Skip to comments.SELF-ESTEEM MOVEMENT HAS POISONED A GENERATION
Posted on 03/01/2007 7:00:19 AM PST by shortstop
The chickens have come home to roost.
The first generation of students swaddled in the insanity of the self-esteem movement have emerged on the scene as arrogant, self-absorbed twits with an exaggerated sense of entitlement and self-importance.
In short, theyve been spoiled. Potentially, theyve been ruined.
The idiocy of social engineering in the classroom is again bearing catastrophic results.
Heres how we know. A group of five university professors has evaluated more than 16,000 personality profiles of college students gathered over the last 24 years. What theyve discovered is that todays young people have dramatically different self-concepts than the two generations which preceded them.
And the differences arent good.
Todays college students are monumentally more narcissistic. That means they worship themselves. That means theyve been told that theyre special so many times that theyve come to believe it. In blunt terms, they think their crap doesnt stink.
But it does. Possibly more than most.
Because one of the hallmarks of an inflated self-concept is personal failure. People who think they are superior have an uncanny tendency to be inferior. Their sense of worth is so high they have no motivation to work and improve themselves. When you think the world is yours on a silver platter, it never occurs to you that youve got to get off your backside and earn anything.
The study shows that children born after 1982 have a unrealistically inflated self-concepts. So high is their estimation of themselves, in fact, that they are fully narcissistic a trait that is somewhere in the gray area between a character flaw and a personality disorder. Narcissism is such an unhealthy aberration that it is almost a mental illness.
And the self-esteem movement of the 1990s has made it epidemic.
Unfortunately, the education industry has become so divorced from reality that for several years the conventional wisdom in American classrooms has been that children particularly poor and minority children fail to achieve because they have negative self-concepts. The way to correct that, the argument has gone, is to pump up their self-concepts through self-esteem building. That typically translated to unrealistic and unearned praise for students, and the removal of all negative feedback and consequences from the classroom. Thats why grades are artificially high, everybody gets a smiley face and teachers dont use red ink any more.
Schools seem incapable of recognizing that true self-worth comes from doing whats right and from legitimate achievement. Not praise passed out like candy, but genuine achievement coming as the consequence of significant effort. You earn worth, it isnt given out for free.
The lunacy of the education reformers was matched by the leniency of the troubled homes. Mom and dad have forgotten how to be mom and dad. Children were waited on hand and foot with no obligations of their own to work or assist the family. Permissive parenting and failed educating led to a bumper crop of egocentric creeps.
And thats going to hurt.
Because narcissists typically fail. They fail in their responsibility to be good citizens and they fail in their responsibility to be good spouses and parents.
Being a good citizen and being part of a family requires selflessness. They require putting your own interests second to the interests of something larger and more important than yourself. To the narcissist, there is nothing more important than yourself.
That leads to employment and self-reliance difficulties, and to significant challenges to the ability to maintain a marriage and raise a family.
Which bites society hard. Society needs this crop of young adults like every crop of young adults to assume its responsibilities as the taxpayers and the parents of the future. Each rising tide needs to shoulder its burdens and leave its mark. Failure to do that can have huge sociological consequences.
This crop has been weakened in its abilities to bear off those responsibilities by the warped worldview its education and upbringing gave it.
So what can be done?
The self-esteem crap can end. Though it is so entrenched and unquestioned, and protected by political correctness, that it is unlikely to go anywhere.
Young people must learn with the help of others that the world doesnt revolve around them, and that believing it does is the quickest way to a miserable and disappointing life.
The social and religious values of the United States and of decent nations all around the world teach selflessness and service. Those values must be re-enthroned and the self-worship of the narcissism-breeding self-esteem movement must end.
The feminization of America...we're seeing the results everywhere...in academia, in the business world, in government, and most unfortunately, in the military.
So if you're counting on social security to retire on, these are the folks who'll be supplying it.
Our enemies are licking their chops, just waiting for Generation Emo to take over...
And when institutions like education become dysfunctional, people find other paths to success.
"The feminization of America..."
I could not agree with you more!
There has to be a balance, feminine sensiblilities temper masculine drives. Go to either extreme and you have a mess. We've chosen the feminine route. I saw this coming for a long time.
I can't tell you how stupid I thought it was when coaching in Y baseball leagues, (early ages), and they didn't keep score. "We are all winners". Bull! Sure, it made some of the kids happy, the kids that will ultimately end up working for the ones who knew the score and played to win.
