing homosexual marriage down our throats. It is not marriage. In my opinion Homosexual couples should not receive benefits and can do anything they wish in the privacy of their home. Keep your sex life private, it is of no interest to me.
I don't think that the majority of gays are after "marriage" but are after benefits from the government that heterosexuals have. If you are born gay, make a commitment to a partner, why shouldn't they receive these benefits as tax paying citizens?
Translation: A lefty meeting-house with church tax-benefits
The precedent has been set for the State to determine how children will be assigned to parents. By severing the ties of children to their natural parents, this action also lays the groundwork for the State takeover of child-rearing.
The problem isn't generating such a document, the problem is getting it's terms honored.
IMO, the concern is not theoretical, for example immediate family members at odds with designated decision makers appear to me to be in much stronger position given the wording of this law.
In my case, were I not married and lived in a state with this law, and given that I have serious reservations based on prior experience about the capability of my biological relatives to hone my wishes on these matters, I would be very concerned over the possibility of legal challenges to a DPA designating a non-relation as my decision maker.
"My first thought after reading the initial few words was that she had a bad case of penis envy."
No, author annie proulx has that envy.. err I mean her alter ego Jack(ed) Twisted and his(her) 'ennis.
Well, if they are sooooo scared, they can always go hide in the closet...
Conditional medical power of attorney should do the trick in the instance you cited and can be assigned to anyone.
It seems like Barbara and Tibby had an emotional over-reaction to the new law in Virginia that far outweighs any possible effect it might have on them. Because of that over-reaction, they have walked away from what appeared to be a fairly happy and well adjusted life, which is a shame.
Given the description of their lifestyle, I don't think they are going to be happy in the cookie-cutter conformity of exurban Frederick, Maryland. They should have looked at Ellicott City for something similar to what they had known.
Sure, you can legally designate such authority - the problem is getting such designations honored, especially in situations where there is substantial disagreement between "family members" and "designated decision makers".
In such situations its not as though you can just walk into the hospital, waive a signed power of attorney for health care around, and take charge; in such cases especially if your decision is at odds with the judgment of medical professionals or immediate family members - you can find yourself in court attempting to excerpt control you expected would be automatic.
And thats where this law, as written, starts to muddy the waters.
This is not exclusive to homosexuals. If your conflicts with your immediate family are so severe as to warrant you going to court, your already f**d, as I observe from my friend's messy divorce and glean from your own comment about prior experiences. Another example, the schiavo case was elevated by the conflict of immediate family vs. a spouse.
BTW, you must have meant honor, not hone.
So basically, these two aren't Jane and Jean Doe as Mizz Boorstein tries to make them out to be. They're homosexual activists, who have cried "persecution" and let the entire world know how eeeeeeeeevil Virginia is.
Nice catch, kcvl.
This is hardly a new practice -- and properly so, in cases of genuine parental abuse and neglect.
I'm sure that there are plenty of legal sharks out there figuring out how to use the new law to steal.
Thanks. These days you can't tell without a scorecard. They could have easily been PCUSA, Episcopal, or Methodist.
Ultimately, the only solution is to separate marriage and state.
Post of the day!
More baloney from the comPost. Companies still have partner benefits.
And if your personal experience, conscience, and reason should lead you to accept the divinity of Christ, pray the rosary, participate in pro-life protests outside abortion mills, reject homosexuality and preach sexual abstinence outside marriage ... you'll discover that the UUs don't agree that your "final authority in religion" belongs anywhere near their place, and they'll tell you to get the h*ll out of their church ... all in a very tolerant, non-authoritative manner, of course.
They're just as "creedal" as anyone else. Their creed is hedonism, liberalism, and rejection of Christianity.
Thats the truth. I saw a funny joke "Whats the difference between a Jewish friend and Unitarian friend? You Jewish friend will at least send you a Christmas card".
Your loss is our gain.
Homosexuals can't be natural parents. We've now established the precedent of the government assigning children to parents arbitrarily, that is, outside of the natural order. There is now no logical limit as to who, or what, will be allowed to raise children.
They KNOW the readers are stupid. Who else would subscribe to the leader of the Treason Media?