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More Women Not Waiting For Mr. Right
CBS2CHICAGO ^ | 18 May 2006 | CBS2CHICAGO

Posted on 05/21/2006 11:55:33 AM PDT by Extremely Extreme Extremist

(CBS) CHICAGO It's a trend that some fear may have long-term consequences. More unmarried women over the age of 25 are not waiting for Mr. Right.

As CBS 2's Alita Guillen reports, these ladies are having children on their own.

The fantasy father at their fingertips is a sperm donor with all the right stuff.

Katherine Gehl and April Lashbrook had successful careers and dated, but they didn't have husbands. They heard their biological clocks ticking loudly.

"It was like a time bomb," April said.

"I need to go and have a baby and be a mother, and so I did," Katherine said.

Women used to depend on chemistry in the bedroom to conceive a child. Now, more and more women are turning to the lab and depending more on science than sex.

This twist on the mating game begins at a sperm bank, where donors can earn up to $900 a month.

"These guys are college students. This is a form of income," said California Cryobank Medical Director Dr. Cappy Rothman.

The sperm undergoes testing for diseases, genetic defects and blood type.

"Donor sperm, in many ways, is guaranteed good sperm," said Dr. Lauren Streicher, a gynecologist at Northwestern Memorial Hospital.

When April chose her donor in 2003, she got a long profile including a medical history and even written answers to questions.

"I knew immediately that was who I was going to choose," she said.

Now, many banks offer much more, including childhood photos and the donors' voices on CD.

Once chosen, the sperm remains frozen and stored until needed. Then it can be shipped anywhere.

While women can inseminate themselves at home, both April and Katherine used fertility specialists.

Many of these donors have already proven their fertility.

"It's an excellent way of getting pregnant because you usually have men who have confirmed pregnancy," said Dr. Brian Kaplan, a fertility specialist with Fertility Clinics of Illinois.

"We are creating a real potential disaster here," said Elizabeth Marquardt with New York City's Affiliate Scholar Institute for American Values.

Some critics are concerned that as this practice becomes more popular, and that with an unknown number of children from the same donor, that two of them might unknowingly hook up.

"In the future, we will have to have a DNA test with anyone we want to have sex with just to make sure we're not related to them," Marquardt said.

Many sperm banks say they try to limit pregnancies based on geographic area to reduce that risk. However, in a transient society, it may be hard to do.

Critics also worry how this might change the definition of family.

"As a society, we're saying fathers don't matter," Marquardt said.

Thirteen-year-old Liz Herzog, whose father is donor number 1002 from Virginia's Fairfax Cryobank, says she's happy with her life.

"I can't even say that once in a while I wish I had a father, because I don't," she said.

Through the Donor Sibling Registry Web site, she has discovered at least 10 half-sibling and has met seven, including Callie from Pennsylvania.

Liz's mother, Diana, thinks these newly forged relationships will last a lifetime.

"You can only hope that your child will be well-adjusted and happy enough when they grow up that they won't feel that they're missing too much," Diana Herzog said.

April's daughter, Julia, is now almost three years old.

"When she was born, it was just amazing," April said.

Katherine's daughter, Alexandra, is eight months old.

Both are enjoying every moment motherhood has to offer.

"It is so much greater than I had any idea," Katherine said.

April, Julia's mom, knows of six half-siblings so far.

All of the single moms we spoke with think the possibility of meeting and dating a half-sibling is very remote because they are very open or plan to be open with their children.

It is interesting to note that back when sperm banks first opened in the 1970s, it was all married couples seeking sperm donors. Doctors say those couples were more likely to keep it secret.


TOPICS: Business/Economy; Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: birthrate; bravenewworld; children; freeriders; genderwars; harpyreproduction; ivf; marriage; moralabsolutes; paternity; spermbank; swirlingdowndrain
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To: freedumb2003

Not one great smile amongst them.


81 posted on 05/21/2006 12:42:08 PM PDT by skr (We cannot play innocents abroad in a world that is not innocent.-- Ronald Reagan)
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To: marajade

By the fact that there are well over ONE MILLION abortions per year performed in this country.

http://www.nrlc.org/abortion/facts/abortionstats.html


82 posted on 05/21/2006 12:42:25 PM PDT by wagglebee ("We are ready for the greatest achievements in the history of freedom." -- President Bush, 1/20/05)
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To: gidget7

"Without a father, these children have no way of learning what a man is or what to expect out of themselves, (if they are boys) nor what to expect from men (if they are girls)..."

Psychotherapy is a wonderful profession. Life is never perfect.


83 posted on 05/21/2006 12:42:38 PM PDT by sabe@q.com (Yes, I'm a SW freak!)
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To: oceanview
I don't have that big a problem with it either, except to say I wouldn't want to have much to do with these women (and all single/divorced/widowed moms).

