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Why I am not having kids (Addle-brained Lefty Alert)
Seattle Times ^ | January 30, 2013 | Sharon Pian Chan

Posted on 02/02/2013 8:03:59 AM PST by tom h

My husband and I choose to be childless in Seattle, writes editorial columnist Sharon Pian Chan

My husband and I just ended our debate about having children. To breed or not to breed, this was the question...

We have decided we have other things to give to the world. We won’t be having kids. We choose to be childless in Seattle. ...

Feminism empowered women to talk about motherhood as a pursuit that deserves as much attention as men’s work. In the past 20 years, women have bravely spoken about struggles to conceive, which helped educate a generation about fertility. But society rarely hears from women who decide not to have kids.

“Do you have children?” My friend’s standard answer is, “No, and it’s not for medical reasons.” I’m cribbing it.

Will I regret it?

Probably sometimes. Just like parents sometimes regret their choice.

Would I have to sacrifice my career goals if we had a child? Probably. I’ve gone from believing I can do it all to believing that life is short. Saying no to some things allows me to say yes to others.

My husband could be the primary caregiver while I charge after my goals, but then he would have to say no to some of his goals.

Am I being selfish if I don't have children?

I’m selfish for not committing to my hypothetical child’s well-being. But I will have a lot more attention and money to shower on real-life nieces, nephews, mentees and philanthropic causes.

Also, not having a child is the most important thing I could do to reduce my carbon footprint, according to a 2009 study by Oregon State University statisticians. ...

(Excerpt) Read more at seattletimes.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: childless; globalwarming; lattesippinglefty; overpopulation
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This is an almost comical article. This gals thinks she is so incredibly serious, thoughtful, and insightful about the human condition but all she is doing is regurgitating the standard leftist dogma of the past 20 years. After she finished this editorial, no doubt, she resumed gazing at her navel, made herself another latte, and turned the volume back on on NPR.
1 posted on 02/02/2013 8:04:07 AM PST by tom h
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To: tom h

On behalf of humanity, may I say, “Thank you.”


2 posted on 02/02/2013 8:06:27 AM PST by Texas Eagle (If it wasn't for double-standards, Liberals would have no standards at all -- Te?xas Eagle)
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To: tom h
She is doing the world a favor...


3 posted on 02/02/2013 8:07:05 AM PST by darkwing104 (Let's get dangerous)
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To: tom h

Its great starting off the day with some good news.


4 posted on 02/02/2013 8:08:03 AM PST by skeeter
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To: Texas Eagle

Naively helping humanity by not breeding more into this liberal utopian dogma.


5 posted on 02/02/2013 8:08:16 AM PST by alancarp (Obama will grab your guns and ship them to Mexican drug mobs.)
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To: tom h

her choice, I will say this, there is no love to touch that of a mother for her child and there is no misery so complete as your child suffering the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, and furthermore, your child has the ability to enhance your life or wreck your life


6 posted on 02/02/2013 8:08:28 AM PST by yldstrk (My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: tom h
I feel sorry for her. After I got hurt so badly in 2009, one of my daughters picked me up at the hospital in ABQ, and brought me back to Texas, where I stayed with my other daughter until I could sit up by myself, and walk again.

My children have been blessings to me, especially as life events occur, and I get older.

And don't even get my started on my grandchildren. Blessings, all.

/johnny

7 posted on 02/02/2013 8:08:31 AM PST by JRandomFreeper (Gone Galt)
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To: tom h

“Just like parents sometimes regret their choice”.

Perhaps, I hang out with different types of people but I have NOT met one parent yet that regrets having a child. Could they regret not pushing Bobby more when he wanted to drop piano? Sure... but I have never met one parent(s) that regretted bringing Bobby into the world. My paternal Grandmother had a saying: you are a couple and will always be a couple until you have (adopt) a child. A child makes you a family. Otherwise, you will live your life as a couple. The older I get, the more I realize that my matriarchal Irish Grandma was wise!


