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How to destroy a soldier’s life
http://hotair.com/archives/2010/02/12/how-to-destroy-a-soldiers-life/ ^

Posted on 02/12/2010 12:49:06 PM PST by HD1200

I came across an article on Salon entitled “How to leave a soldier” that has apparently been making ripples across the blogosphere. It absolutely infuriated me, and I knew I had to write about it. Before I get into the article, though, let me explain some things in the interest of full disclosure. My significant other is a Marine. We live together in North Carolina while he’s stationed at Camp Lejeune. The first year of our relationship was long distance, with him in North Carolina and me in Florida. We’re together now, but the Corps brings us apart occasionally for training and such, and of course, for deployments. Never, ever would I do something so cowardly as to send him a Dear John letter while he was deployed. But that’s exactly what this woman

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KEYWORDS: dearjohn; military
Unbelievably crude woman. After dumping the Marine she marries a war protesting marxist!
1 posted on 02/12/2010 12:49:06 PM PST by HD1200
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To: HD1200

This is just dreadful. I cannot imagine this mindset. How horrible.


2 posted on 02/12/2010 12:50:35 PM PST by DallasSun (i believe in separation of church and hate.)
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To: HD1200

Stupid Dartmouth woman fell for the “Officer and Gentleman” fantasy world. If I was in the military I would keep an arms length from women with Ivy League or similiar degrees.


3 posted on 02/12/2010 12:52:53 PM PST by C19fan
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To: HD1200

Having seen the effect of such letters in Vietnam
I can think of no more self centered selfish act.


4 posted on 02/12/2010 12:53:51 PM PST by tet68 ( " We would not die in that man's company, that fears his fellowship to die with us...." Henry V.)
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To: HD1200
She did him a favor.
It takes a real woman to be a Marine wife,not some whiny harpy liberal wench.
Really crappy way to do it, though.....crude just doesn't cover it.
5 posted on 02/12/2010 12:56:26 PM PST by gimme1ibertee ("In a time of universal deceit,telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act"-George Orwell)
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To: HD1200

My USMC son dating and in love with a wonderful young woman. They are discussing marriage but he does not want to be even engaged until he gets deployed.

He wants to see if she can handle deployment. I think that is a wise move.


6 posted on 02/12/2010 12:57:14 PM PST by Kimmers (Be the kind of person when your feet hit the floor each morning the devil says, Oh crap, she's awake)
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To: HD1200

I know it sounds niave, but I’m always shocked at how evil human beings can be.


7 posted on 02/12/2010 12:57:33 PM PST by JenB987 (under God's Spirit she flourishes)
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To: HD1200

At base camp in Saudi awiting transport back to the states in ‘91 there was a loud report, and we found there had been a suicide amoungst the other personel at the camp.

A young Marine’s wife had sent him a dear john porn video.


8 posted on 02/12/2010 12:58:24 PM PST by MrEdd (Heck? Geewhiz Cripes, thats the place where people who don't believe in Gosh think they aint going.)
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To: HD1200

I have seen worse.

Banks accounts cleaned out, kids gone, house sold and Daddy got home without a clue on what was going on...


9 posted on 02/12/2010 12:58:39 PM PST by 2banana (My common ground with terrorists - they want to die for islam and we want to kill them)
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To: HD1200

The Marine lost nothing when he lost his (wife). Notice that it was HE who stood up with his son when his son entered the Naval Academy.

Somehow, as I was reading this, I saw the face of Cindy Sheehan throughout.


10 posted on 02/12/2010 12:58:59 PM PST by afraidfortherepublic
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To: HD1200

My ex is somewhat like this. After 14 yrs of Marriage, she filed for divorce when our son turned 3. These days, some women are convinced if it isn’t all about them, it isn’t right.


11 posted on 02/12/2010 12:59:08 PM PST by Republic of Texas (Socialism Always Fails)
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To: HD1200

OMG. I don’t know what else to say. Only that I hope this soldier found someone to live a happy life with.

The shallowness of this woman is so obvious, even her son (who no doubt loves her), has seen it and chosen another life.


12 posted on 02/12/2010 1:00:10 PM PST by Roses0508
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To: MrEdd

Horrible!


13 posted on 02/12/2010 1:00:43 PM PST by afraidfortherepublic
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To: Kimmers

My USMC son and his intended won’t even talk about marriage until he’s retired from service. Neither one will consider a marriage until both are available to care for their family. As much as I want grandchildren and as much as I giggle to myself when they speak of their “Five-Year Plan,” I get it. There is a great deal of love there, but neither of them is silly enough to think they can live on it alone.


14 posted on 02/12/2010 1:01:08 PM PST by Constitutions Grandchild
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To: HD1200

I’d tell her “Hey, bee-yotch, don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.”


