Skip to comments.Can anyone please recommend some Child-rearing books?
Posted on 04/27/2007 2:13:45 PM PDT by solon_where_r_u
I am in the middle of a divorce and have a one-year old son whom I plan on raising as well as I can in the time I can spend with him. To this end, if anyone can recommend some character-centered child rearing books, I would be very grateful. Thanks..
If you want to raise your son well, get sole physical custody if at all possible.
Dr. James Dobson, from Focus on the Family, has some very good books for raising kids and family life in general
Dr. James Dobson has a great book “Bringing up Boys.” I highly recommend it.
Start with the Bible. ‘Bringing Up Boys’ and ‘Love Must Be Tough’ by Dr. James Dobson are also good resources. They Way They Learn and Every Child Can Succeed by Cynthia Ulrich Tobias.
Child Rearing for Dummies
Good fun through and through and will keep them coming back for more.
In my own experience, with three daughters, books don’t really help. But What To Expect The First Year has good info on the basics of child-rearing. My own advice? Read, read, read with your child. Even at this young age. Get your child to love books. My kids and I still read together every night. My youngest two are 7 and 9 (next week). It helps with everything.
But this is the most important part. My 17 year old daughter and I talk every day about books. I will read the books I buy for her, and we discuss them, even the silly ones with dumb plots, and it opens up all kind of avenues of discussion. It really does. Everything. And I truly believe that we are as close as we are because I always read with her. But the bottom line is, in my house, reading leads to talking, and when it comes to when they get older, getting them to talk to you is everything.
‘A Fine Young Man’ by Michael Gurian.
A secular book that I would recommend would be "Beyond Positive Thinking" by Dr. Robert Anthony. It is not about child rearing specifically but helps the reader to understand his or herself and how he or she thinks. It's a fantastic book! I wish I had read this before my kids were born. It could have helped a lot.
When he’s old enough, Harry Potter books.
“Bringing Up Boys,” by Dr. James Dobson is also a very good book for any parent of sons.
Also, Successful Single Parenting by Gary Richmond.
Wishing you and your son the best. God bless you.
Never mind, I was thinking for him, not you!
Bringing Up Boys
by James Dobson
It is vital, even though he will not be with you all the time, that you remain a positive influence on him always and that, even though you are divorced you show him that you are Man enough to still respect his Mother ans see the importance of her in his life as well. Good Luck.
The what to expect series of books have been invaluable with my 1 and 3 year olds. Some very good insight into developmental milestones and understanding what’s going on during the key early years. And a nice reference for when the “mechanicals” aren’t running too smoothly. When to call the doctor, when to keep an eye on things and when to relax.
Babycenter.com also has a weekly email that you can sign up for that will tell you what to look for - “your baby at 14 months” type stuff.
“Help! There’s A Liberal Under My Bed.”
LOL, I just realized I said books don’t help and then told you to read. I meant that child-rearing books never really helped me.
To read with your baby, start with Guess How Much I Love You by Sam McBratney (it comes in a board book version so your baby can eat it, too ;-) ) and I’ll Love You Forever by Robert Munsch.
To Train Up a Child
By Michael Pearl
Thanks, but no thanks.
Most certainly not..
Children’s Books Gift Package
Parenthood By Proxy
Stupid Things Parents Do To Mess Up Their Kids
Dr Laura recommends books
Dare to Discipline, by Dobson.
Reading with kids is one of those lost parenting skills that really makes a world of difference. My 3yo and I read and talk about pictures in catalogs, magazines (home and garden and wildlife), kids books of course and really anything we can get our hands on.
The only odd moment we’ve had as a result was when his eyes were opened to something we weren’t aware he noticed. “I didn’t know they made dog shaped topiaries...” New worlds have opened up through reading, that’s for sure.
( I loved em,after I could read of course)
“Dare to Discipline,” James Dobson.
When you have to say no, explain why.
If you are Christian pray with him and teach him the love of God, why and how Christ died on the cross for our sins,prepared a place in Heaven for His children.
The love for your son will lead you to be the best Dad you can be.
May God Bless you and your precious son.
I haven't read that one. But this review of To Train Up a Child from Amazon.Com really concerns me.
Is this really what the book teaches?
In their book the Pearls advocate pulling an infant's hair, "thumping" a toddler and a daily routine of whipping infants, toddlers and preschoolers to teach them to be submissive. They encourage parents to whip their children 10 times several times a day starting at 3 months old.If so, I must strongly disagree with your choice.
And unlike Dr. Spock, W. Cleon Skousen actually raised kids, including a bunch who weren't his own.
The “Teaching Your Children” books by Richard and Linda Eyre:
Teaching Your Children Values
Teaching Your Children Responsibility
Teaching Your Children Joy
Teaching Your Children Sensitivity
(they’ve written a bunch of other books too, but these are the only ones I’m familiar with)
They also have a website, though it’s mostly oriented to selling you their various programs. http://www.valuesparenting.com/
They’re LDS, but nothing in the books is specific to their religion.
I don’t recall whether those precise details are accurate, but I tossed “To Train Up a Child” in the trashcan rather than inflict it on the unfortunate child of someone who found it at the library’s rummage sale.
Dunno, but I have friend with four boys who swears by it. Probably more of a “spare the rod, spoil the child” book.
That was the first book that came to mind!
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Giving the Love that Heals a Guide for Parents, by Dr. Harville Hendricks
This book will help you to heal the wounds to this little soul. And unless he father is a threat him, by all mens encourage him to love his dad and to have a good relationship with him.
Dr. Hendricks is also a minister as is his wife.
My son found the “Captain Underpants” series fairly stimulating.
Good luck! I like John Rosemund’s books. Very sensible.