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Iím a White Republican Raising a Black Child: Deal With It
Patheos ^ | April 26, 2012 | Nancy French

Posted on 04/28/2012 7:35:47 PM PDT by feralcat

...This Presidential campaign cycle is very different for our family than the one in 2008. This time around, we have a four-year-old daughter we adopted from Ethiopia two years ago...

Because we’ve had the audacity to appear in public with our family, we’ve been getting hate mail from liberals who are deeply offended that a white family would raise a black child (the Huffington Post posted a video of Naomi and me at CPAC and it generated more than 1,000 comments, many of them utterly vile). Usually, I laugh at baseless criticism and it inspires me to work even harder at artfully annoying my critics. But when I get accused of actually harming my daughter by daring to raise her, it infuriates me. See, for example, an excerpt from tonight’s Facebook message:

“I feel so sorry for your little girl! She has a hard complex life ahead of her! She should not be raised by people who vote against her best interests.”

(It was longer and much more offensive.)

(Excerpt) Read more at patheos.com ...


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To: DNA.2012

You’re obsessed.
People have tried to explain this to you but you seem not to get it. I’ll try one more time; then I suggest strongly that everyone ignore you.

If you are a white American couple seeking to adopt a child in the US, you will only be permitted to adopt a white child. Forty or fifty years ago it was possible to adopt a healthy, normal white child from a healthy, normal white American teenager who “just made a mistake.” But changes in our society have meant that many American women who get pregnant unexpectedly either abort their babies or keep them and raise them without a husband. A disturbing number of the white babies given up for adoption are given up because mom has addiction problems, is incarcerated, or has some other pathology. After a long, expensive, stressful wait, you can end up with a child who has been abused, brain-damaged, exposed to drugs in utero, etc. I’ve seen friends heartbroken and financially ruined by their sad, damaged adoptive children.

You can also find that after you’ve come to love a child, the birth parents show up and want your child back. Courts have taken adopted kids from their adoptive parents and given them back to the strangers who are their biological parents.

Many of the same problems exist if you try to adopt from other nations where there are a lot of white people. Adopting from Eastern Europe can also bring out criminals who try to extort money from the American parents.

So since white kids are hard to find, people who want to adopt a child have to go where the kids are. Not all of them are absolutely obsessed with having a child whose race is the same as theirs. Not all of them are prepared to do business with the Chinese, who sell their girls to Westerners.

So one ends up going to adopt a child where there are assurances that there will be no later legal problems, where there is a serious need, where children are available for adoption without government harassment, and where one particular little face ensnares the heart forever.

Okay? Do you understand now? Children don’t have any color. The heart knows nothing of race. The decision to adopt a child isn’t about race but about love.


51 posted on 04/28/2012 9:21:04 PM PDT by ottbmare (The OTTB Mare)
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To: feralcat

“VOTE against her best interests”???

Her best interests, moron, are to be raised by a loving family that will make sure she can be all she can be - proving that you don’t have to be white to excel in life.


52 posted on 04/28/2012 9:27:03 PM PDT by Let's Roll (Save the world's best healthcare - REPEAL, DEFUND Obamacare!)
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To: feralcat
...we have a four-year-old daughter we adopted...

What else matters? Bravo. I love my kids. Love yours. {expletive} everything else.

53 posted on 04/28/2012 9:32:02 PM PDT by ThunderSleeps (Stop obama now! Stop the hussein - insane agenda!)
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To: JRandomFreeper

Pasty white? Fish belly white? White skin is beautiful too. I know you
wouldn’t use such negative descriptives of dark skin. People who have white or pale skin shouldn’t do it to themselves either. Creamy ivory or pale porcelain skin has been considered a beautiful tradition for thousands of years.


54 posted on 04/28/2012 9:32:29 PM PDT by mrsmel
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To: MHGinTN
Those little ones have no idea they are of two races, they’re just being children

When my twins were little, they would identify people by what color clothing they were wearing. If a child had a white shirt on, she would be "that little white girl"....or black or green or purple.

One day at the store, they were quite enamored with a baby in a yellow sleeper. On the way home they told me - "We need another baby....a yellow baby"

55 posted on 04/28/2012 9:33:37 PM PDT by Mygirlsmom (The only thing liberals favor manufacturing here is fake outrage.)
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To: mrsmel
White skin is beautiful too.

Not even if I starched and ironed it. ;)

Granted, some can be. But that doesn't apply in my case.

/johnny

56 posted on 04/28/2012 9:34:56 PM PDT by JRandomFreeper (Gone Galt)
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To: feralcat
Because we’ve had the audacity to appear in public with our family, we’ve been getting hate mail from liberals who are deeply offended that a white family would raise a black child (the Huffington Post posted a video of Naomi and me at CPAC and it generated more than 1,000 comments, many of them utterly vile).

