“Normal to be critical about people that murder their kids and afterwards complain about their childless life, still only thinking about how it impacts them.”
Every event of discomfort in another is an opportunity for us to point them in the direction of finding everlasting peace.
Eventually, if their pain becomes strong enough, the guard rails of life they keep running into will guide them on the right path.
I know it is a hard lesson for all of us. And it is the basis for the discussions in Galatians 5. But, in judging others, we are also judging ourselves. Remember what Jesus had to say about this.
John 3:17
For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him.
John 12:47
If anyone hears My sayings and does not keep them, I do not judge him; for I did not come to judge the world, but to save the world.
James 4:12
There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the One who is able to save and to destroy; but who are you who judge your neighbor?