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Posted on 12/09/2001 9:59:41 PM PST by Don Myers
Survey finds 10 partners before marriage 'normal'
The majority of young people think it is normal for a person to have at least 10 sexual partners before marriage.
A survey has also found that three in 10 believe it is acceptable for a girl to lose her virginity before the age of 15.
Research carried out by Brook, the youth sex advisory service, says there is a "cultural change" in young people's attitudes towards sex.
Some 64% of men and 54% of women agreed that it was acceptable for a person to sleep with more than 10 partners before getting married.
But the survey, which questioned people aged 17 to 25, also showed that they wanted more information about sex and contraception.
Men admitted to getting most of their knowledge about contraception from TV and magazines, while women learned the most from magazines and their mothers.
Half of all the young women surveyed said they wished that teachers had supplied them with more information about preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
Brook chief executive Jan Barlow said: "Young people have an increasing number of sexual partners and they are saying that's OK.
"But at the same time they don't have the information and access to services that they need.
"Young people must seek out advice and information in order to make their choices and to understand how to protect themselves both against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases."
Thank you Mullah Omar.
How are things with the Talibornagain?
Of course! If you don't have sex you don't get pregnant or get sexual diseases. DUH! In fact, purity is the ONLY method that works 100% against both of these events.
God Save America (Please)
I have been watching teens at work. I have a job working around teens. Ten is a conservative number.
Thanks for pointing that out. I thought it was an American survey. I wonder how the U.S. compares.
You are not the only one out there to be saving yourself for marriage. Take it from this 33-year old. (Actually, I'm glad I read your post...I was beggining to think *I* was the only one out there!).
It is difficult to meet the "right guy" these days though. I don't know where the nice, responsible guys are these days, but unfortunately, I haven't been meeting them! lol!
That is what has happened to this generation. It will continue getting worse. Morality is largely a thing of the past, and doing whatever feels good is the order of our times.
Then why would you make a stupid statement like: "If America doesn't turn back to Christ, it deserves to be ruled by Muslims".
That seems to confuse the two.
Some patriot you are--you and OBL see America the same way. You simply disagree on what you call 'God' and the 'book'.
Funny how the ones who are married and don't have to sleep alone are always the ones saying that.
I understand it is much the same. Some people say that Britain is further down the road, but I don't think so. Britain and America have been exchanging cultures for many years now. The results have not been good.
Conditions are rapidly declining now. I was last in Britain some 12 years ago. We were able to walk down London streets without thought of crime. My parents-in-law were there about 3 or 4 years ago, and they said that pickpockets are really a problem now. There are signs posted telling people to beware of the pickpockets. That is only one thing that has changed for the worst in recent years. The decline is coming faster.
In America, we have the rapid spread of drugs. The teens are especially fond of "ecstacy." They are using other drugs as well. As for sex, girls on a casual date are expected to put out. They know the rules and they comply.
I saw a survey once that said that the average age in America for a girl to lose her virginity is down to 16. And that is the average age. Many teens are fond of "parties" with booze, drugs, and sex. The schools are now handing out condoms. Many teens use the condoms, but others don't. I was driving around some boys the other day. They were listening to a local radio station that was playing the standard filth that the young people listen to now. The radio DJ made a comment about, "fill her faster than a drunken prom date."
Sex, drugs, and booze is what the young people know, and this generation is a real "interesting" group.
Oh, sorry...forgot that sleeping around at age 15 and having multiple partners in a world full of deadly STDs is "normal".
I'm probably a lousy parent by today's standards...
What is normal to one does not have to be normal to someone else. If you work at an Instutition for the Criminally Insane, the common thing is for the person there to be an insane criminal. They do outnumber the staff members. For most of the people there to be criminally insane establishes the commonality and normalcy as deviant behavior to the staff members who are not insane or criminals.
On the other hand, the individual insane criminal can see the staff members as being deviant and different from him- or herself. In the way that the Institution is a society, the situation is the same in the larger society, which is our nation.
What is common and normal for the larger proportion of society establishes both the commonality and the normalcy for that society. That is why the left has been so busy changing society to its own image of what is normal and common. They have used different means to achieve their ends, but they have been very successful. And you can see just how successful they have been by comparing how our society is now based on what it was not so many years ago.
