Posted on 01/18/2013 2:05:46 PM PST by NYer
Fewer young men in the US want to get married than ever, while the desire for marriage is rising among young women, according to the Pew Research Center.
Pew recently found that the number of women 18-34 saying that having a successful marriage is one of the most important things rose from 28 percent to 37 percent since 1997. The number of young adult men saying the same thing dropped from 35 percent to 29 percent in the same time.
Pew’s findings have caught the attention of one US writer who maintains that feminism, deeply entrenched in every segment of the culture, has created an environment in which young men find it more beneficial to simply opt out of couple-dom entirely.
Suzanne Venker’s article, “The War on Men,” which appeared on the website of Fox News in late November, has become a lodestone for feminist writers who have attacked her position that the institution of marriage is threatened, not enhanced, by the supposed gains of the feminist movement over the last 50 years.
“Where have all the good (meaning marriageable) men gone?” is a question much talked about lately in the secular media, Venker says, but her answer, backed up by statistics, is not to the liking of mainstream commentators influenced by feminism.
She points out that for the first time in US history, the number of women in the workforce has surpassed the number of men, while more women than men are acquiring university degrees.
“The problem? This new phenomenon has changed the dance between men and women,” Venker wrote. With feminism pushing them out of their traditional role of breadwinner, protector and provider – and divorce laws increasingly creating a dangerously precarious financial prospect for the men cut loose from marriage – men are simply no longer finding any benefit in it.
As a writer and researcher into the trends of marriage and relationships, Venker said, she has “accidentally stumbled upon a subculture” of men who say “in no uncertain terms, that they’re never getting married.”
“When I ask them why, the answer is always the same: women aren’t women anymore.” Feminism, which teaches women to think of men as the enemy, has made women “angry” and “defensive, though often unknowingly.”
“Now the men have nowhere to go. It is precisely this dynamic – women good/men bad – that has destroyed the relationship between the sexes. Yet somehow, men are still to blame when love goes awry.”
“Men are tired,” Venker wrote. “Tired of being told there’s something fundamentally wrong with them. Tired of being told that if women aren’t happy, it’s men’s fault.”
Feminism and the sexual revolution have simply made marriage “obsolete” for women as a social and economic refuge, but this is a situation that should not be celebrated by feminists, Venker says.
“It’s the women who lose. Not only are they saddled with the consequences of sex, by dismissing male nature they’re forever seeking a balanced life. The fact is, women need men’s linear career goals – they need men to pick up the slack at the office – in order to live the balanced life they seek.”
A cross section of research data from the Pew Research Center for the last months of 2012 shows the alarming trends for marriage and child-bearing in the US. One report published in mid-December said that the latest census data showed “barely half” of all adults in the United States are currently married, a “record low”. Since 1960, the number of married adults has decreased from 72 percent to 51 today and the number of new marriages in the U.S. declined by five percent between 2009 and 2010.
Moreover, the median age at first marriage continues to rise with women getting married the first time at 26.5 years and men at 28.7. The declines in marriage are “most dramatic” among young adults. Just 20 percent of those aged 18 to 29 are married, compared with 59 percent in 1960.
“If current trends continue, the share of adults who are currently married will drop to below half within a few years,” the report said.
Moreover, the link between marriage and childrearing has become disconnected in the minds of the so-called Millennial generation, those between 18 and 29. While 52 percent of Millennials say being a good parent is “one of the most important things” in life, just 30 per cent say the same about having a successful marriage, an attitudinal survey found.
The gap, of 22 percentage points, between the value Millennials place on parenthood over marriage, was just 7 points in 1997. The research found that Millennials, many of whom are the children of divorce and single-parenthood themselves, are also less likely than their elders to say that a child needs both a father and mother at home, that single parenthood and unmarried couple parenthood are bad for society.
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No, let's change it to “Free Republic of Smart People who see Leaches for what they are, regardless of gender or nationality.”
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How right you are. 8^) It takes a real man to attract a real woman.
But, a big problem exists in our education system. By the time kids get out of high school, they've emasculated far too many males - and half the females have been compromised.
Look among the home-schooled.
My daughter and I work at the same nursing home. Tonight we were discussing how many women at work are divorced. My daughter pointed out that it’s the “young” ones, 40 and under, who are divorced. Most of the older ones are still married.
