Posted on 05/08/2017 12:03:46 PM PDT by Kaslin
My daughter, Cassie, recently had a visit from a childhood friend. It had been 17 years since they’d seen each other. After visiting and sharing stories of their lives, Ashley, my daughter’s friend, commented that Cassie had accomplished so much, earning a master’s degree and starting a successful career and she was “just a mom.”
My daughter looked down at her friend’s beautiful little girls through tear-filled eyes, “Ashley,” she said, “I would give anything to have what you have. Just a mom are the three most powerful words in the world.”
I often wonder how many other mothers feel like Ashley. It’s kind of hard not to when society has been so successful disparaging what used to be considered the noblest of professions. It’s even harder amongst dishes, diapers and a never-ending mound of laundry. We’ve all had those days when we wonder if it’s all really worth it. I’ve had plenty ofthosedays. You know the ones where almost everything you do seems to be a grand waste of time. Like the days when you find permanent marker all over the wall you just finished painting or red Kool-Aid stains bleeding into the carpet you just shampooed. It makes it easy to look at Hollywood stars, corporate executives, or media professionals and wonder if we should be doing more with our lives. And yet, many of those women—who seemingly had it all—have left those very jobs to be full time moms. Why? Because they know motherhood is the most powerful, most influential profession in the world—and comes with the greatest rewards.
If I wanted to destroy a society and tear down a free nation I would do exactly what the Destroyers of Liberty are doing. I would launch a full out assault on women. I would do everything I could to discredit and devalue them. I would try and convince them that motherhood is insignificant, that they need a job and title of be of value. I would convince them they need experts to teach and nurture their children. I would convince them they have to do it all, be it all and have it all to be truly successful. I would do everything I could to pull the women from their homes and their families—especially their children—because I,like the Destroyers of Liberty, know just how powerful their influence is.
The mothers of a nation mold its institutions, develop its character and shape its destiny. There is no other profession on earth that possesses that much power and influence. Oprah Winfrey said, “To play down mothering as small is to crack the very foundation on which greatness stands…It is on her back that great nations are built.”
America needs us and God is counting on us. The women of America play a vital role in the preservation of our country. The values and principles our nation was founded on will utterly vanish without us.
A few years ago while living in Hawaii, our family had the opportunity to learn about the history and culture of the state. I was particularly interested in the story of the hula. While we have come to associate the hula with luaus and Hawaiian vacations there was a time when it meant much more. The hula was how the Hawaiian people preserved their culture, history, heritage, and their language. In the early 19th century whenChristian missionaries came to HawaiiQueen Ka’ahumanu converted to Christianity. She determined the hula to be an immoral, idle past time and issued an edict banning the hula. It was forbidden to perform it or teach it. Hula schools were closed and the hula virtually vanished from public life.
Decades later a new king, David Kalakaua, was on the throne. While traveling through Europe King David was impressed with the music and theater unique to the area. As he explored the European culture further he realized the uniqueness of his own culture. When the king returned to Hawaii he called his advisors together and told them he wanted to bring back the hula but he didn’t know how. What did it look like? How was it even done? They thought the hula was dead. To their surprise, however, what they found was an entire kingdom of children who had been taught by their mothers and grandmothers. The government had outlawed the hula but the families preserved it in their homes. And when the king called for the hula the people rose up and delivered it.
That is the powerful influence of mothers. It is the influence we have on our culture when we create a foundation of liberty in our homes, sharing and living the principles of liberty and virtue with our children. And when the day comes when all hope seems lost and people cry out “where is liberty? Who can show us how to do this?” Our children will rise up, carrying the banner of freedom, and say, "we know it because our mothers taught us."
This Mother’s Day remember just how powerful the words “Just a mom” are. And when you’re cleaning up the kitchen after your “breakfast in bed”, planting this year’s mother’s day flower or reading that handmade card your children colored, remember you are not just raising children, you’re changing the world!
Excellent!
Being a mom might be everything described, but I can never romanticize motherhood. My mother abandoned me when I was about 10 months old. As a result, my ill-equipped father first placed me with one relative and stranger after another until I was old enough to be put in boarding school where I stayed until graduating high school. All the time growing up, I never heard so much as a single word from my mother. I didn’t even know she was alive until my father died and I notified the only relatives on her side that I knew. Not all women are good mothers. The only thing some mothers give their children is lifelong hurt.