It's not because you are white but that you are a conservative. These people are pigs.

57 posted on 04/28/2012 9:35:30 PM PDT by Mike Darancette (The longer you hold tiger by the tail, the hungrier he gets.)
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To: DNA.2012
Why?

It was God's plan. Got it?

58 posted on 04/28/2012 9:42:11 PM PDT by Mike Darancette (The longer you hold tiger by the tail, the hungrier he gets.)
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To: Mike Darancette

Don’t be so sure.

I recall a story here a few months ago about a white marine beaten to death by two black marines...because he was married to a black woman.


59 posted on 04/28/2012 9:44:12 PM PDT by papertyger ("And how we burned in the camps later, thinking: What would things have been like if..."))
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To: feralcat

Dems are race obsessed. Its how they see the world. That, and they think they own minorities. They resent it if any racial minority slips outside their control.


60 posted on 04/28/2012 10:01:04 PM PDT by marron
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To: DNA.2012

Are you really that stupid?


61 posted on 04/28/2012 10:01:18 PM PDT by bigdaddy45
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To: bigdaddy45

Me > You

...in every possible way...


62 posted on 04/28/2012 10:19:54 PM PDT by DNA.2012
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To: DNA.2012

I have a better question: what business is it of yours?


63 posted on 04/28/2012 10:30:43 PM PDT by Ellendra ("It's astounding how often people mistake their own stupidity for a lack of fairness." --Thunt)
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To: CrazyIvan

That would be to assume that white parents who want to adopt a white child are racist, which is Bull****.


64 posted on 04/28/2012 10:41:14 PM PDT by Amberdawn
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To: DNA.2012

Me > You

...in every possible way...
*********************************************
No, you DNA.2012, are a very small person ...maybe even a troll trying to give freepers a bad name. The question of why Mrs French would adopt a black child never crossed my mind...not sure why it would cross yours...weird....


65 posted on 04/28/2012 10:43:17 PM PDT by R.I.chopper
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To: R.I.chopper

Have you read the title of the article???


67 posted on 04/28/2012 10:56:34 PM PDT by DNA.2012
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To: Chiltepe
Everyone's beating around the bush, or curtly telling you to mind your own business, because they are uncomfortable with the answer to your question.

Very true.

68 posted on 04/28/2012 10:57:21 PM PDT by DNA.2012
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To: feralcat

“I feel so sorry for your little girl! She has a hard complex life ahead of her! She should not be raised by people who vote against her best interests.”

Liberals are possessed with the same disgusting bigotry against conservatives that the New Black Pampers have against whites.

This little girl will not grow up hating whites, and leftist libtrash are at least smart enough to see they can’t use her vote to promote their perverse evil agenda.


69 posted on 04/28/2012 11:01:21 PM PDT by MikeSteelBe (Austrian Hitler was, as the Halfrican Hitler does.)
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To: feralcat

My cousin and her husband (white) adopted a dark-skinned boy in Madagascar when they were there working for a missionary organization. I think maybe they knew his mother and she was terminally ill or something. They weren’t looking for a child to adopt, but he needed them and they rose to the occasion. He is a young adult now, and I met him at the last family reunion. He is mentally slow, but was in a suitable vocational program and was flourishing. He belongs in our family as much as anyone else. Love and loyalty matter more than consistent skin tone.

Ironic that Madonna and Brangelina adopt African children and are heroes, but when Republican parents who are not celebrities try the same thing, they are ridiculed.


70 posted on 04/28/2012 11:05:23 PM PDT by married21 (As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.)
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To: DNA.2012
Why would a White couple adopt a Black child?

Why wouldn't they?

71 posted on 04/28/2012 11:07:20 PM PDT by Republican Wildcat
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To: DNA.2012
Why go to the other side of the world to adopt?

Why not go to the other side of the wolrd to adopt?

72 posted on 04/28/2012 11:08:12 PM PDT by Republican Wildcat
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To: Republican Wildcat

The question is “Why would they?”


73 posted on 04/28/2012 11:11:02 PM PDT by DNA.2012
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To: Republican Wildcat

The question is “Why go?”


74 posted on 04/28/2012 11:11:40 PM PDT by DNA.2012
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To: DNA.2012
Yes they are: they went to Ethiopia to adopt. Thus, they specifically wanted to adopt a Black child. Why?

Ethiopia is known to have orphans in poverty and that is a country where many adoption assistance groups are very active in. Ukraine is another country currently 'popular' for foreign adoptions.

The skepticism you are expressing is really quite absurd. You can't just accept that people are out there who have it in their heart to provide homeless kids with a loving home?

