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Would You Practice Polygamy If It Were Legal?
Slate ^ | Friday, July 26, 2013 | Faye Wang

Posted on 07/27/2013 12:15:47 PM PDT by nickcarraway

No.

And not because of moral reasons, it's simply a matter of practicality. I've never seen a polygamous relationship in which every participant was happy and content. Because of my research into alternative lifestyles, I actually know a lot of people who are in polygamous relationships (there are support groups for that, you know). I don't think it is immoral, as long as all parties involved are consenting adults.

However in practice, such a relationship requires way too much energy to maintain, and one or two people are always left feeling unhappy, undervalued, not needed, and not loved. Human beings are selfish and possessive, especially when they're in love. Very few people are capable of sharing their loved ones with other people, even under the pretense that you receive love from the other person. This is especially true if the polygamous relationship is 1 male + multiple females or 1 female + multiple males. One will undoubtedly become the favorite, and the other will end up resentful and feeling depressed.

An ideal situation, which most polygamous relationships I knew were trying to achieve, is somewhat a "network" of love, instead of a pyramid. For example, in a relationship with one male and three females, if the love exists only between the male and each female, it's not going to work. It has to be male and female, and female and female, in other words, everyone needs to love everyone.

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1 posted on 07/27/2013 12:15:47 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

No thanks, I don’t need to hear two women complaining all day...one is enough.

;)


2 posted on 07/27/2013 12:16:26 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: dfwgator

amen


3 posted on 07/27/2013 12:17:36 PM PDT by driftdiver (I could eat it raw, but why do that when I have a fire.)
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To: nickcarraway
Easy, who wants two mother in laws?

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4 posted on 07/27/2013 12:17:38 PM PDT by M Kehoe
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To: nickcarraway

Absolutely not. The penalty for polygamy is multiple mother-in-laws.


5 posted on 07/27/2013 12:17:57 PM PDT by lowbridge
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To: nickcarraway

legal does not make it okay


6 posted on 07/27/2013 12:19:23 PM PDT by GeronL
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To: dfwgator

I told my wife that when she turned 40 I was going to trade her in for two 20 year olds. She said I wasn’t wired for 220


7 posted on 07/27/2013 12:19:35 PM PDT by spudville
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To: lowbridge
The penalty for polygamy is multiple mother-in-laws.

The penalty for polygamy is multiple wives.

8 posted on 07/27/2013 12:20:12 PM PDT by thesharkboy (posting without reading the article since 1998)
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To: nickcarraway

No. My wife would kill me.


9 posted on 07/27/2013 12:20:16 PM PDT by M.K. Borders (All I require of my government is the liberty my Grandfathers were born to.)
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To: nickcarraway

Yes, but only if if they can all go to work all day while I play golf.


10 posted on 07/27/2013 12:20:19 PM PDT by entropy12 (Even tho Obama is now a lame duck, with 2014 House majority, he will be a dangerously socialist!)
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To: nickcarraway

NO, NO, NO!

One wife was one too many.


11 posted on 07/27/2013 12:20:33 PM PDT by null and void (You don't know what "cutting edge" means till you insult Mohammed.)
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To: lowbridge; M Kehoe

Perhaps marry sisters? LOL


12 posted on 07/27/2013 12:20:48 PM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet (You can't invade the mainland US There'd be a rifle behind each blade of grass.)
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To: dfwgator
Ohhhh, I don't know...

 

Them Sister Wives are HOT!

13 posted on 07/27/2013 12:20:59 PM PDT by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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To: spudville
I told my wife that when she turned 40 I was going to trade her in for two 20 year olds. She said I wasn’t wired for 220

Could be worse.

She could have offered to hook you up to 220...

14 posted on 07/27/2013 12:22:19 PM PDT by null and void (You don't know what "cutting edge" means till you insult Mohammed.)
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To: nickcarraway

It’s difficult enough living with one woman and much less with two, three or four.....


15 posted on 07/27/2013 12:22:28 PM PDT by kenmcg (scapegoat)
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To: nickcarraway

No, disappointing one woman is enough for me. :)


16 posted on 07/27/2013 12:22:44 PM PDT by Veggie Todd (What difference does it make?)
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To: nickcarraway

Heck, it’s taken me nearly four decades to train the one I’ve got.


17 posted on 07/27/2013 12:23:00 PM PDT by Jeff Chandler (o : Tagline Test ; -)
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To: kenmcg

Of course, there is one upside...the wives would have each other to talk to about their feelings, instead of nagging you about it.


