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Posted on 12/09/2008 7:32:38 PM PST by dayglored
SAN DIEGO - A Korean immigrant who lost his wife, two children and mother-in-law when a Marine Corps jet slammed into the family's house said Tuesday he did not blame the pilot, who ejected and survived.
"Please pray for him not to suffer from this accident," a distraught Dong Yun Yoon told reporters gathered near the site of Monday's crash of an F/A-18D jet in San Diego's University City community.
"He is one of our treasures for the country," Yoon said in accented English punctuated by long pauses while he tried to maintain his composure.
"I don't blame him. I don't have any hard feelings. I know he did everything he could," said Yoon, flanked by members of San Diego's Korean community, relatives and members from the family's church.
Authorities said four people died when the jet crashed into the Yoon family's house...
Yoon named the victims as his infant daughter Rachel, who was born less than two months ago; his 15-month-old daughter Grace; his wife, Young Mi Yoon, 36; and her 60-year-old mother, Suk Im Kim, who he said had come to the United States from Korea recently to help take care of the children.
Fighting back tears, he said of his daughters: "I cannot believe that they are not here right now... I know there are many people who have experienced more terrible things," Yoon said. "But, please, tell me how to do it. I don't know what to do."
(Excerpt) Read more at cnn.com ...
My sincere prayers for Dong Yun Yoon. May our almighty Father grant him the peace, grace, and mercy that he himself prays for the pilot of the plane.
What a beautiful act of grace and mercy on his part. We should all be so blessed to follow his example.
Talked with some first responders who were at the crash site. Pilot was doing traps on the Lincoln when he lost an engine. He diverted to Miramar - performance probably still well within the aircraft’s operational envelope, even with one engine - when he lost the second engine on approach. Mechanical failure, bird strike, who knows? Too low - not enough time - made the only decision he probably could make.
I’ve known a number of Navy pilots - got to fly with a few of them. I would say that, to the man, in a similar situation they would ride the rock down if they thought it would save souls on the ground. This pilot is probably no different - and he’ll be second guessing himself for the rest of his life.
Prayers for all concerned.
I found the email address for Mr. Yoon’s pastor on his church’s web site. I sent the pastor a note and asked him to let Mr. Yoon know that many people across the country are praying for him. If others want to do the same, the Minister’s name is Rev Shin and can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
It's hard for me to see good outcomes in tragedies like this; I'm a believer but also a fatalist in that tragic things just seem to happen for no apparent reason, being in the wrong place at the wrong time, no point in second-guessing what could have been.
I present to you a treasure our nation is honored to possess.
May He bless Mr. Yoon and care for his loved ones. We pray for Mr. Yoon and the injured pilot that they may both continue to inspire the rest of us.
I wish we had an address of some sort to send him a card or something. God grant and surround him with strength and peace...GOD BLESS HIM!
Excellent article, thanks! Lots more about the family, and more truly touching quotes from this fine man.
After this death of his mother-in-law, he mentions that his father-in-law is coming to visit, and says "I don't know if he'll ever forgive me." As though he is somehow responsible for this -- and yet you know he will apologize for something that is not only not his fault, but that caused him immeasurable suffering. Amazing...
Prayers for this fine man and for the pilot. I can’t imagine the crushing grief that this father must feel.
See above, comment #103 for the email of his pastor email@example.com.
I'd say Mr. Yoon has got it just about right.
I for one, and I'm sure most here, consider it an honor that he chose our nation for his home.
May Bod bless him and his family.
I was doing OK until I followed the links and watched the video. Video is so much more emotional than the printed word. I pray that God will give this godly man the strength to deal with his loss. Being a Christian, he has the assurance that he will see his loved ones again. That helps.
Prayers for Yoon, his family, and the pilot.
He’s a better man than I am. Much better. I’d probably be huddled with the lawyers right now if that happened to me.
If anyone knows this man’s email would be happy to let him know how my husband and I have survived the loss of our son....who died in June...jeremyearnshaw.com
Yes, he is. Prayers for this man.
We can never know what we'll do in a situation, until we're in it...
I am sure that this man's faith in God, and love of America, combined with his own integrity and grace, contributed to his ability to deal so well with this so far.
Do not shortchange yourself. God grants us amazing powers to deal with tragedy and adversity, if only we are willing to accept those powers in the times we most need them.
We can always call the lawyers later. ;-)
“When I read his comment about his daughters, I broke down and wept — my own daughter is far away, and I have not been able to give her a hug in a long while. Tonight it is all I want to do.
This is so sad. God grant Mr. Yoon peace of mind and strength.”
Call her and just tell her that you love her.
See comment #103 above for the man's pastor's email. That's all I've seen so far.
What an example. So very sad. Prays for the family, friends and pilot.
Oops, hit "post" too soon....
My sympathy goes to you and your husband on the loss of your son, and I offer a prayer for peace of mind on your behalf.
That's a really great website about Jeremy. Clearly a fine young man. Blessings to you all.