75 posted on 04/28/2012 11:14:48 PM PDT by Republican Wildcat
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Bah! Don't waste your time giving explanations to strangers. And if they are rude enough to ask, look them straight in the face and say, “OMG! Shes black?!”
76 posted on 04/28/2012 11:16:47 PM PDT by Casie
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To: feralcat
When you read the Replies to the article, you would think the Woman fed the poor Black Kid a Dog or something.
77 posted on 04/28/2012 11:20:55 PM PDT by Kickass Conservative (A day without Obama is like a day without a Tsunami.)
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To: Chiltepe
Everyone's beating around the bush, or curtly telling you to mind your own business, because they are uncomfortable with the answer to your question.

Everyone responded directly to the 'questions' - which weren't appropriate to ask to begin with. No one seems uncomfortable with their answers at all - you just don't want to accept the truth and have to assign vile alterior motives to something as simple as people with the means to do so providing a loving home to a child who was homeless and had no family to love her.

Put frankly, people go to Africa (or Haiti, Cambodia, wherever) to adopt kids for a couple of reasons. They either want them as fashion accessories, like rich girls carrying around expensive little dogs in their purses... or they want to be able to hold them up as merit badges that advance their status in our politically correct culture. Just like white people perceive power in claiming a smidge of ethnic ancestry, they also get brownie points for standing up and saying in a solemn voice that they adopted a kid from Timbuktu and have supposedly suffered the slings and arrows of their intolerant cohorts for their good deed.

I've seen many ridiculous things written before, but that would have to rank in the top 1%.

78 posted on 04/28/2012 11:23:36 PM PDT by Republican Wildcat
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To: DNA.2012
Don't know. Just like I don't know why a young man asks a stupid, uncaring and rude question.

My guess they wanted to adopt. They may as Christians, have some interest in Ethiopia. Who cares? What is very nice is that a TWO YEAR old child who WEIGHED ONLY 14 LBS. was blessed to find a wonderful loving family and in return that child blessed the family. Just to get some perspective, some (not many) children here in the States weigh that at birth!

Now young man, go out into the world and get some humanity along with some humility.

79 posted on 04/28/2012 11:41:34 PM PDT by Chgogal (WSJ, Coulter, Kristol, Krauthammer, Rove et al., STFU. Thank you.)
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To: Chiltepe
They either want them as fashion accessories, like rich girls carrying around expensive little dogs in their purses... or they want to be able to hold them up as merit badges that advance their status in our politically correct culture. Just like white people perceive power in claiming a smidge of ethnic ancestry, they also get brownie points for standing up and saying in a solemn voice that they adopted a kid from Timbuktu and have supposedly suffered the slings and arrows of their intolerant cohorts for their good deed.

Who are you to divine the intentions of others?

Smarmy little prick.

80 posted on 04/28/2012 11:50:43 PM PDT by papertyger ("And how we burned in the camps later, thinking: What would things have been like if..."))
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To: Republican Wildcat
I've seen many ridiculous things written before, but that would have to rank in the top 1%

Anyone who has actually endured the protracted rectal exam that is qualifying for international adoption will know the statements you refer to are on par with the idiots who showed up at emergency rooms demanding their "free healthcare."

81 posted on 04/29/2012 12:04:17 AM PDT by papertyger ("And how we burned in the camps later, thinking: What would things have been like if..."))
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To: jocon307; Mother Abigail; RandallFlagg

That would be Mother Abigail. There is a FReeper here by that name, and also a FReeper named Randall Flagg. Seeing thier names on posts used to tickle me to death.

It’s wonderful book that I’ve read several times, and have the abridged copy, as well.

But, don’t delude yourself that Stephan King is a “garden variety liberal”. He’s as far left as they come.

In fact, not only had I read every book of his since “Carrie”, but I read the first four Gunslinger books when I found out just what a flaming lib he is, and haven’t read him since.


82 posted on 04/29/2012 12:06:03 AM PDT by dixiechick2000 (This hobbit is looking for her pitchfork...God help the GOP if I find it.)
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To: DNA.2012

Because a kid is just a kid, you STUPID ASS.
Children are like Marines; they are only issued in one color, in this case the color is LOVE FOR A CHILD.


83 posted on 04/29/2012 12:07:10 AM PDT by 5th MEB (Progressives in the open; --- FIRE FOR EFFECT!!)
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To: Republican Wildcat; Chiltepe
“I've seen many ridiculous things written before, but that would have to rank in the top 1%.”

I don't know - makes sense because then the kid will get his $164,000 in reparations when Obama signs Executive Bill 8762 on his last day in office.

Thank goodness they didn't buy some kid from Mexico - we got enough of them already.

Okay - enough of my sarcastic rant. The Christian church is pretty active in Ethiopia, and wouldn't surprise me if they were on a mission trip, etc. My brother's family used to go down to Honduras and worked at an orphanage for many years. One boy my brother took under his wing, and after he was too old for the orphanage my brother paid for him to go to college down there. The kid changed his last name to ours - a good Scandinavian name at that!

