Skip to comments.Research finds women feel happy when their husband or partner is upset
Posted on 03/06/2012 8:47:09 PM PST by Thunderballer
The detailed study found that wives or girlfriends were pleased when their partner showed emotion because they believed it demonstrated a healthy relationship.
The survey, carried out by Harvard Medical School, also found that when men realised their wife was angry, the women reported being happier, although the men were not.
It revealed women most likely enjoyed spotting when their partner was dissatisfied because it showed his strong engagement or investment in their time together.
Dr Shiri Cohen, the studys lead author, said: It could be that for women, seeing that their male partner is upset reflects some degree of the man's investment and emotional engagement in the relationship, even during difficult times.
This is consistent with what is known about the dissatisfaction women often experience when their male partner becomes emotionally withdrawn and disengaged in response to conflict.
The study, published by the American Psychological Association, recruited a diverse range of 156 heterosexual couples.
More than 100 of the younger, urban, couples were in a committed but not necessarily a married relationship. Other couples who varied in the way they resolved conflict and controlled emotions were also chosen, while the remaining participants were older, middle-class and married.
In total, 71 per cent of those questioned were white, 56 per cent were married, and the average length of their relationships was three-and-a-half years.
During the study, each participant was asked to describe an incident with their partner over the previous two months that had been frustrating, disappointing or upsetting.
The researchers recorded the participant making a brief statement summarising the incident and then brought the couple together to play each other's admission.
They were told to come to a better understanding of what had happened, with approximately 10 minutes to discuss the incident while they were filmed.
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What is wrong with these women? Men show emotion all the time; you just have to know how to recognize it.
If your husband takes out the garbage and puts away the dishes, he's feeling romantic. If he flops on the couch and falls asleep after a particularly hard day at work, he's not.
Word to the wise, Ladies: most men are not hardwired to talk about their "feelings." They are hardwired to FIX things. So don't complain to them about something unless you expect it to be fixed, don't prattle on about stuff unless you want their input, and don't expect them to make undying declarations of love like they do in the movies because most men would rather SHOW you they love you by what they DO. Talk is cheap.
Been here two whole months. :-)
Unoriginal liberal-think B.S.
Like stolen from a 1960’s sitcom script
Let's just hope you haven't dropped larva.
Your dissatisfaction with that post shows your “engagement” in your relationship to FR.
YeP! Saw this on an episode of “Hazel” the other day.
Woman upset because hubby not paying attention, she calls Mr.B crying, he tried to console her - then she tells her husband something that makes him want to punch Mr. B’s lights out - but the two men talk and stage a fake fight that the dingy broad can hear over the phone and she’s delighted that now her husband cares enough to dot some other guys eye!
Was pretty funny though on a TV program. its not meant to be for instructive purposes.
Amen! I want to make my husband happy. When he is upset, I am upset. Sounds like they interviewed a bunch of liberals.
I have the same feeling when a woman gets mad. Or is sad, crying, upset -—whatever.
I guess I am old fashion.
“It revealed women most likely enjoyed spotting when their partner was dissatisfied because it showed his strong engagement or investment in their time together.”
And also that it shows that alot of women today have become self-absorbed, low class a-holes with a princess complex.
All available statistics indicate that women live longer than men by a considerable margin.
And, no, it’s not at all surprising.
Why do men die younger than women? Because the WANT to! LOL!
It's not your "partners" fault - it's yours. All human beings get angry sometimes. You are describing a neurotic hypersensitivity and fear reaction that is inappropriate to a fairly normal occurance..
It's also something that can be used to manipulate the hell out of your "partner."
That was EXCELLENT!!!
Sadly, I have a grand-daughter like this. She brought her, at that time future, husband over to meet us. She treated him so poorly, that at the end of the evening I told him 'For the love of god, if you ever want to be happy, run. Hit the door, don't look back, run; we'll see that she gets home okay.' He didn't.
On the bright side, she hasn't spoken to me in over three years!
Women like drama? Uhhhhh....duh??!?!
How much money did this silly study cost us?
I don’t feel that way. If my husband is having a male hissy, I am not happy. Although I think conflict is healthy in any relationship.
exactly. if we are going to fire it up I prefer it be in the best way that marriage is created for.
Now that was funny!