Posted on 04/27/2012 5:00:27 AM PDT by Kaslin
This is not a matter of an “imperfect” mother. My earliest memory is not warm on any level.
I’ve forgiven her and to see us you might think there was some feeling going on.
Regrets! My brother killed himself, the other brother is in the pen for life (has done 20 years already) and I have my own suicidal inclinations (only occasionally now) to deal with and her to thank for them.
I kind of just wish she’d cash in finally - 87 years too long. And I am making sure she is safe, comfortable and well taken care of (not living with me tho). She has Alzheimers.
I just get sick and tired of those oozing over happy memories of childhood. And everyone always ASSUMES every old person was damn SAINT!
Bert, I think you missed the point of the story.
I am quite aware of bad mothers, who become lonely in their old ages. I worked with the elderly off and on for years, and saw the good and bad. My instance was one story, not generalization. I'm sorry about you having a bad parent, but these kind are the exception, not the rule. I hope you can be a better person and forgive your parent, whether she wants it or not.
He did have to spend some time in rehab. But learned to walk again on his own after all had healed and he was back home. Thank God for modern medicine. They cured his pancreas without even a stitch, no surgery at all.
Don't know how many medical and nursing home staff (where he got Mercia and pneumonia) have told me he wouldn't be here if I hadn't “gotten over it” quickly. Personally just think he a tough ol bird that enjoys living.
He told me if he lived to be over a hundred, he was going to get married again....I told him if he did to make sure she was young and rich and could take care of BOTH of us.
My dad would come home from golf and say "I just beat some more youngers"..."those new retirees can't hit a ball for toffee."
My mum at age 85 told the cardiologist "I'm past my shelf life....your' not going to muck me about."
we have families to take care of, homes to mangage, taxes to pay for all the people on the dole, volunteer work to do, church to attend, meals to prepare, children to pick up from school AND elderly relatives in need of groceries.... and to wait in a long line for extra time so someone can get some socialization in is not right....
lots of people are lonely...lots of people could benefit from extra help....its not just the elderly....
dollars to donuts if it was a little toddler at the front of the line making a fuss and slowing things down, a lot of freepers would be out with their pitch forks...
Your point is well taken — Peace be with you!
Of course, my pastor was not there to tell him. But I was in the bank that day. In case you haven’t figured it out, the impatient man in the line was me.
Exactly. Something that one person thinks is sweet or cute — like an elderly woman stopping the checkout like to talk to a young cashier because he reminders her of her grandson, or a toddler running around a restaurant — are annoying to others and rightfully so. Why isn’t the old woman rude for holding up the line? Why aren’t the parents of the toddler considered rude for letting their kid run wild? No one is saying bite their head off or scream at them, but everyone — old and young — should be respectful of everyone else.
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Very well said
I believe it. You and your husband are great people
Now the thing to do, instead of bitching about it here is if someone has only one or two items, to let the person go in front of you. That is what I do
Thx ...
One quick item is not really the issue regardless of age. The issue is when the person attempts to use age as a “free pass” (without any infirmity or need of special assistance) to simply claim an excuse to circumvent people in the identical situation. (think DMV wait times which annoy everyone equally. Think of a movie ticket line with a person walking to the front and claiming to have “not seen the line.” Think if it was a person cutting to the front of the line of the new X phone because the line is too long and they have to do other errands...)
Yup. Sure have.
And then, when you object, say something like “Is that any way to treat the elderly?”
Cherish the moments people.
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Amen to that.
It must have been hard when the Lord took your parents so young. My father passed at 62.
ll I have to do is ask “what would mama want me to do?”
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Excellent way to live.
Congrats on the grandchild. They are such a joy. I just had my 2 over for a few days. They are 17 months and 3 1/2. My third grandson will be arriving in September. (Another son and his wife are contributing this little munchkin.)
You know how it is.
Because I never had parents live to senior age, I find that older people either try my patience or bring me to tears of joy.
Now I visit my aged MIL (who always disliked me for taking her baby, and now has no clue who I am, so is pleasant) and my aged FIL who is and always will be darling. It’s all I can do.
>>I just get sick and tired of those oozing over happy memories of childhood. And everyone always ASSUMES every old person was damn SAINT!<<
I have two sisters just like your mother.
Their children don’t speak to them. They love me. (One Godchild, one namesake of mine in THEIR kids)
Each chose their own lives over their children. One to lesbian lovers, one to a man who hated the kids.
You’re taking care of her as you can. It’s enough.
But some children are selfish too and that seems to be the case in the story of the 101 year old/
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