15 posted on 02/12/2010 1:01:51 PM PST by ez ("Abashed the Devil stood and felt how awful goodness is..." - Milton)
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To: HD1200

Unbelievable!!!


16 posted on 02/12/2010 1:02:56 PM PST by Randy Larsen ( BTW, If I offend you! Please let me know, I may want to offend you again!(FR #1690))
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To: MrEdd
a dear john porn video.

That's about as cruel as it gets.

17 posted on 02/12/2010 1:03:04 PM PST by CholeraJoe (Any man over 35 with washboard abds is either gay or a narcissist.)
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To: Republic of Texas
My ex is somewhat like this. After 14 yrs of Marriage, she filed for divorce when our son turned 3. These days, some women are convinced if it isn’t all about them, it isn’t right.

I do believe I'm wise to not date. She says something one day, I'm either in jail or dead.

18 posted on 02/12/2010 1:04:28 PM PST by wastedyears (The curtain has fallen, behold the messiah.)
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To: HD1200

She’s a cupid stunt, yet there were many like her during DS/DS who did worse.

One of them happened to be engaged to a buddy of mine who had made the mistake of giving her power of attorney. Imagine having absolute authority over a person’s life while they’re deployed and the liberties one can take. She did.

My wife told me that a lot of the spouse’s meetings held at Nellis turned into BMW (bitch, moan and whine) sessions.

It takes a special breed of woman/man to be married to a service member and make it work. Sadly, it appears that this article will only embolden those contemplating this instead of working to salvage their marriages.


19 posted on 02/12/2010 1:07:43 PM PST by SZonian (I see people who claim they are victims of "hatred", Alinsky's tactics are alive and well on FR.)
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To: HD1200

A similar thing happened to a close friend of mine when he was deployed during Desert Storm. 8 months in and he gets his letter. There is a word that rhymes with witch that describes her and women like her perfectly.


20 posted on 02/12/2010 1:09:05 PM PST by vpintheak (How can love of God, Family and Country make me an extremist?)
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To: HD1200

Years ago, I noted how military officer’s and NCO’s wives tended to be somewhat overweight, and not particularly attractive, until you get to know them. Again, for the most part, they tended to be caring, affectionate, loyal, friendly and loving of their partner.

The light dawned as to the wisdom of these men in selecting wives who have what *matters*. Their work was hard, often in places far from home, and they craved and needed a woman they wanted to come home to. Who helped them relax and feel comfortable and at home. Who would be a good mother for their children, and who was strong in the face of family hardship.

And for the most part, these couples were joined for life.


21 posted on 02/12/2010 1:14:42 PM PST by yefragetuwrabrumuy
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To: All

here is the whole article:

http://www.salon.com/mwt/feature/2010/01/31/how_to_leave_a_soldier/index.html

here is the woman’s blog:

http://courtneyelizabethcook.com/


22 posted on 02/12/2010 1:15:25 PM PST by HD1200
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To: HD1200

Sounds like what happened to me. The love of my life sent me a “Dear John” letter just 2 months before I finished my enlistment in 1992. It was horrible to have survived my enlistment, including the stress of Desert Storm.

(I didn’t get sent to the storm, just trained many who did and had many of my closest friends get sent over.)


23 posted on 02/12/2010 1:16:02 PM PST by CSM (Keeper of the "Dave Ramsey Fan" ping list. FReepmail me if you want your beeber stuned.)
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To: HD1200

The original writer is too shallow to contemplate. I hope her former husband found the love of his life after this woman walked out. I also hope that her new Marxist husband begins to act like all the other selfish, self-centered brats who took the same road.


24 posted on 02/12/2010 1:16:54 PM PST by originalbuckeye
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To: HD1200

Reading some of the comments from the Salon article, I want to be sick...

“Volunteer soldiers enable voluntary wars. Why do we continue to cheer them as they get off the plane?”

“Beautifully written. Authentic and genuine.

Until most of us can accept the truths on which you touch we are doomed to war and the waste of what we and our sons could be.

“I know that there is a subculture out there, especially in the midwest and southern US of A, that idolizes soldiers. I don’t understand, and I am trying not to judge. But this story gave me the cold shudders. This woman equates soldiers with a kind of rugged sexuality - maybe accurate, so many are beautiful young men. But I remain grimmed right out. Valor. Honor. What do these words mean in action?”

“Soldiers should be compassionately left and told why
for their own good and the good of those their choice would put at risk of harm.

Someone who would voluntarily enlist to kill and risk being killed for the sake of a “country” is simply neither emotionally nor mentally ready to function as a partner or parent. Saying no is an act of both love and pacifism.”

Disgusting.


25 posted on 02/12/2010 1:19:11 PM PST by JenB987 (under God's Spirit she flourishes)
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To: originalbuckeye

Horrible, disgusting thing to do to a soldier.


