Skip to comments.SELF-ESTEEM MOVEMENT HAS POISONED A GENERATION
Posted on 03/01/2007 7:00:19 AM PST by shortstop
The chickens have come home to roost.
The first generation of students swaddled in the insanity of the self-esteem movement have emerged on the scene as arrogant, self-absorbed twits with an exaggerated sense of entitlement and self-importance.
In short, theyve been spoiled. Potentially, theyve been ruined.
The idiocy of social engineering in the classroom is again bearing catastrophic results.
Heres how we know. A group of five university professors has evaluated more than 16,000 personality profiles of college students gathered over the last 24 years. What theyve discovered is that todays young people have dramatically different self-concepts than the two generations which preceded them.
And the differences arent good.
Todays college students are monumentally more narcissistic. That means they worship themselves. That means theyve been told that theyre special so many times that theyve come to believe it. In blunt terms, they think their crap doesnt stink.
But it does. Possibly more than most.
Because one of the hallmarks of an inflated self-concept is personal failure. People who think they are superior have an uncanny tendency to be inferior. Their sense of worth is so high they have no motivation to work and improve themselves. When you think the world is yours on a silver platter, it never occurs to you that youve got to get off your backside and earn anything.
The study shows that children born after 1982 have a unrealistically inflated self-concepts. So high is their estimation of themselves, in fact, that they are fully narcissistic a trait that is somewhere in the gray area between a character flaw and a personality disorder. Narcissism is such an unhealthy aberration that it is almost a mental illness.
And the self-esteem movement of the 1990s has made it epidemic.
Unfortunately, the education industry has become so divorced from reality that for several years the conventional wisdom in American classrooms has been that children particularly poor and minority children fail to achieve because they have negative self-concepts. The way to correct that, the argument has gone, is to pump up their self-concepts through self-esteem building. That typically translated to unrealistic and unearned praise for students, and the removal of all negative feedback and consequences from the classroom. Thats why grades are artificially high, everybody gets a smiley face and teachers dont use red ink any more.
Schools seem incapable of recognizing that true self-worth comes from doing whats right and from legitimate achievement. Not praise passed out like candy, but genuine achievement coming as the consequence of significant effort. You earn worth, it isnt given out for free.
The lunacy of the education reformers was matched by the leniency of the troubled homes. Mom and dad have forgotten how to be mom and dad. Children were waited on hand and foot with no obligations of their own to work or assist the family. Permissive parenting and failed educating led to a bumper crop of egocentric creeps.
And thats going to hurt.
Because narcissists typically fail. They fail in their responsibility to be good citizens and they fail in their responsibility to be good spouses and parents.
Being a good citizen and being part of a family requires selflessness. They require putting your own interests second to the interests of something larger and more important than yourself. To the narcissist, there is nothing more important than yourself.
That leads to employment and self-reliance difficulties, and to significant challenges to the ability to maintain a marriage and raise a family.
Which bites society hard. Society needs this crop of young adults like every crop of young adults to assume its responsibilities as the taxpayers and the parents of the future. Each rising tide needs to shoulder its burdens and leave its mark. Failure to do that can have huge sociological consequences.
This crop has been weakened in its abilities to bear off those responsibilities by the warped worldview its education and upbringing gave it.
So what can be done?
The self-esteem crap can end. Though it is so entrenched and unquestioned, and protected by political correctness, that it is unlikely to go anywhere.
Young people must learn with the help of others that the world doesnt revolve around them, and that believing it does is the quickest way to a miserable and disappointing life.
The social and religious values of the United States and of decent nations all around the world teach selflessness and service. Those values must be re-enthroned and the self-worship of the narcissism-breeding self-esteem movement must end.
I have noticed my own son suffering from this and he is only 7. We would play a game of basketball in his room (with a really small hoop and ball) and if he fails he would go into a crying tizzy and say that me making his move further back hurts his feelings and he can't make any shots.
I try to tell him that to become more successful at basketball and everything in life is to practice. Practice in failure and practice in success and eventually, failure wont happen as much as success.
At only 7, its a difficult concept for him especially with todays public schools (and our school is a really good public school but is still infected with this self-esteem social engineering issue).
I hope to work with him again tonight and for as long as it takes that failure is a building block to success. You cannot succeed in life without learning how to deal with failures.
Basically, my kid needs to practice failing and how to deal with it. Wish me luck.
IMHO this is a big reason for the epidemic of shootings also.
In previous years a schoolyard fight resulted with one winning and the other losing, sulking home. A few days later the loser was admitted back into the circle.
Today the loser cannot accept the result because he has been indoctrinated to believe that he has to be the winner. That his stance trumps all.
So he goes home gets a gun and enforces his righful place on top.
Wasn't talking about narcissists...
"I hope to work with him again tonight and for as long as it takes that failure is a building block to success. You cannot succeed in life without learning how to deal with failures.
Basically, my kid needs to practice failing and how to deal with it. Wish me luck."
You love him, and are aware. You fellas will do just fine :)
And so does every Marxist and tyrant on Earth. Ask the Chinese government about the importance of their subjects practicing selflessness.
Why must Right and Left alike confuse genuine, healthly self-esteem and self-love with unhealthy, ego-based self-indulgence? They aren't the same thing at all, but neither side seems to get it - Lonsberry is as far off-base as the Leftist educators he is criticizing.
As do Catholic, although as you note we see it as a species of Pride.
I find it interesting that much evil in modernity is associated with this vice: The self-esteem thing, "Gay Pride", various forms of "Racial" Pride, etc.
The emphasis on group projects in schools prevents kids from learning what their strengths and weaknesses are, too. Kids learn to pick a partner who will do the work for the group.
I prefer the word vanity to pride. Maybe pride was a translation error and it should have been vanity. Being proud of doing a job well done is not a sin. Being vain is. Envy is closely coupled with vanity. Envy is the origin of most of the evil in the world. But with pride there is no envy.
Good Self-esteem is understanding you are a worthy person and wont let anyone downsize you as not because you believe in yourself to accomplish the goals you set for yourself.
Kids today dont have good self-esteem. They are self-centered buttholes who expect the world to hand them success without working for it. Goals arent things for them to accomplish, its things that should be granted to them.
I do very much so and thanks for the vote of confidence. :)
Well, they know better, and they know what happens at school is gay. It probably only makes things worse though, because it makes them think they're smarter than their teachers, administrators, coaches, etc. Which they just might be.
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