Skip to comments.The cure for homosexuality: solution that brought him out of 'gay' life
Posted on 07/23/2002 2:04:07 AM PDT by JohnHuang2
I remember my childhood days in the early '70s when my friends and I would get together in their basement and play "house." I would be the daddy and my friend Lynn would be the mommy. Her younger sister Claire would be our little girl. A 4 foot by 4 foot miniature vinyl Barbie playhouse was our "home sweet home." It was a great time of make believe and pretend, fantasizing what the "real thing" would be like one day. Deep down, I really had a secret crush on Lynn and loved playing house with her, more than she ever knew. Besides, it took me away from the unstable family life I had at home of a real mommy and daddy who both drank and fought much of the time.
Many years later as an adult in the early '90s, I remember lying in bed together with my partner on a Tuesday night. Tuesday night was TV night for us. We'd both come home from work and after dinner, clean up and put on a pot of coffee. Then we would get into some comfy T-shirts and cuddle up with each other as we watched "Roseanne" and our other favorite shows. After the 11 o'clock news, we'd do some sit-ups, turn off the lights and peacefully fall asleep in each other's arms. I clearly remember listening to the sounds of the crickets with a cool breeze blowing through our slightly opened windows. Our bedroom was filled with the romantic pale light of the moon and the star-studded New England night sky.
As I look back at that time in my life, I remember exactly how I felt. We had it all. We were on top of the world. A beautiful home, a dog, two cats, great friends and a loving, long-term, committed "storybook" relationship. No doubt, we were going to be partners for life. OK, so it wasn't exactly as I pictured it years earlier with Lynn and Claire, but hey, he was the man of my dreams.
As I sit here now typing, burning the midnight oil, I hear those crickets outside my window. I can see that same pale moon resting in that same star-filled New England sky. My two little children are both fast asleep after daddy prayed with them and read them "Goldilocks and the Three Bears." My beautiful wife also is sleeping tranquilly after reading her Bible and saying her prayers. She prays on her knees every night for our family members, as well as countless other families and friends across the country whose loved ones are entrapped in the homosexual lifestyle.
As I look back on all those years of Tuesday TV nights with my boyfriend, I realize the homosexual lifestyle was a deceitful counterfeit of the "real" thing. My partner and I were like the children in my childhood of days gone by. We were two men who thought we had the world in the palm of our hands when in fact, we had nothing at all. We were two lost souls, living in a world of make believe two emotionally hurting boys playing house, desperately clinging onto each other night after night, week after week, year after year.
As homosexual men and women across the country strive for their "special rights," civil unions and ultimately same-sex marriages, I can attest firsthand these individuals are making every attempt to resolve their inner homosexual conflict. These are feelings, thoughts and actions most have had ever since childhood. Many have hidden and suppressed their homosexual feelings for so long, until they finally gave in and "came out" to the world. Their inner struggle for self-acceptance has turned into a misguided outward struggle for civil rights. With each battle won on local, state and federal levels, their pillage is America's acceptance and tolerance. While they fill their storehouses with their vain plunder, they tirelessly continue their unending life-long search for their "holy grail": self-acceptance. No matter how hard they search or how long they try, I'm afraid it is something that will never be found.
Homosexuality is clearly an outward expression of things going on much deeper in a person issues for many originating back to their childhood.
For homosexual men, in most all cases it has everything to do with a lack of relationship with the father. For women, the problem can rest with the mother and/or father or another male figure. For some, molestation or a premature sexual experience was the lead in to the homosexual lifestyle. Whatever the factors may have been to drive someone down that unwanted homosexual path, we must remember one thing: No one was born homosexual. To state such a fact is a tragedy, as well as cop out.
Just as no one is born an alcoholic or a drug addict, the same must be said of the homosexual. "Issues" are what bring a person down these lonely, painful paths issues when finally dealt with will allow the person to come out of their destructive behavior. You don't need to be a psychologist to figure this one out.
In 1992, I became a Christian, accepting Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. When I fully understood the forgiveness God extended to me through the atoning blood of Jesus Christ, I realized the life-changing power that lay within this efficacious act. I knew that the forgiveness that was so graciously given to me now needed to be extended by me to someone else who needed it just as much: my father.
After 28 painful years of a damaged relationship with the one man whose love I craved and desired the most, my many years of wandering and numerous homosexual encounters came abruptly to an end.
It happened one morning in my parents' kitchen. My father and I did something we never really did before we talked. We both dealt with the past, we vented, we questioned, we understood and we healed. And in an emotional embrace I'll never forget, we both did something else: We forgave. I have never been the same man since.