85 posted on 04/29/2012 12:10:06 AM PDT by 21twelve
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To: DNA.2012

Did you ever stop to think (apparently not)that they might want to pull a child out of some sh*t hole country that will just kill her or sell her into slavery and give the child a chance at a decent life. The adopted child is a human being just in case you didn’t get the word.


86 posted on 04/29/2012 12:14:38 AM PDT by 5th MEB (Progressives in the open; --- FIRE FOR EFFECT!!)
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To: DNA.2012

Around here its like a badge of special do goodery or maybe just easier to get one

Its not my business but here it is the provence of showy liberals

Whatever

Its not my thing


87 posted on 04/29/2012 12:20:35 AM PDT by wardaddy (I am a social conservative. My political party left me(again). They can go to hell in a bucket.)
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To: Amberdawn

Lol

Sounds like you could get some argument on that here


90 posted on 04/29/2012 12:43:05 AM PDT by wardaddy (I am a social conservative. My political party left me(again). They can go to hell in a bucket.)
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To: Chiltepe
As for my view on people's motives for going overseas to adopt, what can I say, I'm as entitled to my opinion as you are yours.

No, you don't, because that is not an "opinion": it's a prejudice. And worse yet, it's a prejudice based on nothing but doctrinaire speculation without any real experience on your part.

Although, to address yours... as someone else said: A lot of you don't want to adopt an American baby because you're afraid you'll adopt a baby with problems owing to his/her mother being an addict. That, unwittingly, undermines the whole premise of adopting poor kids simply because they are in need of a loving home

Bullcrap. Who are you to judge what level of intrusion or burden a family determines it can tolerate?

What? If you can't feed every hungry person it undermines you feeding any hungry person?

How can you not be mortified by proffering such a vapid assretion?

91 posted on 04/29/2012 1:14:38 AM PDT by papertyger ("And how we burned in the camps later, thinking: What would things have been like if..."))
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To: DNA.2012
The question is “Why go?”

Great question.

Go.

As in, go elsewhere.

92 posted on 04/29/2012 2:57:07 AM PDT by Admin Moderator
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To: Chgogal
a TWO YEAR old child who WEIGHED ONLY 14 LBS.

Darn. My 3-month-old weighs 16.

93 posted on 04/29/2012 3:00:53 AM PDT by Tax-chick (Your bulk-rate supplier of colons and semicolons!)
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To: Revolting cat!

Me too—Eritrea. They definitely aren’t into the black-American thing.


94 posted on 04/29/2012 3:26:17 AM PDT by beaversmom
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To: beaversmom

We have several Eritrean families in my subdivision. One evening I was out doing what I call “running,” and was just staying even with the old grandfather on his walk pushing a stroller. “Oh, are you running?” he says.


95 posted on 04/29/2012 3:31:10 AM PDT by Tax-chick (Your bulk-rate supplier of colons and semicolons!)
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To: EDINVA; CrazyIvan

With 3 daughters and one female granddaughter fixen’ to turn two in a few months......

A glass front gun rack just inside the front door works wonders.

As an eye is cast it’s way by a first time visitor my reply is “Yes, and they all work.”


96 posted on 04/29/2012 3:33:28 AM PDT by PeteB570 ( Islam is the sea in which the Terrorist Shark swims. The deeper the sea the larger the shark.)
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To: Tax-chick

The Eritreans that I was/am friends with have since left the neighborhood, but we have several others that live in this area now. They do like to go out for their evening “walk” especially the older folks. There was another African lady in our neighborhood about a year and a half ago. She wasn’t Northern African. I forget which country she was from. She was visiting her daughter for several months. She would “pace” around the neighborhood everyday. Maybe she was bored while her daughter was at work. She would always speak to me even though she spoke very little English, but somehow we communicated pretty well with each other which was surprising. Really nice lady. I wish she would come back for another visit.


97 posted on 04/29/2012 3:42:42 AM PDT by beaversmom
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To: Admin Moderator
You are my hero. Thank you.

/johnny

98 posted on 04/29/2012 4:37:12 AM PDT by JRandomFreeper (Gone Galt)
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To: feralcat

I have a friend from Nigeria who has no patience with the attitude.


99 posted on 04/29/2012 4:45:32 AM PDT by yldstrk ( My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: beaversmom

We have other Africans here, too. Just recently, I’ve been seeing a middle-aged woman in a long skirt and something like a turban on daily walks. The Eritrean ladies wear their cotton-gauze gowns year-round, with coats in the winter!


100 posted on 04/29/2012 4:47:32 AM PDT by Tax-chick (Your bulk-rate supplier of colons and semicolons!)
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