Skip to comments.Redefine Marriage, Debase Language? Get ready for the throuples.
Posted on 08/08/2013 7:11:16 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
Merriam-Webster is going to have to update the next edition of its dictionary, at least if marriage redefiners have their way. Do you know what the words monogamish, throuple, and wedlease mean? If not, you soon will. After all, the power to redefine words is the power to redefine reality.
Lets start with monogamish, a play on monogamous. A 2011 New York Times profile of gay activist Dan Savage, headlined Married, with Infidelities, introduced Americans to monogamish relationships in which partners would allow sexual infidelity provided there were honest admissions of it.
The monogamish perspective is one of the purported ways in which redefining marriage to include same-sex relationships would make marriage better. The article explained: Savage says a more flexible attitude within marriage may be just what the straight community needs. After all, the story added, sexual exclusivity gives people unrealistic expectations of themselves and their partners.
If a marriage can be sexually open, why should it be limited to two people in the first place? Meet the word throuple, which is similar to couple but with three people. The word popped up in a 2012 article in New York Magazine that described a specific throuple this way:
Their throuplehood is more or less a permanent domestic arrangement. The three men work together, raise dogs together, sleep together, miss one another, collect art together, travel together, bring each other glasses of water, and, in general, exemplify a modern, adult relationship.
More or less permanent. Indeed, some activists come down in favor of less. Consider wedlease, a term introduced in early August in an op-ed in the Washington Post. Why should marriage be permanent when so little else in life is? Why not have temporary marriage licenses, as with other contracts? Why dont we borrow from real estate and create a marital lease? the author writes. Instead of wedlock, a wedlease. He continues:
Heres how a marital lease could work: Two people commit themselves to marriage for a period of years one year, five years, ten years, whatever term suits them. The marital lease could be renewed at the end of the term however many times a couple likes. . . . The messiness of divorce is avoided and the end can be as simple as vacating a rental unit.
Examples can be multiplied. In July, Washingtonian magazine ran a story about polyamory headlined Married, But Not Exclusive. The article tells us that the word means many loves and that, as in most major cities, Washingtons polyamorous community is tight-knit.
The liberal online journal Salon in early August posted a womans account of her shared life with a husband, boyfriend, and daughter, under the headline My Two Husbands. The subhead: Everyone wants to know how my polyamorous family works. Youd be surprised how normal we really are. The author writes: As far back as I can remember, I felt that loving one person romantically did not preclude the possibility of loving another at the same time. It seemed natural and intuitive to me.
So, whats wrong with these trends? Whatever we may think about the morality of sexually open marriages, or multi-partner marriages, or by-design-temporary marriages, the social costs will run high.
If a man doesnt commit to a woman in a permanent and exclusive relationship, the likelihood of creating fatherless children and fragmented families increases. The more sexual partners a man has, and the shorter-lived those relationships are, the greater the chance he creates children with multiple women. His attention and resources thus divided, a long line of consequences unfold for both mother and child.
We need to define marriage correctly if we want marriage to do the work it must do.
At its most basic level, marriage is about attaching a man and a woman to each other as husband and wife to be father and mother to any children their sexual union produces. When a baby is born, there is always a mother nearby: That is a fact of reproductive biology. The question is whether a father will be involved in the life of that child and, if so, for how long. Marriage increases the odds that a man will be committed to the children whom he helps create and to the woman with whom he does so.
Marriage, rightly understood, brings together the two halves of humanity (male and female) in a monogamous relationship. Through vows of permanence and exclusivity, husband and wife pledge to each other to be faithful. Marriage gives to children a relationship with the man and the woman who made them, their mom and dad.
But ideas and behaviors have consequences.
The breakdown of the marriage culture since the 1960s made it possible in this generation to consider redefining marriage in the law to exclude sexual complementarity. But if the law redefines marriage to say the male-female aspect is arbitrary, what principle will be left to retain monogamy, or sexual exclusivity, or the expectation of permanency?
What these new words and redefinitions have in common is that they make marriage primarily about adult desire, primarily an intense emotional relationship between (or among) consenting adults, regardless of size or shape. And why should relationships among consenting adults be exclusive? Or permanent?
If justice demands redefining marriage to include the same-sex couple, will some argue that it demands including the throuple? Or the wedlease? Love equals love, after all.
Ideas once whispered only in obscure academic journals now secure prominent billing in mainstream outlets. But if we redefine marriage to say that men and women are interchangeable, that monogamish relationships are just as good as (better than?) monogamous relationships, that throuples are the same as couples, and that wedlease is preferable to wedlock, then well witness more broken homes and broken hearts.
Ryan T. Anderson is the William E. Simon fellow in religion and a free society at the Heritage Foundation and the editor of the online journal Public Discourse. He is the co-author, with Sherif Girgis and Robert George, of the book What Is Marriage?: Man and Woman: A Defense.
For crying out loud.
We are rapidly approaching the point, where even the left looks at each other and says “OK we’ve gone too far”.
When the left look right and the right look farther right, we wind up looking at what we’ve become: assholes.
Society is degrading much faster than I ever could’ve imagined.
As long as the option to buy doesn’t become mandatory after a period of time, and early termination penalties are fixed.
Police fear going to places with these kinds of situations because they are ripe for violence and in which murder is not very far behind.
The Scriptures wisely says that sexual sin affects the whole body. It affects not only the body of the individuals who participate, but also may affect those severely around them.
We see this daily on 'Cops' and will see it more as the adulterization of Marriage continues. And the Lord may not put up with it for long.
Has anyone ever written a treatise on homosexuals always hooking up with their Doppelgangers?
I think we have found one Laz wouldn’t hit.
“We need to define marriage correctly if we want marriage to do the work it must do.”
To the state in the modern era the correct definition of marriage is simply whatever judges, pols, or the voting majority thinks it is at any one time. Sometimes the state’s definition is the correct one, sometimes it isn’t, but no matter what the state will always act as if it is correct, how can it do anything else? For many faiths the state’s definition hasn’t been the correct one for a long, long time.
a sexless feminist and two homosexuals.
homosexuality is nacicism. The homosexual wants to have sex with the person in the mirror.
RE: We are rapidly approaching the point, where even the left looks at each other and says OK weve gone too far.
I’d like to know who that is, seriously...
cannot be unseen....!
But why limit it to three? Just legalize “N-marriage” where N is an integer number of sexes, preferably all from the same species.
(Yeah, I know, then there would be protests by the Fractionals...)
the Islamics have a wedlease, you can lease for even just a few hours (longer if you buy those decadent little blue pills from The Great Satan)
I think the government is quickly going to learn that redefining marriage to include virtually any pairing of two or more is going to be very costly and rife with fraud. For instance children “marrying” an elderly parent on their death bed for the sole purpose of avoiding inheritance taxes and collecting social security survivor benefits
Gawd, even if you combined the best qualities of all three of them you would be lucky to create a composite that was more than a 3 out of 10 on the looks scale.
I’ll take my lexicography from Mark Twain.
Could we make a grand compromise?
Before applying for a marriage license, you must check off a box saying “non leftist” or “leftist”.
If you say “non leftist”, the only allowable marriage is one man, one woman.
If you say “leftist”, anything goes. Three woman, two men, one man who calls himself a woman, plus two dogs and a goat, fine. Only thing is: NO CHILDREN. You breed, you must give up the child for adoption to a non-leftist. Given how leftists are constantly complaining about how much work it is to have children, I can’t see how they’d mind.
Twenty years after that policy is put in place, the country will have lurched significantly rightward and the left would basically be in aging inner-city reservations thinking the rest of the country is paying attention to them, when basically, we’re just avoiding them.