18 posted on 07/27/2013 12:23:27 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
Perhaps marry sisters? LOL

[Duck Dynasty] Si: Hey Jack, that makes sense.

That made me think of twins for some reason...

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19 posted on 07/27/2013 12:23:54 PM PDT by M Kehoe
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To: null and void

Ouch! Shocking!


20 posted on 07/27/2013 12:25:42 PM PDT by spudville
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To: nickcarraway

hold on- I’ll ask my wife if it’s OK

I’ll be right back (I hope)


21 posted on 07/27/2013 12:26:08 PM PDT by Mr. K (4 election)
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To: nickcarraway

Not on your life. I married once, divorced many years ago, raised two sons alone, and have been happy in the solitude my old age has afforded me.


22 posted on 07/27/2013 12:26:59 PM PDT by mass55th (Courage is being scared to death - but saddling up anyway...John Wayne)
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To: nickcarraway

I’d do everything that’s illegal now were it legal!


23 posted on 07/27/2013 12:27:49 PM PDT by Revolting cat! (Bad things are wrong! Ice cream is delicious!)
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To: lowbridge

So, marry the MIL too!


24 posted on 07/27/2013 12:28:36 PM PDT by Don Carlos (01/20/2009 - Begin the Obama Interregnum. Will it ever end?)
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To: Jeff Chandler
Heck, it’s taken me nearly four decades to train the one I’ve got.

My wife of fifty-five years passed away May 30 of Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. While she was in hospice care here at home, she said, "I don't want you to get married again. If you do, I'll come back and haunt you." I told her I didn't have another fifty-five years to train another one. I miss her every day.

25 posted on 07/27/2013 12:28:46 PM PDT by saminfl
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To: nickcarraway

Many married men have a wife, a mistress and multiple one night stands. Actually a polygamist has a stronger moral position since he has made an open commitment and is not hypocritical.


26 posted on 07/27/2013 12:28:52 PM PDT by allendale
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To: nickcarraway

As many here predicted — the “gay’ marriage advocates who promised that they wanted nothing to do with polygamy or pedophilia have turned to the next attacked on civilized society.


27 posted on 07/27/2013 12:29:17 PM PDT by BenLurkin (This is not a statement of fact. It is either opinion or satire; or both.)
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28 posted on 07/27/2013 12:29:48 PM PDT by RedMDer (When immigrants cannot or will not assimilate, its really just an invasion. Throw them out!)
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To: nickcarraway
Really? Six women telling me how to (fill in the blank) or that if I did it fast enough it wasn't right; or if I did it right I didn't do it fast enough?

No thank you. The sex part is overrated

29 posted on 07/27/2013 12:29:49 PM PDT by Mikey_1962 (Obama: The Affirmative Action President.)
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To: nickcarraway
Who has the apartment space for all those people?

And where will all the shoes go?

-PJ

30 posted on 07/27/2013 12:30:36 PM PDT by Political Junkie Too (If you are the Posterity of We the People, then you are a Natural Born Citizen.)
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To: GeronL

“Legal” has nothing to do with what is moral, or practical, or emotionally satisfying.

Only in some fantasy entertained by a megalomaniac would it even contain any internal logic. And those who are caught in this web of fantasy are truly enslaved.

Not to get off-topic, but these seem to be the very characteristics that are integral to the whole concept of Islam - the gratification of wide-ranging fantasies for a very few favored individuals, who maintain their supremacy by threat of deadly force and intimidation of lesser entities.


31 posted on 07/27/2013 12:30:59 PM PDT by alloysteel (Unattended children will be given a Red Bull and a free Kazoo. Reminds me of Congress...)
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To: nickcarraway

No! It causes multi-mother-in-law syndrome!


32 posted on 07/27/2013 12:31:13 PM PDT by Islander7 (There is no septic system so vile, so filthy, the left won't drink from to further their agenda)
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To: nickcarraway
Polygamy only works - as it has throughout human history - for rich and powerful men who choose to take in one or more wives and concubines.

Take away the man's wealth and power, or try a polyandrous relationship with multiple men to one woman, and things go south in a big hurry.

33 posted on 07/27/2013 12:31:31 PM PDT by Mr. Jeeves (CTRL-GALT-DELETE)
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To: nickcarraway

Pass.


