Skip to comments.SELF-ESTEEM MOVEMENT HAS POISONED A GENERATION
Posted on 03/01/2007 7:00:19 AM PST by shortstop
The chickens have come home to roost.
The first generation of students swaddled in the insanity of the self-esteem movement have emerged on the scene as arrogant, self-absorbed twits with an exaggerated sense of entitlement and self-importance.
In short, theyve been spoiled. Potentially, theyve been ruined.
The idiocy of social engineering in the classroom is again bearing catastrophic results.
Heres how we know. A group of five university professors has evaluated more than 16,000 personality profiles of college students gathered over the last 24 years. What theyve discovered is that todays young people have dramatically different self-concepts than the two generations which preceded them.
And the differences arent good.
Todays college students are monumentally more narcissistic. That means they worship themselves. That means theyve been told that theyre special so many times that theyve come to believe it. In blunt terms, they think their crap doesnt stink.
But it does. Possibly more than most.
Because one of the hallmarks of an inflated self-concept is personal failure. People who think they are superior have an uncanny tendency to be inferior. Their sense of worth is so high they have no motivation to work and improve themselves. When you think the world is yours on a silver platter, it never occurs to you that youve got to get off your backside and earn anything.
The study shows that children born after 1982 have a unrealistically inflated self-concepts. So high is their estimation of themselves, in fact, that they are fully narcissistic a trait that is somewhere in the gray area between a character flaw and a personality disorder. Narcissism is such an unhealthy aberration that it is almost a mental illness.
And the self-esteem movement of the 1990s has made it epidemic.
Unfortunately, the education industry has become so divorced from reality that for several years the conventional wisdom in American classrooms has been that children particularly poor and minority children fail to achieve because they have negative self-concepts. The way to correct that, the argument has gone, is to pump up their self-concepts through self-esteem building. That typically translated to unrealistic and unearned praise for students, and the removal of all negative feedback and consequences from the classroom. Thats why grades are artificially high, everybody gets a smiley face and teachers dont use red ink any more.
Schools seem incapable of recognizing that true self-worth comes from doing whats right and from legitimate achievement. Not praise passed out like candy, but genuine achievement coming as the consequence of significant effort. You earn worth, it isnt given out for free.
The lunacy of the education reformers was matched by the leniency of the troubled homes. Mom and dad have forgotten how to be mom and dad. Children were waited on hand and foot with no obligations of their own to work or assist the family. Permissive parenting and failed educating led to a bumper crop of egocentric creeps.
And thats going to hurt.
Because narcissists typically fail. They fail in their responsibility to be good citizens and they fail in their responsibility to be good spouses and parents.
Being a good citizen and being part of a family requires selflessness. They require putting your own interests second to the interests of something larger and more important than yourself. To the narcissist, there is nothing more important than yourself.
That leads to employment and self-reliance difficulties, and to significant challenges to the ability to maintain a marriage and raise a family.
Which bites society hard. Society needs this crop of young adults like every crop of young adults to assume its responsibilities as the taxpayers and the parents of the future. Each rising tide needs to shoulder its burdens and leave its mark. Failure to do that can have huge sociological consequences.
This crop has been weakened in its abilities to bear off those responsibilities by the warped worldview its education and upbringing gave it.
So what can be done?
The self-esteem crap can end. Though it is so entrenched and unquestioned, and protected by political correctness, that it is unlikely to go anywhere.
Young people must learn with the help of others that the world doesnt revolve around them, and that believing it does is the quickest way to a miserable and disappointing life.
The social and religious values of the United States and of decent nations all around the world teach selflessness and service. Those values must be re-enthroned and the self-worship of the narcissism-breeding self-esteem movement must end.
If I'm not mistaken, narcissism is a mental disorder mentioned in the DSM IV. Besides narcissism, our society is breeding sociopaths like flies.
Yeah, but we didn't make your music suck so bad.
Before we all dump on and write off this generation (of which I am not a part) we need to remember our airmen, sailors, soldiers and marines leaning into our enemies as we speak.
