Skip to comments.7 Reasons Marriage Is Falling Apart in America
Posted on 04/06/2013 7:32:02 AM PDT by Kaslin
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OTOH, look at the tables for almost any gummint freebie. The bennies go up with the number of dependents. So it pays to have children out of wedlock and claim to be unable to afford them. Two different names means two different benefit flows.
Marriage is falling apart because virtually every new so-called hip and exciting TV program today has a queer in it, a slut/whore, two people living together without benefit of marriage, complicated with a pattern of the usual actor diversity-inclusion standards now the network norm.
Religion, marriage, morals are regularly ridiculed for the hip characters trying to ‘hook up’ their queer friend with some other queer - never dwelling on any of the buggering or other unnatural acts that accompany such.
These contrarian lifestyles have been so homogenized, so diluted, so milquetoasted, I’ll bet you a normal 8 year old who’s been told ‘gay marriage’ is a right couldn’t tell you what these ‘gays’ actually physically do to ‘consecrate’ their unions. It is just sick sick sick perverted degeneration gussied up with network bandaid.
Imho, no fault divorce is the number one destroyer of marriages.
The government has created a disincentive for marriage. It takes money from you to pay the people who don’t get married but create more and more dependents.
“Do you think it is all right for a woman to have sexual relations before marriage with a man she knows she is going to marry? ...Eighty-six percent said no.”
I remember those days very well...
Oops! You forgot the illegal aliens.
Yes definitely one of the prime reasons for the decline in marriage is the MEDIA.
I do not watch any of the current TV shows except a few police sagas. Only others I watch are the old westerns, notably The Rifleman and Have Gun Will Travel.
Reading today in our local rag, a Jax kindergarten teacher was fired for failing to properly supervise her classroom. Seems while she was away from keeping an eye on her charges, one male was giving another a BJ. I had to re read it twice to make sure I had it correct. Now then, where does one suppose one picked up that idea? So, they fire the teacher, frankly I would have melted down the kids and their parents, if they could be found.
What makes this so comical is that "same-sex marriage" has been front and center in the national spotlight even as "heterosexual marriage" is sliding into irrelevancy. To me, this would be the equivalent of the NAACP clamoring for segregated areas for black passengers at the back of all public buses. LOL.
The lack of morality.
It’s falling apart because it’s very legally disadvantageous to men. The deck is so heavily stacked in favor of women that it’s tantamount to involuntary indentured servitude for a term triple or more in comparison to the term of indenture for actual indentured servants historically.
And, men can lose everything they have on a whim, in addition to having their potential future earnings attached, and I say potential because actual future earnings have no bearing on the amount deemed due, unless earnings increase, then hold onto your hat because here comes babymama demanding more.
Out of work, sick? Too bad, off to debtor’s prison you go if you don’t pay tribute to the all-mighty babymama who impoverished you, alienated your children from you and owns a high percentage of your income for years to come.
What’s not to like? /s
They left out the myth of the needed 2-income home.
After a while, when both parents work they have am LLP, not a family. It used to be the man worked, came home, and was doted on by his wife. Now they both come home exhausted, take over from the REAL parent — the nanny — and exchange a few grunts about work.
That isn’t a marriage.
Over time, the lack of intimacy leads to end of the family.
What is sad is when you do the math, 2 incomes doesn’t net very much money at all. Not worth ruining your family.
Unrealistic expectations. Poor preparation.
“...contrarian lifestyles ...homogenized ...sick sick sick perverted generation ...”
I have recently read 2 books written by gays - very good writers, I might add. The gist of it is that the average American has no idea that gays DO NOT have the ability to commit to one man (this applies to most of them, 90% or so)
Part of the personality disorder causes the “chase” to be paramount. THe ones in so called committed relationships usually have an agreement that at least one is cruising/hooking up. This mindset is spreading to the heterosexual population too.
I have 3 20 something daughters and I can tell you their peers are mostly NOT getting married or are having baby daddies outside of marriage. Thank God none of the daughters are buying into it. Still, the hooking up lifestyle is the norm (gay or not) and I don’t think the so called moral majority (now minority thanks to TV as you point out) are even aware of how bad it actually is.
You forgot contraception.
A whole generation of young people will look back someday and notice they had no real childhood, no real innocent childhood sweethearts, no real romances-just meaningless hookups and nothing to have fond memories about....
I dont think they will be too happy about it
I've seen many of my friends dumped by their wives when they found boyfriends they considered less boring or more prosperous.
That, combined with the ability to get sex without marriage, makes marriage unattractive to men with options.
“...pay the people who don’t get married...”
I was recently looking at houses in a city on the metro north train line out of Manhattan. This house was an incubator for Mexican anchor babies. There were at least 25 children living there from 6 months to roughly 5. I cannot describe to you how shocked I was. I am fairly sure that all of the maternity costs were paid for by US taxpayers at some type of maternity clinic.
The demise of this county has already happened. Only fools are maintaining any illusions (republican party?? Joke!!)
WOW!! So right- the idea that women are downtrodden is completely the opposite. Colleges are well over 50% women. I am a woman and the men must wake up.
"All I had to do was have a kid. I never have to worry about a man or a job for the rest of my life. The more kids I have, the more money I get on my EBT card. I don't even have to raise those kids myself. The state does it for me.
Now, excuse me. I have to go get my nails done. I have a date tonight."