Since I'll take a wild stab at it and say most would not want to have much to do with me, 'no harm, no foul).
84 posted on 05/21/2006 12:42:46 PM PDT by HitmanLV ("5 Minute Penalty for #40, Ann Theresa Calvello!" - RIP 1929-2006)
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To: Extremely Extreme Extremist

85 posted on 05/21/2006 12:43:34 PM PDT by Radix (Why do they call them Morons when they don't know so much? Shouldn't they be called Lessons?)
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To: virginiaspook
You can't imagine the negative reaction I get, particularly from other women, when I tell them that choosing a mate is a decision that should be made on a practical basis as well as an emotional one. And the emotional one isn't primary.

I agree. I think that's the reason we have so many dissatisfied couples: there wasn't much attention given to practical matters. Indeed, the practical matters are very important and when ignored, lead to problems.

86 posted on 05/21/2006 12:44:22 PM PDT by HitmanLV ("5 Minute Penalty for #40, Ann Theresa Calvello!" - RIP 1929-2006)
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To: wagglebee

"By the fact that there are well over ONE MILLION abortions per year performed in this country."

And just how does that correlate to women who choose to have children via a test tube?


87 posted on 05/21/2006 12:44:34 PM PDT by sabe@q.com (Yes, I'm a SW freak!)
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To: marajade

Okay, then lets assume none of them have had abortions, what about the embryos that they are allowing to be slaughtered just to feed their desires?


88 posted on 05/21/2006 12:46:24 PM PDT by wagglebee ("We are ready for the greatest achievements in the history of freedom." -- President Bush, 1/20/05)
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To: Extremely Extreme Extremist

Odd that they're now trying to make "sperm donor" a term of praise. It used to be a phrase for deadbeat dads. Those sperm donors really empowered the women they impregnated--empowered them right into poverty and welfare.


89 posted on 05/21/2006 12:46:55 PM PDT by Dumb_Ox (http://kevinjjones.blogspot.com)
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To: marajade
Psychotherapy is a wonderful profession. Life is never perfect.

Agreed...Many of those shrinks could use a lot of it.

90 posted on 05/21/2006 12:47:43 PM PDT by jazusamo (-- Married a WAC in '65 and I'm still reenlisting. :-)
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To: wagglebee

What embryos? These women aren't donating their embryos.


91 posted on 05/21/2006 12:48:12 PM PDT by sabe@q.com (Yes, I'm a SW freak!)
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To: No Blue States; Extremely Extreme Extremist
Thirteen-year-old Liz Herzog, whose father is donor number 1002

OMG!!!

*I'M* donor number 1002!!!

92 posted on 05/21/2006 12:48:40 PM PDT by Lazamataz (If a woman gives birth in Indiana, is she a Hoosier Mama?)
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To: wagglebee

And you turn your nose down to these women who choose to have a child and you give the men who profit from selling their sperm a pass?


93 posted on 05/21/2006 12:49:14 PM PDT by sabe@q.com (Yes, I'm a SW freak!)
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To: marajade

What exactly do you think happens to the "left over" embryos after IVF?


94 posted on 05/21/2006 12:49:26 PM PDT by wagglebee ("We are ready for the greatest achievements in the history of freedom." -- President Bush, 1/20/05)
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To: jazusamo

You aren't Tom Cruise in disguise are you?


95 posted on 05/21/2006 12:49:49 PM PDT by sabe@q.com (Yes, I'm a SW freak!)
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To: Extremely Extreme Extremist
"As a society, we're saying fathers don't matter," Marquardt said.

These sperm donors had better watch out. Some recent court rulings have come down that hold the sperm donor liable for child support!

Hate to see it. The husband-wife relationship was established by God for a very sacred purpose. De-valuing it in this manner can have apocalylptic consequences.

96 posted on 05/21/2006 12:50:11 PM PDT by nightdriver
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To: wagglebee

Let me guess... the women sell them? I don't know and I really don't care. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.


97 posted on 05/21/2006 12:50:54 PM PDT by sabe@q.com (Yes, I'm a SW freak!)
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To: marajade
So why are men selling their semen?

Oh, because some whack-job will buy it.

98 posted on 05/21/2006 12:51:24 PM PDT by demlosers
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To: Lazamataz

"*I'M* donor number 1002!!!"

LOL! Well at least she will have a great sense of humor!


99 posted on 05/21/2006 12:51:41 PM PDT by No Blue States
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To: FlingWingFlyer

These women are not the ones mooching off the taxpayers. These women don't want to wait for "Mr. Right", but they do wait for financial security. The welfare moms don't care about financial self-sufficiency, and they don't use sperm banks -- they just grab guys off the street for a quickie, while still in their teens and without a high school diploma.


100 posted on 05/21/2006 12:51:43 PM PDT by GovernmentShrinker
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