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Jane Austenís Advice: Choose the Right Man and Live Happily Ever After
Townhall.com ^ | April 18, 2012 | Rebecca Hagelin

Posted on 04/18/2012 6:59:33 AM PDT by Kaslin

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To: SENTINEL
I was precisely clear before we got married what acceptable means as far as bedroom stuff. Twice a week. Once a month lingerie, and occasional surprise in a dress and heels when I get home from work. I was clear, I was precise, and she agreed.

This just doesn't sound romantic to me at all. It sounds so legalistic like you've laid down these demands, these twice a week, once a month quotas that she has to meet. I think if it was laid down like that to me, I wouldn't be in the mood either. Maybe she feels like when she puts the lingerie and the dress on, you're looking at her as more of an object than a person. She might feel like a player in a porn fantasy. Perhaps you could just sit back, be kind to her, and let her come to you in her time, even if it takes several weeks. If she feels like putting the lingerie and dress on aren't a demand but something that will make you and her happy, maybe she'll be willing. If not, perhaps you could see a counselor to help you work it out. One thing is for sure, porn is not the answer. It's dehumanizing and contrary to God's plan for humanity. It might make you happy in the short term, but in the long term, it's going to lead you down the wrong road.

241 posted on 04/20/2012 4:39:19 AM PDT by Pinkbell (Rick Santorum For President (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N89LGhm-Ztc))
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To: shorty_harris

You’re the type of man every woman hopes for.


242 posted on 04/20/2012 4:56:14 AM PDT by Pinkbell (Rick Santorum For President (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N89LGhm-Ztc))
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To: absolootezer0
alcohol free? heaven forfend.

Yeah no kidding. I need alcohol just to deal with female craziness...

243 posted on 04/20/2012 11:06:40 AM PDT by Niteflyr ("The number one goal in life is to parent yourself" Carl Jung)
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To: LevinFan
The lesson more men are learning is to treat women like crap, or get no where.

That is the absolute truth. Women love chaos and drama and nice guys don't provide that. I noticed from very young that the nicest prettiest women were always attached to the biggest jerks....(ie Sandra Bullock and Jesse James) and conversely nice guys seemed to always be attached to real bitches.

Signed "use to be a nice guy until I learned the ways of the world"....

244 posted on 04/20/2012 11:16:38 AM PDT by Niteflyr ("The number one goal in life is to parent yourself" Carl Jung)
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To: Bigg Red
And I am appalled at how many will just criticize their husbands in the presence of others. Above all, a man wants respect.

You have to understand that complaining about their men is a sport to women...and to remove that is like telling a man he can't watch NASCAR or NFL. There is a good reason a term used for women also means to "complain"...(b***h). I give them fodder by always doing two things: never give flowers and avoid Valentine's Day like the plague...that gives most women enough to complain about for the whole year. You can be pretty nice the rest of the time. Works like a charm!

245 posted on 04/20/2012 11:26:20 AM PDT by Niteflyr ("The number one goal in life is to parent yourself" Carl Jung)
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To: DesertRhino
imagine a contract where you agree to a joint venture in business with someone. And there were clauses that started that the other party could break the contact at any time, for any reason, and in most states,, no reason need be given. At that point they get half the business, even if they did very little to make it successful. And then they get a salary for several years,, sometimes forever. Its so one sided that its insane.

Yep you can come home from work and find her in your bed with the pool boy Hot Balls Gonzalez and if you divorce she gets paid for doing that to you...gee wonder why men don't want to marry??

246 posted on 04/20/2012 11:30:22 AM PDT by Niteflyr ("The number one goal in life is to parent yourself" Carl Jung)
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To: Pinkbell
I hope you don't think women wearing erotic lingerie for their mates is related to porn.

Many if not most women love to wear this type of clothing because it accentuates their body and it makes them ALSO feel good to do so.

Men for the most part are not buying this lingerie their gf's/wives are.

