My son is a social worker by profession (even though he’s now on tour with a professional music group).
He sat me down shortly after dad decided to make his visit permanent and told me to stop doing for dad. I was making him an invalid. So I backed off. Best advice he ever gave me. Dad fixes his own breakfast and generally does little jobs to help around the house. At 92 he reads constantly is quite content to watch his ballgames and care for our two border collies (who take care of him).
I won't have to worry much about it. When my daughter would help me up and walk me to the bathroom, at the door she would tell me: "You're on your own. Hollar when you are done." ;) Both are ex-military. No coddling, just providing the required assistance.
Fortunately, within 6 months I was back on my own.
That was good advice. We built a little home for my Mom on our property. She lives there rent free and utility free. I take her to all her Dr. appts., hair, grocery, etc. She is having shoulder replacement surgery in a few weeks, so there have been a LOT of appointments, and I will be staying with her in the hospital. NO WAY am I leaving her there alone. However, I do try not to do EVERYTHING for her. She bakes cookies, makes her own meals, etc. My boys work in her flower garden for her when she needs help (shoveling dirt, etc). I told her I’d do everything I could for her, short of wiping her butt! At that point, we need to talk! LOL! She laughed, also. Wouldn’t have it any other way. She’s one of my best friends, and I dread the day she is gone.