Dear Lord, be with this dear man in his time of grief.
Also, please be with that pilot, as he's really going to need your help right now...
I pray that this young man doesn't soon regret his mercy.
You read my mind... I opened up Skype (we chat every few nights) and am waiting for her to appear (she's 5 hours to the west of me). You can bet she'll know her Dad loves her tonight... She enjoys FR, and I plan to give her a link to this thread as well.
What a gracious thing for Mr. Yoon to say of and for the pilot. His loss is so great and we certainly send him our sincerest sympathy and prayers for peace.
This is when forgiveness is easiest of all. He cannot think, he's had no time to process anything. He's moving around by auto-pilot (not to be crass). That his first tendency isn't to start blaming others speaks well of him. But I hope he isn't being too hasty.
Thank you, I will send some encouragement. Anywhere we can give a small donation to this poor man?
I'm not at all sure where you're coming from. Are you proposing that Mr. Yoon should withhold his feelings of forgiveness, in case he decides later to lash out? I don't get that.
If you intend to convey that he may later try to sue the pilot or something, I don't quite know what to say in return...
I for one would be most disappointed if he turned his back on his current feelings, which are honorable and godly, and did something else instead.
Could you explain what you meant, please?
You're welcome! I have no idea about donations, but perhaps the pastor would know if a fund is being set up in the local community. I imagine they'll try to do something, and may publish an address or phone number.
wow — moved beyond words.
prayers for all involved and especially for a joyous reunion in heaven for this brave man and his lost family.
I know that this man shows so much more grace and forgiveness than I could in the same circumstances. While I know I would certainly be able to take the same position given time, to be able to do so while the wounds are still so raw, and the emotions still so high, is a sign of one who is truly good at the core. I will certainly pray for both him and the pilot who I know must have a heavy conscience.
He only punched when it was clear he was not going to make the open field he was going for, let alone the airfield, which itself was quiet close to the crash site.
When I was on active duty, back in the dark ages, at Tinker AFB, Oklahoma, we lost a student and an instructor pilot in a T-38 who stayed with the bird trying to not hit any houses, trying instead hit a golf course. They hit a house anyway. Fortunately only a German Shepard was at home. But by not punching when they should have, they died. It's a very fine line.
It would not have helped Mr. Yoon any to know that the pilot died too. For some it might I guess, but not, I think, Mr. Yoon.
see post 103
I read the church’s website with my cursory knowledge of Korean. They don’t have any mention of a memorial fund at this time. I’ll take your advise and email the Rev and see if there will be one set up to help Mr. Yoon and his Father in Law through this difficult time.
May God bless him and comfort his heart.
This is an example of a godly man. We can all learn from him.
I have written the San Diego paper and have inquiries going around to some Korean friends here in California; I’ll let the forum know as soon as I find something.
You're welcome. It felt like the right thing to do... and the outpouring of prayers and supportive comments was overwhelming, and makes me proud to be a FReeper. My eyes haven't been dry for hours, reading and responding to folks.
> May God bless him and comfort his heart. This is an example of a godly man. We can all learn from him.
Indeed we can. I hope that he is able to recover his life after this, and find peace of mind. He is an inspiration to us.
Excellent, thank you!!
The showed the location of the house on the news. It looks like it is at the top of a hill and behind it is an empty ravine. Looks like the pilot was aiming for the ravine and unfortunately couldn’t get the plane a little higher. Maybe 50-100 feet higher would have cleared the neighborhood.
This poor man, Mr. Yoon, who has lost his family deserves all the prayer and respect he can be given by all of us.
A military pilot in service to his country should not be placed in this situation. This air base was around for many years with more and more houses built close to it over time, making such a tragedy inevitable.
Some of the best Americans are those that immigrate here legally. I feel bad for him.
Amen. He, his family and pilot are in our thoughts and prayers.
He has the heart of a true Christian...an inspiration for all. May God hold him in the palm of his hand.
You may be correct as well. I cannot imagine how one copes with such a tremendous loss.
The question to me is why wouldn't he bail out? He has done all he can to avert the crash, what good is served by him dying in the crash? We can't know for sure, but he might well have stayed with the aircraft to make sure it went down in a less populated area rather than downtown.
Mechanical things malfunction all the time. My toaster burned my bread to ashes the other day, I can't turn my TV off from the remote control any more and my car had a dead battery last month. It's just a lot more dramatic when it happens to a 20th century military aircraft.
That pilot represents a huge investment of taxpayer's resources. I don't think it makes sense for him to receive a death sentence because his aircraft developed mechanical problems and became unflyable.
It's certainly not my intention to take you to task for asking the question, but I feel there's more to it than just his decision to punch out and avoid certain death. My guess is he would had ridden the plane to the ground if he knew it would save those lives.
So, my post saying that perhaps God should have given the guy grace BEFORE the crash gets deleted (post #19) but this idiot can call me scum and it stays?
I'll post wherever I feel like it, thank you very much. You don't own this board. By the way, I'm not the one calling people scum.