26 posted on 02/12/2010 1:19:44 PM PST by colorcountry (A faith without truth is not true faith.)
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To: originalbuckeye

One comforting aspect is my strong suspicion that her son holds her in contempt, as she deserves to be. I base this guess on the fact that the son went to a military academy, despite what I am sure was an incessant hailstorm of disapproval from his mother and her new hippy husband.

May God have mercy on her soul. If she has one.


27 posted on 02/12/2010 1:22:17 PM PST by pogo101
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To: HD1200

wow


28 posted on 02/12/2010 1:27:32 PM PST by ocr1 (really?.. Really?)
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To: HD1200

My Recruiter’s wife decided she liked the Marines so much that she joined. She and I were Poolees together and were on Parris Island at the same time.


29 posted on 02/12/2010 1:29:17 PM PST by real saxophonist (The fact that you play tuba doesn't make you any less lethal. -USMC bandsman in Iraq)
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To: JenB987

There are only three possible outcomes for a pacifist: slavery, death or free-riding on the courage of others.


30 posted on 02/12/2010 1:34:03 PM PST by Truth is a Weapon (Truth, it hurts soooo good!)
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To: All

Do you think the fans of this article/letter writing witch would approve of a spouse/partner breaking up with them via a message on an answering machine or via text?
Of course not.
The self-absorbed fans of above noted witch would DEMAND the satisfaction of being told face to face.
More hypocrisy from the delusional Left...


31 posted on 02/12/2010 1:36:54 PM PST by Maverick68
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To: freema; SandRat; onyx; STARWISE; Bahbah; armymarinemom

Uneffingbelievable ping


32 posted on 02/12/2010 1:38:13 PM PST by SE Mom
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To: HD1200
Hey, I thought they "supported the troops, not the war".
33 posted on 02/12/2010 1:39:50 PM PST by Ukiapah Heep (Shoes for Industry!)
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To: Kimmers

I wish that I had thought of that when I was in Navy. Started dating a girl I had known in school. Almost got married before a Med/IO cruise. A little voice in my head said to hold off. Good thing. I got a Dear John letter 4 months in to a 7 month cruise. Damn, did that hurt.


34 posted on 02/12/2010 1:47:54 PM PST by quikdrw (Life is tough....it's even tougher if you are stupid.)
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To: HD1200

I don’t even know what to say to this. It breaks my heart.


35 posted on 02/12/2010 1:52:42 PM PST by mrsdeb (I didn't expect THAT to happen.)
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To: tet68
Having seen the effect of such letters in Vietnam I can think of no more self centered selfish act.

A lot of guys lost their women during basic and then most of the, rest lost them during AIT. It was surprising to find out how quickly young women move on when their current man isn't around.

36 posted on 02/12/2010 1:55:23 PM PST by ansel12 (Mitt Romney and the Romney family traditionally, is at war with conservatism and traditional America)
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To: JenB987
Someone who would voluntarily enlist to kill and risk being killed for the sake of a “country” is simply neither emotionally nor mentally ready to function as a partner or parent. Saying no is an act of both love and pacifism.”

I guess she doesn't support enlisting to "Kill a Commie for Mommy".

37 posted on 02/12/2010 1:58:02 PM PST by ansel12 (Mitt Romney and the Romney family traditionally, is at war with conservatism and traditional America)
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To: HD1200
A variation of this crap happened to me.

At least I didn't have any children.

38 posted on 02/12/2010 2:03:41 PM PST by SIDENET ("If that's your best, your best won't do." -Dee Snider)
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To: HD1200
This happened to me, but she waited till 10 minutes after I got back. By waiting till I got back, I would continue to pay the bills.

Western women are horrible, and I can't believe the media and our culture in general reveres them.

39 posted on 02/12/2010 2:11:52 PM PST by IDontLikeToPayTaxes
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To: HD1200

Good article; it points out some interesting traits and asks some good questions of the author of the article it is replying to.

Thank you for posting it.


40 posted on 02/12/2010 2:13:36 PM PST by OneWingedShark (Q: Why am I here? A: To do Justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with my God.)
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To: mrsdeb

Me too.


41 posted on 02/12/2010 2:20:49 PM PST by rangerwife (Proud wife of a Purple Heart Recipient)
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To: 2banana
I have seen worse.

Banks accounts cleaned out, kids gone, house sold and Daddy got home without a clue on what was going on...

Yep, had one of these on my last ship when we got back from deployment. Later he found out the kid wasn't even his either. What a bitch. Even more sad because the guy was one of the nicest people you could meet.