On the bright side, a trend that was going on when I was in my late 20s was to fire older workers and replace them with eager kids. Now that I'm nearing 50, that's not an issue. Any business knows it's a mistake to fire a worker with a good skillset and work ethic, to take a chance on what you get with kids today.
I know so many families where the kid (usually there's only one, at the most two, siblings,) is a spoiled and pampered brat. They don't know what the word "chore" is. The parents think it would be child abuse to make their little darlings do anything resembling a "chore." Oftentimes the parents even do the kids' homework for them. Moms will call each other on the phone asking, "Do you know the answer to question 17 on the history homework?" Then the parents whine about how mean and unfair it is that their little darlings have to carry so many books in their backpacks and those horrible teachers give TWO HOURS of homework a night! Why, the poor, overworked little dears.
What's more, the kids rule the roost. No family decision is made without first getting the approval of the little prince or princess. I know 14-year-olds who literally have never made a sandwich or heated up something in a microwave. They are chauffeured everywhere, have never been on a bus, then they get new cars for their 16th birthdays. They are surly and rude to adults, and they always have earphones in their ears.
But their self-esteem is really, really high.
And this will be the undoing of America. A feminized nation doesn't have the strength to stand against patriarchial societies like China, Russia, Islam, etc.
In short, unless this is reversed... we're destined to speak 'french'.
narcissism bump for later.........
Orthodox Christians know that self-esteem is a vice. Indeed it is one of the eight grevious vices catalogued by St. John Cassian (the other seven are familar to Western Christians as 'the seven deadly sins'). Some Greek Fathers, like the Latin, don't separate it out from pride, as the following apothegem from the Desert Father shows:
One of the Fathers said, "only perfect humility or perfect pride will allow one to ignore the opinions of men."
The 'self-esteem' movement tries (alas it still continues) to prevent children from yielding to peer pressure by inculcating perfect pride, rather than perfect humility. Not the demonic pride of setting oneself against God, but self-esteem, regarding oneself as better than others, not subject to criticism or correction.
In connection with that saying, the Father told of a monk who bore insults with complete equanimity, but when asked how, replied, "it is the barking of dogs."
Self-esteem creates disobedient monks, uneducable students, and bad citizens.
Pizza party and trophys for all! Most improved, cleanest uniform, best after game snacks, shortest throw, etc. etc.
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Go figure... the Me Generation has raised the MeMeMe Generations. It just immanentizes the eschaton so what the heck.
But here's the worst thing about that kind of feel good education in young children. They experience that in school, but then when viewing what goes on in the real world, it has to be so confusing. Everything from sporting events to American Idol...only one wins and they are celebrated like Gods. I can't even imagine what young kids have to go through these days. We're seeing it in teenagers. The craziness, the depression. They're not self-assured...they're depressed and confused. And we did it to them.
It's kinda like having a car that is really a pile of junk, but you paint it up to look really nice and expect a good ride.
School Honors programs... husband leaned over and asked me if it just wouldn't be simpler to call out the names of anyone who DIDN'T get an award ;}
Hence the lawsuit explosion. I couldn't possibly have done something wrong, it's somebody else's fault.
I have noticed my own son suffering from this and he is only 7. We would play a game of basketball in his room (with a really small hoop and ball) and if he fails he would go into a crying tizzy and say that me making his move further back hurts his feelings and he can't make any shots.
I try to tell him that to become more successful at basketball and everything in life is to practice. Practice in failure and practice in success and eventually, failure wont happen as much as success.
At only 7, its a difficult concept for him especially with todays public schools (and our school is a really good public school but is still infected with this self-esteem social engineering issue).
I hope to work with him again tonight and for as long as it takes that failure is a building block to success. You cannot succeed in life without learning how to deal with failures.
Basically, my kid needs to practice failing and how to deal with it. Wish me luck.
IMHO this is a big reason for the epidemic of shootings also.
In previous years a schoolyard fight resulted with one winning and the other losing, sulking home. A few days later the loser was admitted back into the circle.
Today the loser cannot accept the result because he has been indoctrinated to believe that he has to be the winner. That his stance trumps all.
So he goes home gets a gun and enforces his righful place on top.
Wasn't talking about narcissists...
"I hope to work with him again tonight and for as long as it takes that failure is a building block to success. You cannot succeed in life without learning how to deal with failures.
Basically, my kid needs to practice failing and how to deal with it. Wish me luck."
You love him, and are aware. You fellas will do just fine :)
And so does every Marxist and tyrant on Earth. Ask the Chinese government about the importance of their subjects practicing selflessness.