8 posted on 02/02/2013 8:09:57 AM PST by momtothree
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To: tom h

“Also, not having a child is the most important thing I could do to reduce my carbon footprint, according to a 2009 study by Oregon State University statisticians”

Wow, And who is the recipient that she is concerned about To live in the world with less carbon? Children of the religious people? In any case, thank you lady for your contribution.


9 posted on 02/02/2013 8:09:57 AM PST by MNDude (Guns don't kill people, Democrats kill people)
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To: tom h

Why are they not having kids?
Because God says you should.

That’s the nub of it.


10 posted on 02/02/2013 8:12:20 AM PST by MrB (The difference between a Humanist and a Satanist - the latter admits whom he's working for)
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To: tom h

Why is she still living? After all the “internal insight” of the planets health and the welfare of humans, her career goals....it should be clear that she is contributing the downfall of the universe with her presence.....she might want to explore a big bottle of sleeping pills with a pint of vodka taken at all once.


11 posted on 02/02/2013 8:12:31 AM PST by Dallas59 (America died a little bit more on 11/6/2012)
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To: tom h

I would make one observation...without knowing much on the lady....that she has lived her entire life in a metropolitan area. I doubt that she’s ever gone on a road tour across Iowa, or sat in a humble small-town cafe in Tennessee, or watched a kid’s softball game in July.


12 posted on 02/02/2013 8:12:40 AM PST by pepsionice
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To: MNDude

Her parents should have made the same contribution.


13 posted on 02/02/2013 8:13:40 AM PST by Dan(9698)
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To: tom h
To breed or not to breed

What a weird turn of phrase!

14 posted on 02/02/2013 8:14:03 AM PST by BenLurkin (This is not a statement of fact. It is either opinion or satire; or both)
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To: tom h

I’ll call that a good start!


15 posted on 02/02/2013 8:18:23 AM PST by AndrewB (FUBO)
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To: tom h

Her moral self-righteousness is typical of many liberals.

They remind me of a giant squid squirting its ink, indiscrimanently and in all directions.

‘Pod


16 posted on 02/02/2013 8:18:45 AM PST by sauropod (I will not comply)
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To: tom h
My mom was a senior manager at a global stem-cell bank when she retired. While my brother and I were growing up, she worked part-time. I’ve heard her say more than once: “If I had just had another 16 years, I could have gone so high.”

And what if you had, Mom? Does that mean you wouldn't get old and eventually die?

17 posted on 02/02/2013 8:20:23 AM PST by Tax-chick (If you can't say anything nice, have some more wine.)
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To: darkwing104
She is doing the world a favor...

Yep. Every liittle bit helps.

18 posted on 02/02/2013 8:21:04 AM PST by TADSLOS ( "I ask sir, what is the militia? It is the whole people except for a few politicians."-George Mason)
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To: tom h

“To breed or not to breed, this was the question.”

How appropriate that choice of words are. I have never thought of having and raising moral, responsible, motivated children as “breeding”.


19 posted on 02/02/2013 8:24:24 AM PST by Proud2BeRight
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To: Dallas59

yeah she could further “reduce” her stupid “carbon footprint” if she wasn’t around either.........what lunacy


20 posted on 02/02/2013 8:25:12 AM PST by yldstrk (My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: tom h

I’ll bet the husband looks like the guy claiming to be a French model in the State Farm commercial. I’ll be he is equipped with hipster black frame glasses, a man purse, and sandals..


21 posted on 02/02/2013 8:27:52 AM PST by cardinal4 (Constitution? What Constitution?)
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To: alancarp

The Lord works in mysterious ways.


22 posted on 02/02/2013 8:30:12 AM PST by Texas Eagle (If it wasn't for double-standards, Liberals would have no standards at all -- Te?xas Eagle)
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To: tom h
Also, not having a child is the most important thing I could do to reduce my carbon footprint
Sucker!
23 posted on 02/02/2013 8:30:25 AM PST by Berlin_Freeper
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To: tom h
Given that their kids very probably would have turned out to be *at least* as worthless as their parents I say BRAVO!
24 posted on 02/02/2013 8:32:05 AM PST by Gay State Conservative ("Progressives" toss the word "racist" around like chimps toss their feces)
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To: tom h
We need to promote and encourage this behavior to other liberals.

