Posted on 11/18/2015 7:13:09 AM PST by SoFloFreeper
Nah, they were all born that way.
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This is normal, rally it is!
Its the freaks that want to be as they were born that are abnormal...
Black is white, up in down, and poop is pudding.
This is the new normal.
What a better way for attention hound parents to get their 15 minutes of fame than to encourage their child to be the first one on their block to be transgender. The media is blasting this all over television, magazines etc. That Mattel boy in the Barbie ad comes from such a family.
44 posted on 11/18/2015, 3:15:17 PM by Hot Tabasco: “The actual facts of the story is that she lost her husband who claimed to be a tranny.........don't go off on a tangent.”
I agree with Tabasco. This story hits home for me because I've known several wives and one husband whose marriages were destroyed by this sort of thing, marrying spouses who appeared normal but had a hidden crossdressing problem that then blew up into full-fledged homosexuality. I don't think it is possible to overestimate the level of real courage (not Jenner pseudo-courage) it takes for a woman to tell a story like this publicly. I'm not saying any of the people here on Free Republic are trying to “blame the victim” but I do think we need to be careful to avoid doing that.
A few comments:
1. Yes, there are things missing from the story. They're missing because she's focusing on the main point of her husband being a crossdresser who calls himself transgender, not secondary issues. Those secondary issues are important, but the article would have to be dozens of pages long to fully answer all the questions which could be asked about how a marriage fell apart.
2. As fwdude correctly pointed out, “’Business owner’ does not necessarily mean an executive or a professional.” She doesn't explain what kind of business she was running, and the article didn't really need to get into that because the type of business wasn't relevant. It's very possible that it was a viable small business which generated an adequate income but not enough to support a family with several children and a large house with a mortgage. Lots of women have found that out the hard way after their husbands died, became disabled, or lost their jobs. To be fair, the loss of a wife's second job can also cause major problems for a husband whose job does not pay enough to afford their mortgage, car payments, student loans, etc. Of course it would be better not to get into that kind of debt, but many people make that mistake and our society actively encourages it.
3. For PAR35 regarding child support: There are indicators in the article that her ex refused to pay child support for at least part of the time.
4. Resolute Conservative wrote: “Odd, I have never seen a woman lose anything in a divorce. And he should have lost everything.” I have seen such things happen, and have seen them repeatedly. Good lawyers can do really bad things if the husband gets angry enough and the wife isn't vicious enough to fight fire with fire. In our modern liberal environment, we can't expect judges to believe it's the man's job to be the provider for the home, especially if both husband and wife owned their own businesses. If the woman doesn't play the feminist card she may lose a lot to an aggressive divorce lawyer if the judge doesn't believe it's his role to step in and ask hard questions about the financial settlement presented to him by the lawyers.
5. Free Republic has a lot of successful entrepreneurs who have built some significant businesses. That's great. But it's not the same mentality as a former stay-at-home mom who later decided she wanted to have her own business as a second income. It takes a kick-butt entrepreneur to take a small business and build it into a medium-sized or big business. Not everybody is able to do that or even wants to do that.
6. I agree with sportutegrl on one red flag: she seemed to trust her husband to handle her financial affairs, not only in her home but also in her business. However, small business owners know they have some things they're good at and some things they're bad at, and if she couldn't afford to hire a full-time bookkeeper (and most small business owners can't) it makes sense to focus on the core product and let others take care of the behind-the-scenes financial matters. It sounds like her husband had control of the finances in her home because she trusted him to manage them well, so why wouldn't she trust her husband to manage the financial affairs of her business as a free bookkeeper? Of course that turned out to be a REALLY bad decision but there's no way she could have known her husband would turn out to have this sort of problem. Clearly, being transgender is not on most people's radar screen of being something for wives to worry about.
Bottom line: She's a victim of a very bad man. No, she probably didn't do all things right. But she is a victim not only of one bad man but of some really bad changes in society which encourage rather than punish men who do such things.
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