My USMC son dating and in love with a wonderful young woman. They are discussing marriage but he does not want to be even engaged until he gets deployed.
He wants to see if she can handle deployment. I think that is a wise move.
My USMC son and his intended won’t even talk about marriage until he’s retired from service. Neither one will consider a marriage until both are available to care for their family. As much as I want grandchildren and as much as I giggle to myself when they speak of their “Five-Year Plan,” I get it. There is a great deal of love there, but neither of them is silly enough to think they can live on it alone.
I wish that I had thought of that when I was in Navy. Started dating a girl I had known in school. Almost got married before a Med/IO cruise. A little voice in my head said to hold off. Good thing. I got a Dear John letter 4 months in to a 7 month cruise. Damn, did that hurt.