Pass this article on to all of your liberal friends!

25 posted on 02/02/2013 8:32:36 AM PST by airborne (MY HEROES DON'T WEAR CAPES. MY HEROES WEAR DOG TAGS ! ! !)
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To: tom h

Psst...sweetie....ten bucks says that your little fella is “out” within a month of your piece having been published.


26 posted on 02/02/2013 8:34:05 AM PST by Gay State Conservative ("Progressives" toss the word "racist" around like chimps toss their feces)
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To: Proud2BeRight
I have never thought of having and raising moral, responsible, motivated children as “breeding”

Your point is spot-on. Also, "breeding" and "breeders" are derogatory words used by many homosexuals when discussing traditional marriage.

27 posted on 02/02/2013 8:37:58 AM PST by glennaro
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To: tom h

Well, if this tripe is the “other things” she has to give the world, then she should give the world the pleasure of her silence.


28 posted on 02/02/2013 8:38:12 AM PST by blueunicorn6 ("A crack shot and a good dancer")
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To: cardinal4
I’ll bet the husband looks like the guy claiming to be a French model in the State Farm commercial.

And *I'll* bet that,in his dreams,the husband looks like the creature in the middle.


29 posted on 02/02/2013 8:38:36 AM PST by Gay State Conservative ("Progressives" toss the word "racist" around like chimps toss their feces)
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To: tom h

This is really good news...

The fewer Leftards breeding the better...

Factor in abortion and homosexuality, and the Libs will make themselves extinct...

Hurry...Please!


30 posted on 02/02/2013 8:39:05 AM PST by elteemike (Light travels faster than sound...That's why so many people appear bright until you hear them speak!)
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To: Berlin_Freeper
Also, not having a child is the most important thing I could do to reduce my carbon footprint.

There is one more step but she's just too selfish to take it.

31 posted on 02/02/2013 8:40:14 AM PST by ItsForTheChildren
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To: tom h
LIBERALS breeding themselves out of existence - LOVE IT!!!
32 posted on 02/02/2013 8:40:47 AM PST by Cheerio (Barry Hussein Soetoro-0bama=The Complete Destruction of American Capitalism)
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To: tom h
We won’t be having kids. We choose to be childless in Seattle.

May Father Darwin smile down upon them.

33 posted on 02/02/2013 8:47:08 AM PST by Mike Darancette (Soylent Green is Boomers)
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To: tom h
one less useless eater...
34 posted on 02/02/2013 8:49:26 AM PST by Chode (Stand UP and Be Counted, or line up and be numbered - *DTOM* -ww- NO Pity for the LAZY)
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To: Texas Eagle
not having a child is the most important thing I could do to reduce my carbon footprint

If see really wants to reduce her carbon foot print she can stop exhaling carbon dioxide.

35 posted on 02/02/2013 8:56:15 AM PST by tbpiper
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To: tom h; MeganC
It's good this stupid liberal doesn't want any kids.

It leaves more room for us and our kids.

We will out breed them eventually. :D

36 posted on 02/02/2013 8:57:10 AM PST by KC_Lion (Build the America you want to live in at your address, and keep looking up.-Sarah Palin)
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To: tom h

When she is in the Nursing Home she will probably enjoy watching the others there being seen by their children, and she gets no company at all.

She can always leave everything to her cat.


37 posted on 02/02/2013 9:01:24 AM PST by Venturer
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To: tom h

What a sad pathetic being.


38 posted on 02/02/2013 9:03:24 AM PST by onona (KCCO, and mind the gap)
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To: tom h

Although, I should prolly be happy she’s not breeding.


39 posted on 02/02/2013 9:04:06 AM PST by onona (KCCO, and mind the gap)
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Thank you for not breeding. Now, do us a favor and urge all your fellow liberals to follow your example.