247 posted on 04/20/2012 12:53:02 PM PDT by trailhkr1 (All you need to know about Zimmerman, innocent = riots, manslaughter = riots, guilty = riots)
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To: Niteflyr
Women love chaos and drama and nice guys don't provide that. I noticed from very young that the nicest prettiest women were always attached to the biggest jerks....(ie Sandra Bullock and Jesse James) and conversely nice guys seemed to always be attached to real bitches

A guy in my dorm several years back was really good looking(no homo on my partLOL). He would treat women like absolute crap, just abuse them emotionally and they would do anything for him. Use and abuse them for sex and they would be at his door in 10 minutes if he called them back.

Oh the stories I could tell how he used woman and the crap he pulled...so much so that

Idon'twantadaughter.jpeg

248 posted on 04/20/2012 1:00:27 PM PDT by trailhkr1 (All you need to know about Zimmerman, innocent = riots, manslaughter = riots, guilty = riots)
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To: Shimmer1

That’s a good reason.

I just hope you weren’t adhering to some arbitrary societal limitation that says men can approach women but women can’t approach men.


249 posted on 04/20/2012 3:04:59 PM PDT by flintsilver7 (Honest reporting hasn't caught on in the United States.)
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To: flintsilver7

Oh no, I promise you, that wasn’t the case.


250 posted on 04/20/2012 7:01:53 PM PDT by Shimmer1 (Every time a liberal gets pissed off an angel gets their wings.)
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To: UCANSEE2

oh wow, we like you too!


251 posted on 04/20/2012 7:04:08 PM PDT by Shimmer1 (Every time a liberal gets pissed off an angel gets their wings.)
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To: trailhkr1
A guy in my dorm several years back was really good looking(no homo on my partLOL). He would treat women like absolute crap, just abuse them emotionally and they would do anything for him. Use and abuse them for sex and they would be at his door in 10 minutes if he called them back. Oh the stories I could tell how he used woman and the crap he pulled...so much so that Idon'twantadaughter.jpeg

Yes that is more often the case than not...and I have seen exactly the same thing over the years. People can deny it all they want but you can't convince me otherwise. I've been around long enough to see how things really work no matter how much some insist it isn't true...

252 posted on 04/20/2012 8:46:55 PM PDT by Niteflyr ("The number one goal in life is to parent yourself" Carl Jung)
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To: trailhkr1

I don’t think so, but in this case, it sounds very peculiar to me. He’s told her the amount of times she has to have sex with him and wear lingerie. There is nothing romantic about that at all. Secondly, he has admitted to watching porn, and because there is this “rule” set down that she has to wear lingerie once a month for him. Maybe she feels he is looking at her more objectively than lovingly, and/or perhaps there is a reason she is uncomfortable with lingerie stemming from an incident in her past or discomfort with her own body. There’s a reason why she doesn’t want to, and I think the poster should talk with her about it.


253 posted on 04/21/2012 5:31:39 AM PDT by Pinkbell (Rick Santorum For President (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N89LGhm-Ztc))
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To: little jeremiah

What you said. Word for word.


254 posted on 04/24/2012 10:43:31 AM PDT by Albion Wilde ("Real men are not threatened by strong women." -- Sarah Palin)
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To: Albion Wilde

Just reading the comments on this thread shows what seriously deep do-do we (as in “we the society/country”) are in.


255 posted on 04/24/2012 11:34:01 AM PDT by little jeremiah (We will have to go through hell to get out of hell. Signed, a fanatic)
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To: Niteflyr

You have to understand that complaining about their men is a sport to women...

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Sadly, what you say is true about far too many women.

Not this woman, however. I have the world’s best husband, and I tell him so quite often.


256 posted on 04/24/2012 11:38:32 AM PDT by Bigg Red (Pray for our republic.)
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To: little jeremiah

Keep praying. Everything is in the toilet. We need an intervention beyond human understanding.


257 posted on 04/24/2012 12:08:51 PM PDT by Albion Wilde ("Real men are not threatened by strong women." -- Sarah Palin)
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To: Albion Wilde

Absolutely, Albion. We are lost without His intervention. I pray daily, many times for His justice and mercy to prevail.


258 posted on 04/24/2012 1:00:43 PM PDT by little jeremiah (We will have to go through hell to get out of hell. Signed, a fanatic)
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