I wonder why the author’s daughter isn’t a mother, and why she felt the need to point out her degrees and successful career as opposed to being “just a mom”, and if the daughter is so tearful and upset about it why not quit her job and be “just a mom”. Sorry, but I’ve had far too many conversations like this with childless, successful women who just like being snobs while being “so sorry”. Guess it hit a nerve. :/
A couple weeks ago, I was in contact with someone I used to work with, some over 30 years ago. As I was updating him on my life, I got a little wistful, of “where had all of the time gone?”, and feeling like I had not been as “successful” somehow, as we had both expected. Then looked back over the years of raising my kids, mostly on my own, while working full time, keeping food on the table, a good home for them, and attending all their school events, teacher conferences, sporting events, etc. And now they are 28 and 32, both college grads, both have excellent careers, never in trouble... And started thinking I was maybe a lot more “successful” than my earlier evaluation.
Beautifully said. No one can replace a mother, just as no one can replace a father. God knew what he was doing. On a side note, nothing can replace a fungus—had to get that in!
Exactly. It is how Lenin destroyed generations of people, by forcing women into the workforce so they could be totally controlled and their little children would bond with the State (and turn in their parents if they didn’t “think” correctly.)
The Prussian schools-—and all preschools were designed to destroy normal mind integration and intellectual growth (no Davy Crocketts are possible in such a artificially controlled system which destroys agency) and to create an efficient system where they could destroy the integration of the brain (free will/individualism) for a socialized brain—one which will fear disagreeing with the herd. They will NEVER state the TRUTH for fear of the mob mentality (snowflake brownshirts).
They have done NUMEROUS studies on the minds of young children and the stress that ALWAYS results when removed from the Natural family before the age of 8. Only a few hours a week-—and ONLY with people you completely TRUST to not traumatize and bully your kids until the age of reason (around 7) when they will NOT internalize the trauma-—they will be able to handle themselves-—but NEVER in the Prussian school with mass indoctrination where they are totally outnumbered and helpless.
“The hand that rocks the cradle,
Moves the World”
Certain ingredients have to go into the “just a mom” life. I know a few that really wanted that path but never got the significant other to make it work.
No one ever asked them to get married. There are tons of fantastic loving women who never met the guy who would settle down with them and raise a family.
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A few years back I got flamed to a crisp for saying things like that here.
Looks like the times they are a’changin’ — back.
Feminists teach women that children are a burden, they weigh you down. Don’t have them until you’re established in your career. (Hint - most people only have jobs, not careers, and fewer define themselves by it by choice.)
Now you have women waiting until their mid to late 30s to try to find a partner, and they find most of the men who want to marry are taken. The good enough were passed over while seeking Mr. Perfect, who doesn’t exist. So now they are playing musical chairs and risk loneliness, second-hand husbands with baggage or the losers that didn’t marry. Or single motherhood, which college educated know is bad for children, so rarely choose from the get-go.
In some cases, they have a partner but put off children until they find out it is biologically too late.
These factors combined explain why 20% of women in their 50s are childless versus the historical 10%, in the US, and a third of college graduates in Germany.
When I was in my 20s, I had feminists tell me I was too young to have children, build my career. Had 2 before 30. At 40, I have several peers who are desperately trying fertility treatments, one couple trying to adopt, others resigned to childlessness/singleness/both. One bucked the trend and became a single mother of 2 by artificial insemination.
I don’t regret downshifting my career to have children. I think much of the rage directed at women who prioritize children is cultural programming that this is a waste, while others do so out of “sour grapes”, raging that they don’t have what the mothers do.
Stephan Molynaux posits that social justice warriors are so anxious due to the hyper-supervised environment that they cry out for protection from anything that bothers them, and because they were overwhelmingly in daycare from infancy, they do expect the authorities to solve all disputes and protect them down to their hurt feelings.
My own mother put forth the garbage paradyme that I should value a career above children. I never valued a career above children and frankly don’t see any other point to life than investing in one’s children whether one is male or female. What’s the point?
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