“Its falling apart because its very legally disadvantageous to men. The deck is so heavily stacked in favor of women that its tantamount to involuntary indentured servitude for a term triple or more in comparison to the term of indenture for actual indentured servants historically.”
We are already indentured servants on our jobs. They have taken Christmas Eve, New Year’s Eve, and Good Friday away as holidays to make us work. Wages and benefits stink, and it’s hard to find a job at all. Who would want to face the crapshoot marriage has become in their private lives and add to our misery? And I’ve been married almost 36 years.
The government wrecked marriage and the courts and society killed it off.
Happily divorced for 10 years. Why own when you can lease skilled workers for less money?
Men and women no longer need each other to survive. Back when civilization was more agricultural women needed men to plow and plant the fields, hunt the game, build the cabin, etc.
Men needed women to help harvest the crop, can the vegetables for the winter, bear and raise the future farmhands (the children), cook his meals, etc.
Now we can get everything we need at Wal-Mart and McDonalds.
No one has to buy the cow today. There's free milk everywhere. Because of the morning after pill, a man can ride 'em hard, put them away wet, and move on to the next critter.
Easy women are a dime a dozen. They're disposable. Use 'em, and then throw 'em away!
I can’t recall a more depressing thread in all my years with FR.
No argument with any of the opinions expressed in these posts; they’ve all been insightful and accurate.
The calamity that has befallen our culture is beyond reckoning.
“No fault divorce is the number one destroyer of marriages.”
You mean, automatic “his-fault” divorce.
...a more depressing thread...”
ALL of the threads could be tied into this cloth, sorry to say...
This thread has attracted great minds, as well.
So, let’s go stoic with Marcus Aurelius and get real.
"With the transfer of the means of production into common ownership, the single family ceases to be the economic unit of society....The care and education of the children becomes a public affair; society looks after all children alike, whither they are legitimate or not."
Libtard government policies that cause the collapse of marriage plus homo marriage are causing Engels' prediction to be coming true, which is their goal anyway. When the government raises all children equally, that is the way to achieve their goal of equality of opportunity.
see my #19
I saw a commercial for Sprint a while ago where this hot girl gets on a lounger next to a guy and says something like she loves her I-Pad on Sprint and he says "yeah so does my husband". They must have gotten many e-mails like mine because I never saw the commercial again.
Yep. And I'll add Religions have ignored sin.
“...the government wrecked marriage and the courts and society killed it off...”
Amen. The whole gay marriage issue is a canard. Marriage has NOTHING to do with government - so let them wreck it. Let it go.
Commitment not every can do it.Only the strong can.
The reason that Gay marriage has gotten so much traction is that traditional marriage has become de-linked from child-rearing already. IOW’s society no longer accepts the basic assumption of the family unit based on a married couple. So why not Gay marriage? (or any other alternate interpretations of the institution?)
I think the hip-gay on the hit TV sitcom is more a symptom of family decline than an underlying cause. But going forward you might be more right. Everything is a feed-back loop.
Scary and true. Ok, unless you have daughters and you really care that they find someone who can commit.
“...why not gay marriage..”
We are done. Christianity attempted to raise women to equal status. Even if a person is not Christian, that capital rode for many centuries for the benefit of many, even if they had not clue as to why.
And that is why the Catholic church requires Pre-Cana classes before you can marry in the Church.
Get rid of the "Set up for life" social programs, and people will start needing and wanting each other again. Neighbors will start needing neighbors again. Nation and nation, kingdom and kingdom will start working together again.
The politicians, who like playing God, have sold the people of the world a lie for the sake of their own power and privilege (and their tower of socialist Babble is just about ready to fall).
Agree the politicians are a big part of the problem they make people weaker not stronger.
For it’s all about votes and power.
I remember the Murphy Brown/Dan Quayle exchange.
We conservatives need to push back harder. Quayle and others (Bill Cosby) have been severely beaten after they have confronted the mainstream on unwed mothers and the very obvious causes of poverty.
For anyone to be attacked for the number one cause of all of the social issues in our society is ridiculous.
Poverty and violence in the inner cities can be traced to a broken home.
We have 6 children 3 boys and 3 girls.Nobody was allowed to move in with someone.If you did you could leave your partner at home because they were not welcomed in my house.They also knew to marry in their faith and commit to it.As a family we back them up and we all help.If you have children we help watch them.If you buy a house do it based on one salary.The kids all stuck to it.Biggest thing is your faith.Go to church.I have a 30 year old daughter,most of her friends live together.She is married with a child.Her friends say they are afraid to have children.I can’t figure it out.
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“... Catholic church Pre-Cana, etc...”
All true, except the Church has given up since Vatican II. The Chruch quit its true teaching (magisterium) role in the 60’s.
Thanks. You add the missing ingredient. There has been a lot of good points made on why marriage breaks up. You have made the point of what keeps marriage intact forever.
Children with a stay at home mom and an involved dad is hard to beat.
When asked are YOU brain washed to some extent.?...
If you say NO, then you surely are... and maybe delusional as well..
Propaganda is a scientific fact... “Logans Run” is a metaphor of reality..
Intimacy no longer has meaning beyond the pleasure of the moment. A man no longer needs to win a dame’s heart with chivalry and sonnets of love.
On free milk everywhere, as Aristotle observed that which is ubiquitous is deemed less valuable than that which is rare.
I agree, albeit with a heavy heart, with the poster who saw all of this as merely symptomatic of the broader collapse of Western civilization.