34 posted on 07/27/2013 12:31:58 PM PDT by cripplecreek (REMEMBER THE RIVER RAISIN!)
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To: M Kehoe
That made me think of twins for some reason

Let me tell you about my identical Thai twins sometime.


35 posted on 07/27/2013 12:32:05 PM PDT by ASA Vet (Don't assume Shahanshah Obama will allow another election.)
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To: nickcarraway

Oh, he!! no. One is too many. :-)


36 posted on 07/27/2013 12:32:15 PM PDT by ataDude (Its like 1933, mixed with the Carter 70s, plus the books 1984 and Animal Farm, all at the same time.)
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To: lowbridge
Ha, I beat you by .4 seconds.

Of course gmta.

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37 posted on 07/27/2013 12:32:27 PM PDT by M Kehoe
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To: Jeff Chandler
"Heck, it’s taken me nearly four decades to train the one I’ve got." My thoughts, exactly! ☺
38 posted on 07/27/2013 12:32:53 PM PDT by Old Forester
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To: ASA Vet
Let me tell you about my identical Thai twins sometime.

Methinks that tale is told only by FReep mail.

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39 posted on 07/27/2013 12:34:54 PM PDT by M Kehoe
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To: nickcarraway

The Cockney rhyming-slang for ‘wife’ is ‘trouble and strife’. Why would you want to multiply the trouble and strife in your life (see, poetry).


40 posted on 07/27/2013 12:35:35 PM PDT by expat2
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To: alloysteel

The same with all leftists, they refuse to live in the real world. Facts are old school. Feelings and desires is the new schools.


41 posted on 07/27/2013 12:37:23 PM PDT by GeronL
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To: nickcarraway

My wife says no.


42 posted on 07/27/2013 12:37:29 PM PDT by Blood of Tyrants (Inside every liberal and WOD defender is a totalitarian screaming to get out.)
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To: nickcarraway

I might practice, but I wouldn’t turn pro.


43 posted on 07/27/2013 12:38:44 PM PDT by Defiant (In the next rebellion, the rebels will be the ones carrying the American flag.)
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To: nickcarraway
I don't think it is immoral, as long as all parties involved are consenting adults.

Then why should the author care? The key word here is "consenting", i.e. they want to do it. Today's morality is based on the premise every human being of age has the wisdom and goodness of God and can therefore dictate what is good and bad. Funny that nothing is bad anymore (except for those that think that there are bad things).

On another point: interesting that the pro-gay marriage crowd is petrified of polygamy and is using the tactics of the traditional marriage proponents to bash the polygamists. Meet the new boss, etc.

44 posted on 07/27/2013 12:40:54 PM PDT by randog (Tap into America!)
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To: lowbridge

“The penalty for polygamy is multiple mother-in-laws.”

Oh man - I never thought of that!


45 posted on 07/27/2013 12:41:24 PM PDT by MichaelCorleone (Jesus Christ is not a religion. He's the Truth.)
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To: nickcarraway

Bigamy: One wife too many.

Monogamy: See bigamy.


46 posted on 07/27/2013 12:43:30 PM PDT by Pollster1 ("Shall not be infringed" is unambiguous.)
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To: nickcarraway

I would consider it if it were the traditional 1 guy, multiple girl situation.

But I find the idea of 1 girl and multiple guys completely repugnant.


47 posted on 07/27/2013 12:44:29 PM PDT by TexasFreeper2009 (Obama lied .. the economy died.)
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To: nickcarraway
And not because of moral reasons, it's simply a matter of practicality. I've never seen a polygamous relationship in which every participant was happy and content.

But isn't this a moral reason?

48 posted on 07/27/2013 12:44:40 PM PDT by Irish Rose (Will work for chocolate.)
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To: entropy12
Yes, but only if if they can all go to work all day while I play golf.

I never thought about it that way. Maybe I will change my mind in regards to this subject. :-)

49 posted on 07/27/2013 12:44:52 PM PDT by OldMissileer
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To: nickcarraway

Leaving people, usually women, “feeling unhappy, undervalued, not needed, and not loved” is exactly why it is immoral. Duh.
The TLC program “Sister Wives” claims to show a happy polygamous family, but at least two of those wives are very unhappy over the addition of wife number four, and that is evident just from catching glimpses of commercials for the program.


50 posted on 07/27/2013 12:45:10 PM PDT by Wiser now (Socialism does not eliminate poverty, it guarantees it.)
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