Some of us are unwilling to do that.
The women and the homosexuals aren’t being placed in Muslim countries due to incompetence. They’re all ideologues up to and including the SOS as well as the President. They believe the Muslims and they share common cause in seeking the defeat of Western white male hegemony, and to an extent they do.
We’re seeing the extent to which they don’t at present, though. The late Ambassador is just a bump in the road to them, collateral damage.