When you marry, all you are doing is empowering a judge to destroy you.
“They are ALL TOO EASY to bed down, ...”
Reminds me of that movie, “Earth Girls Are Easy.”
Both sexes are to blame for this situation. I think the primary cause for dissolution of the American family is that many people expect perfection and instant gratification. Nobody is perfect. Expecting that in other people is unreasonable and will lead to disappointment. Our desires and expectations are formed from our cultural influences and these forces are not kind to the idea of sacrifice and commitment. There are good people out there and traditional marriage is still possible, but the numbers of such people seems to be dwindling all the time.
Old Hugh Heffner showed us that all women have to be hot and horny. Women’s reaction to this was anger resulting in feminism. Men have reacted to feminism by pulling back from women. Women have reacted to this by pulling back from men. Reminds me of my 8th grade graduation dance with all the guys on one side of the room and all the girls on the opposite side of the room. Forget Hollywood and Madison Avenue. There’s still love and happiness to be found. Quit expecting perfection and 24 hour a day happiness.
The sad part is that it’s true, todays women are Sluts for the most part. Why buy a cow if you can get the milk for free??
“I think the primary cause for dissolution of the American family is that many people expect perfection and instant gratification.”
Reminds me of a song by Mr. Mister called “The Tube.”
THE TUBE
by Mr. Mister
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rs-0SCOQ30E
Hi dear, what’s on tonight
Let’s stay up and watch the tube
And bask in the big blue light
Bye bye real life, checking into checking out
It’s saturation time
Perfect faces, perfect background, perfect everything
I wanna live in a dream that is never ending
I wanna love all the wasted time I’m spending
Tonight I can take it all the way
Because tonight, I’m everything I wanted to be
Well dear, it’s a good thing
I don’t have to look at you
And you don’t have to look at me
I think that’s a good thing
We’re perfect strangers, perfect ohh, perfect everything
I wanna live in a dream that is never ending
I wanna love all the wasted time I’m spending
Tonight I can take it all the way
Because tonight, I’m everything I wanted to be
I wanna live, I wanna live
I wanna live in a dream that is never ending
Tonight I can take it good
I wanna love all the wasted time I’m spending
Tonight I can take it all the way
Because tonight, I’m everything I wanted to be
I wanna live in a dream that is never ending, ooh
I wanna love all the wasted time I’m spending
Tonight I can take it all the way
I wanna live in a dream that is never ending
I wanna love all the wasted time I’m spending
Tonight I can take it all the way
I wanna live in a dream that is never ending
I wanna love all the wasted time I’m spending
I wanna live in a dream that is never ending
I wanna love all the wasted time I’m spending
I wanna live in a dream that is never ending
I have a “real man” son. He has dated and been dumped on by so many shallow women that he is finished at 30. I still hope that someday he will meet his soulmate. His father and I have been married for 39 years.
I never thought that I would ever applaud anything that Mister, Mister did but that song is a pretty good summation of my feeling on the subject.
“todays women are Sluts for the most part.”
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If today’s women are sluts what do you call the guys they have sex with?
Ridiculous statement.
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It’s from their album/CD, “Go On” which has very good songs that have a lot of good commentary on the state of society.
Taking advantage of easy pickins, Women when they were in their “Traditional” roles as Women, Wives, mothers,.. did not GIVE SEX AWAY FOR FREE, there usually was a ring and a date at the very least. Men Were required by their very nature to respect, and treat women like the MOTHER OF THEIR CHILDREN, otherwise they went to the Local Brothel.
The eyes....the eyes......don’t make eye contact!!! Hypnotized!!!!
Good for them. No one wants them anyway.
Don’t lump all american women in together. I’ve been married 30 years, have 5 kids (with the same man) and have been a stay at home mom the entire time and still am. My husband and I live a very traditional lifestyle.
So funny that you posted that picture. Have you watched the video? It’s a riot. My kids know that girl, she’s from my town.
Can’t say I blame you. What an ungrateful witch.
Not a problem, but I wouldn’t care if it was. With my family history, I’ll be lucky to be alive in 5 years anyway.
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I wont marry you, I’ll just insure you!
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