Posted on 03/27/2014 7:07:41 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
Jill Knapp begs us to “Please Stop Asking Me When I’m Going to Have Children.”
Being that I am still a newly-wed and have just moved to a new city, I am in no rush to have a kid. This is an unacceptable answer to a lot of people. The constant reminders that your clock is ticking and that you don’t want to be confused for your child’s grandparents when they grow up are not making us move any faster. Having children is a big responsibility.
What Jill doesn’t understand is that her fertility is not subject to whim or wishful thinking. Her chances of getting pregnant decline rapidly after 30. By age 40, less than 5 out of every 100 women will be successful at conception. When the Jills of this world decide they want children at 36 or 38 or 42, they enter a long, often fruitless quest for safe pregnancy and childbirth.
Men achieve fertility at 12 years old and can father children all the way to 96. Women have a narrow fertility window of around 16 to 40. That’s a fertility gap of up to fifty years!
Noted feminist Camille Paglia hits the nail on the head in “Put the Sex Back in Sex Ed,” when she argues that women are not properly educated about their limited fertility. Instead, this subject is ignored, leaving girls like Jill with the impression that they should enjoy their twenties like men do, partying and traveling and working at a profession, and when the desire for a baby strikes they’ll be ready.
That’s male thinking. This doesn’t work for women. The lack of education about the fertility gap leaves many women in a desperate race to conceive at the end of their fertility cycle. Young women must be educated about the fertility gap. It’s not fair, it’s not equal, and it’s not subject to wishful thinking. If women want to be mothers, they have to start thinking like women and stop acting like men.
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According to the dictionary, the word ‘kid’ has three meanings - all legitimate.
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/kid
And yes, one legitimate definition of “kid” is a ‘young person’.
According to the etymology of the word, ‘kid’ has been an acceptable way of referring to a ‘human child’ since at least the 1590’s.
So I choose not to change the entire English language because you’re offended by an ancient implication. (Which probably did start because a gang of rowdy children does resemble a herd of rambunctious baby goats.)
The day I do, I’ll stop referring to those in the Air Force as ‘airmen’ and start calling them ‘airpeople’. I’ll also stop calling my cat my ‘pet’ and call him my ‘non-human companion’. And my ‘husband’ can become my gender-neutral ‘partner’.
The fertility they are talking about is the most fertile period. Many women are still fertile into their early 50’s, there is just less likelihood of conception happening and a pregnancy taking hold.
I know someone who conceived at 55 (total shock and surprise) and was 9 months pregnant at her 29 year old son’s wedding! Her husband was 65 and had just retired when they found out she was pregnant. He went back to work.
It does happens, but statistically not often enough to sway the main fertility period cited.
Children born to older fathers have a higher risk of autism and poor performance at school
The latter is the best plan if you want children.
However, you’d better be thinking of starting your own business at age 40-45 as few to nil companies will hire you, especially if you have scant job experience. Heck, a lot of companies won’t hire you at that age even if you do have a lot of experience.
Research confirms antidepressant-autism link
‘Virtually every study shows increased rates of developmental delay in children’
http://www.wnd.com/2014/03/research-confirms-antidepressant-autism-link/
.......Well there was one Abraham and Sarah who had their son Issac well into their old age.
Fertility is the potential of having children. One could be very fertile and only have one child while someone less fertile could have 5 children. In other words fertility is the odds of conceiving.
But it is based on real numbers for the theoretical average woman of a particular group.
But it ignores birth control and abortion. Certainly I won’t argue that our population growth is very low, especially compared to some other populations, but that doesn’t infer that our fertility is lower.
I agree with you. Abortion, birth control, stillborn deaths and other factors do affect the fertility rate.
This is the time for the Godly to shine because they choose life while others choose death.
Same thing happened to a friend of mine. The oldest I’ve ever heard of a woman getting preggo with her first baby (naturally) is 42. Maybe there are some older, but I haven’t heard of them.
Yes...that’s what I tried to say, but you said it better.
Misleading at best - that's for a single month. Here's a clip from the linked article:
A woman’s best reproductive years are in her 20s. Fertility gradually declines in the 30s, particularly after age 35. Each month that she tries, a healthy, fertile 30-year-old woman has a 20% chance of getting pregnant. That means that for every 100 fertile 30-year-old women trying to get pregnant in 1 cycle, 20 will be successful and the other 80 will have to try again. By age 40, a woman’s chance is less than 5% per cycle, so fewer than 5 out of every 100 women are expected to be successful each month.
In other words, the chance of a 40-year-old woman conceiving is about 1/4 that of a 30-year old.
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