FReeper Canteen ~ Sunday Chapel ~ THE FIRST STEP IN RESOLVING INTERPERSONAL CONFLICTS ~ 31 May 2015

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[Kathy in Alaska]

 

 

 

THE FIRST STEP IN RESOLVING INTERPERSONAL CONFLICTS

C. W. Moore, in his book, The Mediation Process: Practical Strategies for Resolving Conflict defines conflict as "struggles between two or more people over values, or competition for status, power, or scarce resources." Experts in conflict management believe that conflict is inevitable in any organization or relationship. Many strategies have been developed to mediate and resolve organizational and interpersonal conflicts. What is usually missing in these mediation processes is a biblical understanding of the nature and causes of conflict. James 4:1-2 indicates that the causes of fights and quarrels among us come from our desires to win, to have our way, to get what we want, to control the outcome. Therefore, according to God's direction, the first step in resolving interpersonal conflicts requires a self-examination of our motives, desires, wants, positions, and interests. The Bible teaches us to look within, and discover our own faults, before trying to correct the faults of others. Matthew 7:3-5 illustrates this point, "And why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."

Although conflict is unavoidable, it is not always negative. In fact there are some very positive outcomes that can be derived through conflict. The Chinese form the symbol for "conflict" by combining two terms: danger and opportunity. Conflict can be a destructive experience, or the opportunity to clarify confusion, roles and expectations. Conflict always provides an opportunity to glorify God, to serve God, and to grow in grace. Conflict gives us a chance to show God that we love, respect, honor, and trust Him. It also allows us to demonstrate to others God's principles of love, forgiveness, and humility. Philippians 2:3-4 advocates a spirit of collaboration in dealing with conflicts in interpersonal relationships. That is, to place the thoughts, ideas, and feelings of others on par with our own. As Stephen Covey suggests, "Seek first to understand and then to be understood."

Conflict mediation techniques and strategies are very useful and necessary. However, God would have us include some more significant ingredients to the resolution processes the two "Great Commandments:" "To love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength ... and to love your neighbor as yourself" (Mark 12:29-31). Trust these two great commandments and they will take you where you need to go, imbue the right spirit within you, and direct you in the things you do.

CAPT Leroy Gilbert, CHC, USN

 

[mylife]

Good Day.

Just applied for my lifetime VFW card membership.

[ConorMacNessa]

Good afternoon, Mylife - congrats on the ap for lifetime membership!

[mylife]

Post Commander said I was banned if I was eligible and had not signed up after 3 visits LOL

[SandRat]

[Kathy in Alaska]

I love the “understanding” of the little ones. The things they hear are precious.

[SandRat]

Most definately,

[Grateful2God]

ha Ha Ha...lots of things end up Haydn in the Bach of the cabinet. Lol! You never know where Jimmy Hoffa could be...

I was having a bad day until my boyfriend sent me a Ros-sini vase! 🌹🎶

Have a beautiful evening, and God bless you!

[E.G.C.]

BTTT

[E.G.C.]

BTTT

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I am so glad you got a Ros-ini vase!

I have been so Bizet, I have not been able to Khachaturian Break!

My To-Do Lizst is getting so long, I just want to stuff it in my Purcell, Go to a Bar(ber), Hoist a Meyerbeer, and Roch-ma-nana-off!

I will watch myself, though, and behave, as I do not want to be branded with a Scarlatti letter.

[Grateful2God]

Lol, that was great!!! Have a blessed day! 😀🎶

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U2!

(I’ll stop now. Don’t wanna Beatle a dead horse with no name.)

[Grateful2God]

No don’t stop- think a-bout tomorrow! I’m really good at Songburst- or as we say in Italian: Bono!

[left that other site]

OK..I won’t stop.

Wild Horses Couldn’t tear me away from the Canteen. I used to be a n00b, but, I got to admit, it’s getting better...a little better all the time.

But, try to remember, you can’t always get what you want!

[Grateful2God]

🎵 Hel-lo, it's me! 😀

Great job! My brain's been on "stall" so I cheated and looked up some classical composers. Here's one that gave me a chuckle: Pietro Gnocchi. Actually from the Baroque period, he was a real Renaissance man- mufti-talented. Funny part: his name translates into "Peter Dumpling"! Just like Alfredo Coccozza, aka Mario Lanza, "Al Squash"! Talk about losing something in the translation!

Gnocchi, the food! The lines come from rolling little pillows of dough over an inverted fork...

I have no idea what Ezio Pinza would be in English. Some enchanted evening I may figure it out... Maybe it's not for me to say!

God bless you!

[left that other site]

Sam Schwartz, from the Bronx, looked EXACTLY like Ezio Pinza.

Everywhere he went, people would point at him and yell, “EZIO PINZA!!!!” to which he would reply, with equal fervor, “SAM SCHWARTZ, FROM THE BRONX!!!!”

One day, Sam had to take a business trip. He hailed a cab to Laguardia, and as he stepped off the curb, the cab driver pointed at him excitedly and yelled, “EZIO PINZA!!!!” To which Sam answered:

“SAM SCHWARTZ, FROM THE BRONX!!!!”

He gets to the airport. The Check-in attendant takes one look at him and yells:

“EZIO PINZA!!!!” To which Sam answered:

“SAM SCHWARTZ, FROM THE BRONX!!!!”

He gets on the plane. The stewardess takes one look at him, points at him excitedly, and says:

“EZIO PINZA!!!!” To which Sam answered:

“SAM SCHWARTZ, FROM THE BRONX!!!!”

Finally he gets to his destination. Somehow he gets the key to the wrong hotel room, and when he goes into the room he is confronted by a ravishing blonde in a filmy negligee.

She takes one look at him and exclaims:

“EZIO PINZA!!!!” To which Sam answered:

“SAMMMM en CHANTED EVENING......!!!!”