Skip to comments.Research finds women feel happy when their husband or partner is upset
Posted on 03/06/2012 8:47:09 PM PST by Thunderballer
The detailed study found that wives or girlfriends were pleased when their partner showed emotion because they believed it demonstrated a healthy relationship.
The survey, carried out by Harvard Medical School, also found that when men realised their wife was angry, the women reported being happier, although the men were not.
It revealed women most likely enjoyed spotting when their partner was dissatisfied because it showed his strong engagement or investment in their time together.
Dr Shiri Cohen, the studys lead author, said: It could be that for women, seeing that their male partner is upset reflects some degree of the man's investment and emotional engagement in the relationship, even during difficult times.
This is consistent with what is known about the dissatisfaction women often experience when their male partner becomes emotionally withdrawn and disengaged in response to conflict.
The study, published by the American Psychological Association, recruited a diverse range of 156 heterosexual couples.
More than 100 of the younger, urban, couples were in a committed but not necessarily a married relationship. Other couples who varied in the way they resolved conflict and controlled emotions were also chosen, while the remaining participants were older, middle-class and married.
In total, 71 per cent of those questioned were white, 56 per cent were married, and the average length of their relationships was three-and-a-half years.
During the study, each participant was asked to describe an incident with their partner over the previous two months that had been frustrating, disappointing or upsetting.
The researchers recorded the participant making a brief statement summarising the incident and then brought the couple together to play each other's admission.
They were told to come to a better understanding of what had happened, with approximately 10 minutes to discuss the incident while they were filmed.
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They actually spent money on this? I could’ve just given them my ex-wife’s phone number!!
Remember the anguished cry that went out when domestic violence activists intoned to women, “Research shows that as a man beats a woman THE PROCESS HELPS HIM TO CALM DOWN, so in fact a man’s calming-down process makes the woman WORSE OFF....” ??
Weeellllll whadda we have HEEEERE.....?!
That explains a lot. but I hope they didn’t spend any tax dollars on this crap
I’m appalled. Anytime a partner of mine was mad, I was practically hiding under the bed. I hate when men get angry. It scares me half to death.
I don’t believe it. My sis hates it when my b-i-l is ‘moody’. From what I’ve seen upset men are a pain in the patootie.
“Interesting. Is anyone surprised by these findings?”
No. The twisted pleasure is not universal, but it is very, very common.
I’m still running my poll, and so far it’s 50/50. I don’t even have the ex’s phone number, thank heaven. I refused when asked if I wanted it. Even better, she has mine and hasn’t used it in over fifteen years.
I don’t think I’ve said more than 100 words to her since we separated.
She wanted me out of her life. I am.
There is nothing to celebrate here. And anyone who can “relate” might be considered a sadist.
No Shiite. I just walked off from an obvious setup that kept getting lower and lower and more personal.
Why? I guess the boss didn’t have a position, wasn’t informed and kept inventing non-sequitor to diffuse the actual subject.
When. It got about as stoopid as I thought could I just started laughing at the vacuousness of their position.
You can’t discuss or debate when one aide has extant as their strategy to shut you down and bury you with a ton of unrelated stuff.
Then they want to know why you are walking off from a silly discussion that never really took place.
To be honest, I think there’s an aspect of this, to all liberalism.
It’s all about provoking.
All of it.
just tells me those women are mentally unstable to begin with and the marriage won’t last.
i’d also guess the majority of those women that enjoyed their husbands being upset are progressives. i’d guess 90%
most real men won’t put up with women trying to start drama. one or two times, sure. but continuous? unlikely. nothings that good and they’re only getting older. maybe, just maybe, they should be more concerned with being in a loving relationship then worrying about how to create drama to ‘prove’ their husband still cares (he cares until he’s had enough of their bs and walks)
I get the greatest satisfaction out of making him laugh, smile, and be playful. We are typically very serious people, so those times when we can laugh at life's challenges or adorable moments with our kids are treasured blessings.
What is wrong with people nowadays?
Not really surprised.
One more data point pointing out that to get married in this day in age, is akin to suicide.
“I’m happy when someone I (supposedly) care about is upset.” Yep, sounds like love to me.
Then I met the woman who became my wife.
I was listening to a comedian the other day talk about his ex-wife. He said, “I think she has weekly lessons with the devil on how to be more evil. (Short pause) I don’t know what she charges him.”
I don’t like it at all when my husband is mad and/or moody.
Why are you posting this rubbish after only being here a few weeks?