This change can not be solely attributed to a rule of evolution of a society based on advances. The changes have been both technological and moral. It is the moral change in which we now find out ourselves up the proverbial creek.
Well, I guess that your behavior was not normal based on the rest of society, but it is highly commendable and desirable.
You could, perhaps, try marriage yourself. There is someone for everyone.
Reminds me of a Churchill joke. Remember the one about, we have already established what you are, we are now negotiating the price?
That comment was completely unnecessary.
It is a well known fact that many males would prefer to avoid the raincoat. It is really the girls that need to know about condoms, where to get them, how to apply them them in a manner that will be acceptable to their hot male buddy and how to judge if they are being used properly.
They're the offspring of other mutants.
Always wanted to. But it takes two.
There is someone for everyone
Another platitude usually offered by someone who already has someone. Sort of like a fat guy telling a starving person that "food isn't all it's cracked up to be".
But his comment about America deserving to be ruled by Muslims was just ducky?
Did it ever occur to you that those who are now married were once single?! Did it ever occur to you that many of those single folks didn't marry til their 30's? I was one of those...as was my husband. Self control is a virtue...not a prison sentence.
You have taught them to be pure. There are tens of thousands of people who have been taught to be pure who slip. I have no idea what the percentage it, it could be very small.
Since you are not teaching your kids about condoms and STD, if you kid does slip and does contract AIDS, I assume you feel that is appropriate punishement for their slippling.
Calm yourself. I have the best method of self-control available--I'm ugly :-)
I'll say it again...you've advocated free and promiscuous sex in teenagers saying you wouldn't want to deny them their natural desires. Could you liken yourself to Larry Flynt? He introduced his daughters to sex...personally...by porn and molestation. Do you advocate this? Or did you personally 'just' encourage your kiddos to *go for it?
Calm yourself. I have the best method of self-control available--I'm ugly :-)***
Don't worry...I'm quite calm. ;o)
Why is the word *were* of such importance? I remember full well the self control my husband and I practiced.
You're ugly, huh? I doubt that. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It comes from the heart. There's plenty of handsome men in the world with dark hearts...which makes them horrid to look at. There's also plenty of men who aren't typically handsome .. but their hearts make them unbelievably and wonderfully easy on the eye. ;o)
"Son, If you have sex outside of marriage you will eventually get a sexual disease. It may even be a fatal disease. You may get the girl pregnant. If so, you will be responsible for that child until it is adopted or until it is 18. You are worth far more than throwing your future away just to fulfill your lust. You will also seriously harm your future married sex life. It's far better to save yourself until you are married."
"Daughter, if you have sex outside of marriage you will eventually get a sexual disease. It may even be a fatal disease. You may also get pregnant. Remember that no contraceptive method is 100% effective and that you will bear responsibility for that child until they are adopted or until they are 18. You are worth far more than selling yourself to someone you would not marry. It's far better to save yourself until you are married."
What's so hard about that? I've told them all they need to know about premarital sex. "Don't, you'll eventually get caught". If I've raised them correctly up until that point it will never be a problem.
[Truthful disclosure time, I have one child, a daughter, who is the worlds most beautiful 13 month old angel. But when she's older this is how I'll teach her aout sex. It's for married people only.]
Overall I think some of you folks are taking this survey too seriously. Everybody always thinks that everybody else is "doing it" more than they are. Some people think this nation is a heaving sea of fornication and that all single people do is have wild promiscious sex everyday. The reality is much tamer than that.
Condoms don't stop AIDS or pregnancy. Giving them a false sense of security is worse then leaving them totally ignorant. If they stay pure then they stay healthy. Quite simple actually
The "Just say no" to drugs campaign was such an astounding success that you may well be doing the right thing.
Only time will tell if you are right.
I know *many* families who are teaching abstinency to their kiddos. It's important to know the truth of an issue...certainly this issue bears highlighting the truth.
Take care. ;o)
When I was in high school (1980), I knew a girl who had been with 25 guys before she turned 18.