Skip to comments.Wyoming coach resigns after forcing offensive survey on players (Hurt Feelings Report Card)
Posted on 11/14/2011 11:28:37 AM PST by Jack Hydrazine
A high school football coach in Wyoming has resigned after orchestrating what may be the single least appropriate motivational tactic in recent years, handing his players a "Hurt Feelings Report" in which students were asked to select from various offensive options to describe why they were upset.
As first reported by the Buffalo Bulletin, Casper Star-Tribune and The Advocate before being circulated throughout the internet, Buffalo (Wyo.) High football coach Pat Lynch offered up a questionnaire to his players that offered the following possible reasons for their disappointment, as reported by The Advocate (beware in reading the following paragraph: Some of the choices are pretty abhorrent):
The survey, under a list of reasons for hurt feelings, includes such choices as "I am a queer," "I am a little bitch," and "I have woman like hormones." It asks for the name of the "little sissy filing report" and his "girly-man signature," plus the "real-man signature" of the person accused of causing hurt feelings.
You can see a full copy of the survey here.
(Excerpt) Read more at rivals.yahoo.com ...
Coach the team, develop the players as players.
Save your philosophical nuances for the teachers’ lounge.
I don’t understand people who get fired then apologize. If I lost my job I’ll be damned if I’d apologize. In fact, my position would be “If you let me keep my job, I’ll apologize. If not, then I double down on what I said.”
I think some of their parents are posting on this thread.
That’s the kind of face that helped us win WWII!
If it’s funny and related to motivating the team, sure.
Which makes the Hurt Feelings Report doubly appropriate for him to distribute to the rest of the whiners at school.
Somebody needs to send this guy a dozen roses.
This thread has attracted quite a few Nancys.
Interesting - the week Bobby Knight’s record will fall.
The players, if any who turned this into coach are probably bench warmers mad about playing time.
Just like they laughed at Mike Leach’s “Fat Little Girlfriends” press conference.
What will not stop there? IT?
I agree. But I don't see how this stupid thing is moving the ball forward on that score.
I remember my High School coach. He spent half his time haranguing us about Jesus, and the other half accusing us of being homosexuals. This "style" made him a much less effective coach, IMHO.
I am all for using sports to teach the kids important lessons about life. I think that is the best reason for school sports. But the coach should have a plan on what lessons he wants to teach. Stupid anti-homosexual nonsense should not be high on the list.
I don't know enough about this guy to offer an opinion on his overall program, but if this hand-out was typical, he needs to adjust his message.
So, what's your point, Eldon?
That's why I say I don't know enough about this coach's overall message. It could well be that this little bit of anti-homosexual ugliness was just careless shorthand for "man up", which is an appropriate message, no doubt. If anti-homosexual diatribes are not a stock bit of his coaching style, they I would be inclined to cut him some slack.
Soon to be seen as the next “FreeRepublic But-Hurt Complaint Form”.
If I was a defensive player on this team, my feelings would be hurt that he only sent out an offensive survey. What? No love for the defense?
Against my better judgement, (and with all the controversy recently over Penn State)... I will admit that I am a football Mom. During the last two years, I have seen all sorts of football coaches from other teams. Fortunately, my son has fabulous ones. I won’t tolerate physical abuse in any manner or form. However, I don’t mind and fully understand when coaches push a player. It is a sport that takes a certain amount of ... shall we say, male testosterone. Many times, it is all about rising above fear, insecurity and facing a much larger team. Since my son plays the line, I know that one assistance coach will whisper to him, ‘Pick your B*tch”. Doesn’t bother me in the least. Many of the freshman J.V. who were more sensitive to running, drills, and hits... left the team early on in the season. It just wasn’t for them. I don’t have a problem with the “feelings” report. My son howled when he read it!
And that’s how it should be! If some of them can’t handle that kind of sport and the coaching just graciously bow out and find something else fun to play!
That’s because the defense was doing their job like they should without complaint.
If he resigned or was fired, then why apologize?
The part of the form that made me howl with laughter was:
“We, as a company, take hurt feelings very seriously. If you don’t have a mommy that can give you a hug and make it all better, please let your supervisor know and we can provide you with a surrogate. I you need them, diapers, midol and a “blanky” can also be provided”.
And some FReepers here need those things!
Passive aggressive much?
The statement is called an “observation”.
My son came home this year after practice -
All excited to tell me - he says “Dad - have you ever heard the phrase “knocked the snot out of me” - and I said “yeah” and he says “well - they ran this trap block, and I wasn’t paying attention, and Hurley hit me so hard snot flew out my nose all over my faceguard! It was awesome! I never knew it was really possible!”
When I was a boy - our coach - well - lets just say this was how he would probably talk to his mom on the phone. But never swear. Best coach and leader - ever. Won our league like 15 years in a row. As wrestling coach - sent players to Ivys - multiple guys every year. Multiple guys out of 8 seniors. An ROTC scholarship - every year.
Don’t scare me like that. I thought you were talking about the University of Wyoming’s coach. We are having the best season in over ten years.
So, what’s your point, Eldon.
Your son is definitely a lineman (believe me, I KNOW!). My son likes to say, “Where else can you go, work out, knock some people into the ground and NOT get suspended”. Personally, I think when a lot of boys hit puberty, they have all this energy and strength. I found that football was a way to exert themselves in a group setting. They keep their grades up to remain eligible and watch their P and Q’s in school since a suspension will throw them off the team. Unlike other Freshman, my son was able to walk into school on the first day and know about 100 people just from football (JV and Varsity). The JV emulate the more mature Varsity players, too. I have seen these boys come together in almost a brotherhood of sorts and support each other, tutor each other in class subjects and generally have a good time. My son’s coach checks on each of his players grades each day. I hate to say it but I don’t check on it every day.
I bet the University of Wyoming could use a good coach like him!
I was a boy - and I didn’t enjoy hitting people - and getting hit - as much as he does.
For kids like him (and when I was a kid) it is funny. We are top track academics, and play sports. So - the jocks knew me as a jock, and the brainiacs knew me as one of them. So - it is an interesting way to go through school.
My coach checked up - on my grades - even though I was easy top 10% of class/headed Ivy. Just because - that is what he would do. My friends and I figured it out years later. He even tried to get us help from the teachers - if we had a B+ - he tried to squeeze an A- for us. He was looking out for future cardiologists like my friend, making sure his grades were solid. Not because either of us would ever lose academic eligibability - and frankly the team didn’t really need us. He taught us what team means.
I’m sure there were 1000s of other people he helped over the years, that nobody knew about. Best coach ever - and I think he only called me Nancy once or twice. Maybe Frances. Possibly Elizabeth. “Can someone come over here and show Elizabeth how to block?” Priceless.