Why must Right and Left alike confuse genuine, healthly self-esteem and self-love with unhealthy, ego-based self-indulgence? They aren't the same thing at all, but neither side seems to get it - Lonsberry is as far off-base as the Leftist educators he is criticizing.
As do Catholic, although as you note we see it as a species of Pride.
I find it interesting that much evil in modernity is associated with this vice: The self-esteem thing, "Gay Pride", various forms of "Racial" Pride, etc.
The emphasis on group projects in schools prevents kids from learning what their strengths and weaknesses are, too. Kids learn to pick a partner who will do the work for the group.
I prefer the word vanity to pride. Maybe pride was a translation error and it should have been vanity. Being proud of doing a job well done is not a sin. Being vain is. Envy is closely coupled with vanity. Envy is the origin of most of the evil in the world. But with pride there is no envy.
Good Self-esteem is understanding you are a worthy person and wont let anyone downsize you as not because you believe in yourself to accomplish the goals you set for yourself.
Kids today dont have good self-esteem. They are self-centered buttholes who expect the world to hand them success without working for it. Goals arent things for them to accomplish, its things that should be granted to them.
I do very much so and thanks for the vote of confidence. :)
Well, they know better, and they know what happens at school is gay. It probably only makes things worse though, because it makes them think they're smarter than their teachers, administrators, coaches, etc. Which they just might be.
I just watched the Southpark episode where the teacher got a sex change operation and then was furious to find out he couldn't get pregnant. Then Kyle's father gets a dolphinoplasty to become a dolphin. Then Kyle gets a negroplasty to become a tall black kid so he can make the basketball team (the coach has previously told him jews can't play basketball.) They find out that the dolphin dad can't swim, and the kid can't play basketball without his knees exploding. It's all appearances. It doesn't change the reality.
And when we get to the retirement home, they'll make GREAT caretakers. Oy vay......
I think lots of young adults/teenagers are self absorbed but some of your examples are bad.
First, kids never being on a bus. There is no way I would let my kids ride these days. We live in San Jose, California, and it is way too dangerous for them to ride on a bus. When they were little, their school district had bus service from near our house to school. My kids rode that bus. However, then the district changed it so the bus stop was over a mile away and the pick up time was 2 1/2 hours before school (6:30am). My kids were 6 & 8 at the time, and the school was only 3 1/2 miles away. I preferred us waking up at 7:30 and me driving them to school.
Two hours of homework for little kids is too much school work! Maybe in high school, 2 hours is okay but not 2 hours for elementary school kids. (I never had more than 1 hour of homework until high school back in the 70s.)
As far as backpacks go, lots of kids are having problems with heavy packpacks. My niece severely injurred her back when she was in high school. (I never had to carry so many books to and from school.)
I think kids never going to Church/Synagogue has a lot to do with their self-esteem problems. If kids know that they are sinful, and they know that God is greater than themselves, then it helps them to have a better perspective.
Parents are also self-absorbed these days and send kids to daycare all day long. Parents then can't role model good behavior. Simple things like making cookies for the new neighbor or helping a sick friend.
" There are many of us who are trying to make a difference in a broken system. "
Thank you! I believe that taking back the education system, or at the very least providing strong alternatives, is something we must do if we are going to right this ship. Thank you for holding the fort in your classroom everyday, proving to your students that there is another side to every story, and that they will be better off if they learn to look for it, and then decide for themselves.
I think we're talking about YOUR kids, Spikey.
l have two Granddaughters who are exactly what you wrote about.My Daughter has kept them in a cocoon.The older girl is in University and has never been on a city bus.lt isn't safe for her to travel anywhere alone.The girls have never done a chore.Even putting their clothes away after Mom has done the laundry is just too much for them.l don't know how they will ever be able to take care of themselves.Another thing, they have never been critized.l can't ever imagine either of them in the workforce.The first negative thing spoken to them will have them in tears.l get so frustrated with my Daughter but there is nothing l can do.The damage began when the girls were young children .
You're doing the RIGHT thing....good luck. Your son will be much stronger in life because of it!
My friend called the school and asked them why they assigned the kids homework that they couldn't possibly do without help of their parent. The answer was "we think it fosters quality time between parent and child." She answered that the time she spent helping her child with her schoolwork was NOT quality time, it was tense, frustrated time, and besides how DARE they try to manipulate her and run her life through her child! Didn't do any good.
Ha....I taught my grandson how to play ping pong....he started when he was about 4.....he got REALLY good and could almost beat me by the time he was 10....and I'm VERY good for a "girl"......I NEVER let him win.....I told him I was his COACH! I know I helped him, considering his mother and her child raising ways (My DIL - long story).