I am willing to bet they do not suffer from an over inflated sense of self and lack of humility. They are the next generation of leaders. The rest will be mugged by reality at some point. The USA isnt finished by a long shot.
Actually this generation is better than mine in many respects, I dont see massive student participation in anti-war rallies. Its the blue hairs from the sixties.
Schools and it's minions are not to be argued or trifled with. I teach my children that in general those institutions are full of morons. That they should do only what is required of them by the morons. You should take your childrens minds to a higher ground, and teach them what the intended purposes of schools are and what the reality is. Schools and it's employees can control everything but the free will of your child to choose. The real teaching should be done by you - and that is teaching the child to learn on his own, reading books about history, getting them into Computer programming, mathematical tutoring. Your kid can learn more quickly and more adeptly if he knows this. This idea of one size fits all learning and cramming kids through a broken system with moron mentors is complete buffoonery.
There's alot of good ones in your generation too. I know quite a few of them and some have their heads on straighter than I did at that age, and I was a pretty serious person.
I'm on that right now. I've been discussing critical thinking with my son. We've been discussing how if man causes "Global Warming" or "Climate Change", how does one explain 7-8 recorded climatical changes, and potentially more that have occured from 3,000BC through today?
What caused Egypt to turn from a garden paradise to a desert wasteland? What made the dark ages dark? How do we account for said climate changes as recorded and retrieved from polar ice samples without industrialization? How does one account for climatical changes on Mars? Does the sun have seasons like the Earth or is it always hot? If not, is the sun consistent throughout it's existence or does it live and die like any other star? Can solar changes impact the Earth? And so on...
He's been able to effectively end conversations with similar questions. The mindless brain-washed who forward such notions don't debate at this age, but they don't continue after being embarrased, either.
The idea that youth cannot be allowed to fail (lest the psyche be bruised forever) means that the first perceived failure will probably come too late to teach the right lessons.
Good points and I am going to give them to my daughter. Since we are both doing the same thing let me know if you find anymore info and I will do the same. Rush has some great stuff on his website also.
One other thing I got from the article and the author did not mention, is that the educators - instead of blaming themselves for why children were not doing well - placed the emphasis on the student. I got a lesson in self-esteem in my senior year of high school. For government class, we were required to do a report on the local elections. Pick a candidate, write a report on him, and so on. One of the few papers I handed in on the assigned day. Only two people in the class got an A. The class brain and myself. I felt good. Nothing makes you feel better than earning the grade, putting in the winning shot, winning the game, etc. But first and foremost, you have to know you earned it and was not given the grade.
No, we let our schools and our townships do it to them. On the other hand, some of us didn't allow it to happen to our kids.
I don't think I've ever read or heard a better treatise on this subject.
You are right. After all, it is mostly "Generation X" that is doing all the selfless fighting and dying in Iraq right now. I am a boomer and, on reflection, we are as bad or worse. The Vietnam War protests were not really about war but about the inconvenience of being drafted.
My twin daughters are in the 4th grade in school in California. Every 4th grader (even in the private schools) has to do a mission project. I hate the thing. It cannot be done alone.
My daughters built missions. A few years back, my son made a video tape of one.
I don't know that it really taught my daughters that much. I actually think the field trips to the mission teaches much more than the project.
I like projects that are simple and kids can do all by themselves. I also think most should be done in school.
I think the main homework should be reading. Hopefully, a parent will have time to spend reading with their child. (I don't always have time to spend reading with my 3 kids, so I think this is also difficult.)
The unintended consequences of abolishing the draft in 1973 are still being felt today.
Even the men who tried to avoid military service learned real life lessons in survival.
Notions of duty, teamwork and patriotism are slowly being nudged aside by the generations described here.
Events like 9/11 have a unifying effect on our nation, but there's nothing like a couple of years in the army to make you see past your own immediate needs.
That said, today's military is superior to the one I served in way back when.
My 12 year old has easily seen through junk taught to him (or mentioned by other students). In elementary school, there were a bunch of kids worried about cutting down trees because of an edangered owl.
My son thought they were crazy because you need wood to build houses, make paper, etc. He knew these kids used all of these products, but they didn't want to cut down the trees.
