Skip to comments.Flash: Christians Actually Far Less Likely to Divorce
Posted on 08/18/2014 4:25:18 AM PDT by Kaslin
This is a game-changer. Talk about an old wives tale. Youve heard it said that 1) 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce, 2) most marriages that do happen to make it are, nonetheless, unhappy, and 3) Christians are just as likely to divorce as non-believers.
These claims, long understood to be research-based facts, never quite sat right with me. Still, admittedly, while these assertions do swim upstream against the flow of both our common sense and our common experience, we have, nevertheless, accepted them (present company included) as valid because well, you know, because social science
As it turns out, your gut was right. Its all nonsense urban legend of a sort, propagated, most likely, by the same post-moderns who, today, seek to similarly undermine the God-designed institution of legitimate man-woman marriage by redefining it into oblivion.
Shaunti Feldhahn is a Harvard-trained researcher and author. In her recently released book, The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce, Feldhahn details groundbreaking findings from an extensive eight-year study on marriage and divorce. Among other things, her research found:
In an interview with CBN News, Feldhahn shared that, like most of us, she had swallowed the anti-marriage propaganda hook, line and sinker. She believed, that most marriages are unhappy and 50 percent of them end in divorce, even in the church.
The CBN story continues:
I didnt know. Ive stood up on stage and said every one of these wrong statistics.
Then eight years ago, she asked assistant Tally Whitehead for specific research on divorce for an article she was writing. After much digging, neither of them could find any real numbers.
That kicked off a personal, years-long crusade to dig through the tremendously complicated, sometimes contradictory research to find the truth.
First-time marriages: probably 20 to 25 percent have ended in divorce on average, the study revealed. Now, OK, thats still too high, but its a whole lot better than what people think it is, Feldhahn added.
CBN noted, [T]he 50 percent figure came from projections of what researchers thought the divorce rate would become as they watched the divorce numbers rising in the 1970s and early 1980s when states around the nation were passing no-fault divorce laws.
So, in other words, and I wish I could say I long suspected this, the 50-percent divorce figure is simply a myth based upon decades-old (and woefully inaccurate) speculation. As it turns out, the shelf-life for marriages in the U.S. has taken a sharp turn for the better since the 1970s and 80s.
But the divorce rate has been dropping, Feldhahn said. Weve never hit those numbers [the 50 percent figure]. Weve never gotten close.
And its even lower among churchgoers, where a couples chance of divorcing is more likely in the single digits or teens, added CBN.
Additionally, the study determined that four-out-of-five marriages are happy. That number flies in the face of the popular belief that only about 30 percent of marriages are happy.
Most people think most marriages are just kind of eeh just kind of rolling along, observed Feldhahn. And theyre shocked when I tell them that the actual average is 80 percent: 80 percent of marriages are happy.
The studies show that if they stay married for five years, that almost 80 percent of those will be happy five years later, she concluded.
Still, of the studys many myth-busting revelations, the fact I found most interesting (and instructive) was this: Of all marriages, Christian marriages prove the most durable.
The Good News About Marriage also reveals the divorce rate among those active in their church is 27 to 50 percent lower than among non-churchgoers, noted the report. Feldhahns hope is that once people learn the truth that they will spread it far and wide.
This is a great chance, she said, to stand up and say. We were all fooled. Not anymore.
Indeed, Fool me once and all that.
Ive covered it before. Heres what marriage is: the God-ordained, lifelong, covenantal union between man and wife, designed to provide men, women and children optimal stability and overall well-being. Marriage is that biologically, spiritually and morally centered institution calculated to ensure responsible procreation and perpetuate the human race. Marriage, real marriage, represents the fundamental cornerstone of any healthy society (any society that hopes to survive, at least).
Heres what marriage is not: Anything else.
In short, marriage is what it is.
Its encouraging to learn that, even under the increasing barrage of no-fault divorce and sin-centric marriage re-definition artillery, this cornerstone institution has, thus far, survived all efforts to destroy it.
Its even more encouraging to learn that, as with all things, marriages built upon the rock of Christ prove stronger still.
I agree with Shaunti Feldhahn. Lets spread the good news far and wide.
Good news. Another “fact” that has been fed as propaganda. I am finding more of them.
Why are they showing Right hands when the wedding rings go on the LEFT hand.
I remember dating an Argentinian girl who, once we’d been out a few times shared why she got divorced having 3 kids. I figured it was a painful experience for her. Turned out it was because “she was bored.” I’m thinking she didn’t really want to discuss it in detail but she was so convincing, I really was shaken by it. I never saw much of her after that, I just didn’t want to be around that type of thought.
I would bet that homosexual “marriage” has a 90% divorce rate. The state run media will never disclose this though.
One of the more interesting statements in this article: “[T]he 50 percent figure came from projections of what researchers thought...”
In other words, a wild guess that turned out to be false. I suspect that this guess work is also prevalent in demographic studies.
Yeah - the OCD in me kicked in the moment I saw that: somebody flipped the photo?
I was shattered...
Looks like a German couple (rings on the right hand...)
Maybe they are Europeans’ hands.
It’s probably a picture from some European couple. For example in Germany the wedding ring is worn on the right hand. During the engagement period the ring is worn on the left hand and is then switched over to the right hand during the wedding ceremony.
He is now to be among you at the calling of your hearts
Rest assured this troubador is acting on His part.
The union of your spirits, here, has caused Him to remain
For whenever two or more of you are gathered in His name
There is love, there is love.
Seems a tad stronger of a foundation for a flourishing healthy relationship than...
I had NO idea of that.....I’ll have to pay more attention.
Because the author couldn’t find any ACTUALLY married people to take a photo for this article?! /s
LOL good catch!
it’s sort of difficult to quantify this as an individual. because when we do learn of people who have been in church for years getting divorced, it is very surprising and painful. so it takes on more prominence than it ought. but even then, it is nowhere near 50%.
in my own church experience, I am very familiar with a lot of second marriages as well.
at the end of the day, the 25% figure sounds about right I guess....just doing my own “statistics”.
You noticed the bride wears a wedding band and a diamond ring. I was born and raised in Germany and when I grew up the bride wore the same band that she got from the groom when they got engaged.
So maybe it's something new. I haven't been back to Germany since 1979 when my husband was transferred back to the States and he retired from the Army after 21 years, 11 month and 7 days of service. Plus two tours in Vietnam for which he both volunteered. BTW we married in Germany
19 years tomorrow, been together for 21.
Hmmm ... sort of like the whole anthropomorphic global warming scam without the $ motivations to keep it going.