And I’ll get back to you on voluntary euthanasia so we can keep the Earth green and pristine. . .

(This is like shooting fish in a barrel. . . . [evil grin] )


40 posted on 02/02/2013 9:05:37 AM PST by Salgak (Acme Lasers presents: The Energizer Border. I **DARE** you to cross it. . . .)
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To: Texas Eagle

Lefties refusing to breed. Its a good thing.


41 posted on 02/02/2013 9:06:36 AM PST by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose of a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped.)
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To: tom h
Just as well. Liberals are crappy at raising kids.
42 posted on 02/02/2013 9:26:44 AM PST by hinckley buzzard
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To: Venturer

“When she is in the Nursing Home she will probably enjoy watching the others there being seen by their children, and she gets no company at all.”

She’d better learn Spanish, too; they are the ones filling the void where her children would be.

Good riddance to these creatures.


43 posted on 02/02/2013 9:28:14 AM PST by kearnyirish2 (Affirmative action is economic war against white males (and therefore white families).)
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To: cardinal4

It is not a “man purse” if it contains a 9mm or a .38S&W.


44 posted on 02/02/2013 9:29:42 AM PST by Ax
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To: tbpiper

An address to send a bullet is needed.


45 posted on 02/02/2013 9:37:00 AM PST by right way right (What's it gonna take?)
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To: BenLurkin
To breed or not to breed

What a weird turn of phrase!

&&&

I suppose she thinks she is being clever in invoking "To be or not to be" in that soliloquy from Hamlet.

I, for one, am grateful when the lefties choose not to reproduce.

46 posted on 02/02/2013 9:45:02 AM PST by Bigg Red (Restore us, O God of hosts; let your face shine, that we may be saved! -Ps80)
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To: tom h

In all fairness, and despite how it is rationalized, the truth is that many people naturally realize that they just do not have it in them to reproduce and raise children. Many don’t even have enough zip to marry or even have sex.

To even try to marry and make children would injure or kill them, and their children would neither be healthy or happy, and would not, could not, live good lives.

It’s nobody’s fault, just biology, and the only two questions it creates are what percentage of our population are designed to be able to breed and what percentage isn’t; and is there some niche the non-breeders could occupy where they can help, not hurt, society as a whole.

Going back a step, there may be a good biological reasons for children to be born that are not intended to breed themselves.

One suggestion is that the first offspring gets many more dominant genes, and subsequent offspring get fewer dominant and more recessive genes. This makes sense, because more dominant genes would generally make someone stronger and healthier, but could backfire and not work, so the subsequent offspring’s recessive genes might fill the gap if the first one dies off or fails.

This might be somewhat confirmed by noticing that the more older siblings a child has, the more likely they will be a homosexual. And though it has never been studied as such, homosexuals also tend to have far more physical and psychological problems, unrelated to their sexuality.


47 posted on 02/02/2013 10:03:34 AM PST by yefragetuwrabrumuy (Best WoT news at rantburg.com)
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To: Bigg Red

Have met several liberals like that here in the past year. They hate kids and they’re open about it, and they’re not having them.

Whatever. They can do what they want with their lives ...but hush up already with degrading children and parents who DO choose to have children. They should just do their thing and keep their big mouths shut.

I really don’t care what these druids do with their lives. Just leave me and MY happy family alone!!!


48 posted on 02/02/2013 10:04:03 AM PST by LibsRJerks
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To: tom h
We won’t be having kids.

Good.

5.56mm

49 posted on 02/02/2013 10:14:03 AM PST by M Kehoe
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To: Proud2BeRight
I have never thought of having and raising moral, responsible, motivated children as “breeding”.

That's the influence of feminism and homosexual activists. They consider anyone who has kids as a 'breeder', and they're ruining the planet. Whatever. As long as they don't have kids, it will be OUR kids who will be making decisions for them when they're old and grey. Those 'anti-breeders' won't realize just how fortunate they are.

50 posted on 02/02/2013 10:15:58 AM PST by SuziQ
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