He says there are a lot of kids that are against the war. He says they can't tell you why except that all wars are bad. My son knows that's crazy because he loves military history. He's very into Roman history.
What does that mean?
We have a 6-year-old neighbor girl who likes to roam the neighborhood looking for someone to give her attention, which usually involves coming over to our yard and bugging us when we are busy with chores.
One day she was roaming around with a skippy-do thing. She was skipping it around the circle while our next-door neighbor cheered and clapped, "Way to go Brittney! Good job!" I wanted to barf. The girl was so drunk off the attention that she immediately ran over into our yard calling my husband's name, figuring she could do it for him and get another mega-dose of attention. I gave him a look, and he just kept working and told her we were busy.
Yes, kids need to learn that they are not the center of the universe. And the sooner, the better.
At least some of these studies have been very well done, and the results are overwhelmingly statistically significant.
I prefer the word vanity to pride. Maybe pride was a translation error and it should have been vanity. Being proud of doing a job well done is not a sin. Being vain is. Envy is closely coupled with vanity. Envy is the origin of most of the evil in the world. But with pride there is no envy.
Extremely well stated!
Moral Absolutes list?
I read FR last night and now I'm sneaking back on...maybe I'll somehow or other take time by the throat and manage to do some pinging soon!
When I said "WE" I obviously meant society. We allowed schools to do this, did we not?
My 12 year old son and I were talking on the way to taking him to school. He had to go to an awards ceremony for kids with good grades, and he had to miss PE. They are playing some game that I have never heard of (speed ball), and he said that while he and 2 other kids were at the awards ceremony the rest of his team just let the other team win.
My son said that there are only 3 kids on his team that actually work and then he realized they were also the kids with good grades.
My son is not athletic, but he does try. I asked him when he feels better when he loses and doesn't try or when he tries his best and still loses. He said he would rather try his best and lose because then there was nothing else he could do to win.
This year he is really realizing that hard work pays off. I hope he keeps this attitude.
Being proud of a job well done may be a sin, albeit more subtlely than coarse vanity, if one imagines one's work is not dependent on God.
The monk who sneered at the insults of others as the 'barking of dogs' was not envious of the 'dogs', but was most assuredly mired in the sin of self-esteem (or pride if you prefer the coarser taxonomy of sins).
Your humble (or not so humble) correspondent can assure you from experience that one can fall into pride and self-esteem without a trace of envy. Envy is the sin that shows up least often in my confessions, while pride, self-esteem, and the wrath that flows from them, turn up with dismaying frequency.
Reality will either bite these people and they will wake up, or it will destroy them. Often, it destroys them.
>Our enemies are licking their chops, just waiting for
Generation Emo to take over...<
You are so right about that, and, tragically, it's all going according to plan.
The generation of Britney Spears, Eminem, and Paris Hilton is "more narcissistic" than that of Barbara Streisand and Bill Clinton? What about the self-absorbed Baby Boomer professors engineered for instant gratification by Dr. Spock and now running this circus? Isn't this just a more severe form of the same social engineering process at work?
Guess is should be spelled 'imminentize." Helps the end of time come sooner.
The study asserts that narcissists "are more likely to have romantic relationships that are short-lived, at risk for infidelity, lack emotional warmth, and to exhibit game-playing, dishonesty, and over-controlling and violent behaviors."
They found this only among the students???
We have gates up in our house to keep my nine month old daughter out of danger. My two and half year old toddler, who is quite capable of climbing them, tried telling me he couldn't. It did not take him long to realize if he wanted over, he was needed to climb over. He did. Good boy.
Just a product of liberalism controlling education. What does anyone expect would be the outcome? Good does not have to be good, just so you think it is.
"Is that all there is to a fire?"
I take no responsibility for rap music! I was country when country wasn't cool.
"Not all narcissists act "French" and run for the hills. Hitler was a narcissist, and probably so was Sadam Hussein.
No matter what their temperment, narcissists are usually trouble."
I would add the Klintons to the list. Almost textbook.
But the real world is full of beer bongs and body shots! That's not particularly sobering.