42 posted on 02/12/2010 2:28:24 PM PST by GATOR NAVY ("The bigger the government, the smaller the citizen." -Dennis Prager)
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To: IDontLikeToPayTaxes; John-Irish; tet68; WhyisaTexasgirlinPA

You’re wrong. YOUR western woman is horrible. Many are not.
A perfect time to post this
a sailor’s wife

The Soldier’s Wife

When she was a girl, her dreams were bold, as bold as her fine, free gaze;
And every gift of grace and mind was hers in her younger days.
When she was a girl, a golden girl, with a sould as fine as fire.
She could outshine the brightest jewel that a rich man’s love might buy
her.
Yes hers could ahve been the glittering path through a careless, carefree
life,

But she fell in love with a soldier, so she became a soldier’s wife.

Away from the home of her childhood she marched at her husband’s side,
For she chose a wide and winding road when she became a bride.
And sometimes the road was a hard one, so different from what she had
planned;
And sometimes she wept for the home she had left as she lay in a foreign
land;
And sometimes her steps would grow weary as she followed the drum and the fife;
But she set about making the world her home because she was a soldier’s
wife.

She learned to build a hearth for them wherever her man was sent;
And she knelt to plant a garden every time he pitched their tent.
Yes, she always planted a garden though she never saw it grow,
For she knew before the flowers came that she would have to go.
But she left each garden gladly though it cut her like a knife,
For she hoped it might bring some comfort to another soldier’s wife.

To the hardships in her married life she brought one simple truth,
A promise that once was spoken in the ancient words of Ruth:
“Wherever you go, I will go. Wherever you lodge, I will lodge;
They people shall be my people and thy God shall be my God.”
She shared his joys and sorrows as they made their way through life,
For she was proud to love a soldier and to be a soldier’s wife.

She bore the weight of worrying what fate might hold in store;
And the wordless fear of waiting when her soldier went to war;
And the nights that she spent fearing that her waiting was in vain;
And the pain of wanting someone she might never hold again.
But she bore his children gladly through uncertainty and strife,
And they never heard her crying, for she was a soldier’s wife.

She raised a soldier’s family with the faith her love had taught her;
And she gave the pride she had inside to her son and to her daughter;
And she taught them to love freedom and to know what it was worth,
As they helped her plant her gardens in the corners of the earth.
And she never wished for better than the road they marched through life,
Because she was as much soldier as she was a soldier’s wife.
*by Caroline Franklin Berry *


43 posted on 02/12/2010 4:20:06 PM PST by Shimmer1 (Navy Mom)
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To: tet68

It is a cold, craven and heartless thing to do to a soldier. Worked with a WW2 vet many years ago who related a story about a “Dear John’’ letter. This guy was an 8th. Air Force navigator in a B-17. Some young kid in his squadron , a waist-gunner I believe got one. Kid was acting odd, quiet and ‘’strange’’ as my friend said. Returning from the mission the kid just suddenly swung the .50 caliber to the side, took off his chute and jumped before anyone could stop him. My said that really shook him up. Guys in any combat situation must live in dread of one of these damn letters(or e-mails.)


44 posted on 02/12/2010 4:38:32 PM PST by John-Irish ("Shame of him who thinks of it''.)
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To: John-Irish; tet68

I don’t have a dear John story, but last week I was in an office where the mgr was putting down the Navy so bad. The Navy had ruined her sister’s marriage! The Navy had not let husband come off a cruise when their baby was born! The Navy did this and the Navy did that. Each one of which was perfectly normal to me, not pleasant, not the optimum, but understandable.
I bit my tongue but I WANTED to say no, the Navy didn’t ruin her marriage, the sister wasn’t fit for what she chose. I know it’s hard. But ....see the poem above.


45 posted on 02/13/2010 7:42:08 AM PST by Shimmer1 (Navy blue)
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To: Shimmer1
You’re wrong. YOUR western woman is horrible. Many are not.

Oh I've never heard that one before. "Oh but I'M not like that, " or "there are plenty of good women...., " etc etc etc blah blah blah.

The fact is, American women manipulate, steal from and ruin men so frequently that it's breathtaking. It's the only legalized fraud. Whether it's a fake abuse claim or fraudulent child support.

There was actually an organized prostitution ring here at Fort Benning a few years ago. Run by Army wives. I would really love the media and our lawmakers to finally acknowledge the shenanigans by women instead of the constant worshiping and coddling.

46 posted on 02/14/2010 8:04:21 PM PST by IDontLikeToPayTaxes
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To: IDontLikeToPayTaxes

Yeah and I can’t give you just as many or more examples of what some men do to the women in their lives. Oh it’s only women. I understand.
Wimmin bad, men good. Uh huh.
We’re only 90 miles apart geographically, but so many light years apart in every other way. I don’t blame everyone of a certain sex for certain people’s low behavior.


47 posted on 02/14/2010 8:22:51 PM PST by Shimmer1 (Navy blue)
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To: IDontLikeToPayTaxes

Oh you’re not at Fort Benning. Well, you’re still sadly jaded and I feel pity and sadness for you.


48 posted on 02/14/2010 8:24:13 PM PST by Shimmer1 (Navy blue)
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