In a single moment of time, the doors to my painful childhood were slammed shut once and for all, never to be opened again. My homosexual needs and desires were gone and I was changed. Completely. My heavenly Father showed me by example what I needed to give to my earthly father. I crossed that fearful heterosexual threshold that so many other brave men and women in my shoes have done before me. And in doing so, I found something I never could have imagined the cure for homosexuality. Forgiveness.
Our acceptance and tolerance of the ever-growing homosexual deviancy in America today is really a paradox. You see, we are actually committing a grave injustice toward these misled men and women. We're not helping these people by affirming them, but actually hurting them even further. By enabling them to remain emotionally stunted and trapped in their pasts, we as a society play a major part in keeping them from their potential futures. And according to the Bible, as a nation, our acceptance and tolerance of homosexuality will keep us from our potential future as well.
I've found the cure for homosexuality. Forgiveness. Share it with your "gay" and lesbian friends. Give them some food for thought.
No doubt I am on a mission today: to bring the truth about homosexuality to the world that no one is born homosexual, it has everything to do with the childhood, and complete change is possible. Completely possible. From the calls that are coming in weekly around the country from homosexual men and women themselves, I can tell you, this message is making a major impact ... one forgiving heart at a time.
I think the author is suggesting that they are deluded.
It's wonderful this man found peace. I pray that all confused individuals will do as well.
Why is it not a winning one? And, why cant you tell me why children cant consent. Ill concede your point should you ever make a valid argument.
No I'd say that Bush is trying the same crap I've been blaming him for the past 6 months and the Republican party for years. Trying to make the conservative party all inclusive. And if you do that, what's the difference between the Republicans and Democrats? Economic policy? Bush has picked up the tent and moved it to the middle of the road at least. When I voted for the man, my intent was to vote for someone that would bring a sense of family, belief in God, and strong moral values back to the White House. If I wanted someone nominating homosexuals and deviants I would have voted for Al Gore
The reason you see this change I fear is that a lot of citizens of their respective states have just given up. Remember the silent majority back in the 80s always spoken about? TV portrays homosexuality as the norm not because homosexuals are the norm in these United States, but because in 'enlightened' Hollywood it is the norm. The silent majority is tired of it, tired of money going to a sickness that while tragic, most of it goes to patients that caught the illness in immorality. I'm not saying that AIDS is necessarily a homosexual illness, but I just don't know of a large number of straight monogamous non drug using folks that catch AIDS
So you enjoy your change because no matter what you see in the media, I've got a real good feeling that most of the citizens of these United States do not or will they ever agree with you
They have already made the argument:
Some quotes from the The Pedophilia/Pedophile Education Web Site Mirror:
"Pedophilia is a sexual-orientation, like heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, etc..."
"It is well-known that several famous persons were pedophiles. For example, the philosopher Plato, is thought to have been one. A pedophile can literally be just about anyone you know... Currently, pedophiles do not even remotely enjoy the same kinds of legal protection that other scapegoated groups (i.e. jews, gays, blacks, etc.) enjoy. Pedophiles often have tough and unhappy lives, since they are not permitted to express who they are... Realize that pedophiles are not going away! A person cannot change his/her orientation any more than a dalmation can avoid spots. Despite eons of attempts to "cure" pedophilia, no such remedy has yet been found..."
"A movement against pedophiles (who are a VERY small minority) is underway on the net. Free speech right must be held up, but sadly there are people too ignorant to see past their hate and who endorse the idea of us being banned from the web... Free web page sites like Geocities have already responded to the pressure of these Fascists by shutting down websites advocating "boy love", while hypocritically leaving up gay-lesbian homepages, and even proudly listing them as members of the community!..."
"The bottom line is pedophiles must no longer be victims of hate-crimes and censorship for their beliefs. We must unite and stand against intolerance until we are accepted like gays are. My being a pedophile is simply a sexual-orientation, nothing more. It has complications due to the guilt applied by society to pedophiles and kids, but it is still not my fault I am a pedophile-even if it is my choice. It is possible pedophilia is genetic, or it may simply be learned behavior, but in any case, I and others like me should not be attacked or flamed for our beliefs. We cannot help what we are, any more than you can!..."
Myth # 4 "Pedophilia is a mental illness"
"No more than homosexuality is! It is a sexual-orientation and a way of life, nothing more. The typical pedophile is a sane, upstanding member of society. He/she is no more crazy than you are. They do not belong in institutions-they need understanding."
Myth # 7 "Pedophilia is always treatable"
"It is NEVER truly treatable. One is who one is. I will always be a pedophile..."
"It is time for a new beginning. Pedophiles should be active in the community to educate the masses on this lifestyle. This is currently very hard to do, but it has to happen sometime. Hopefully, pedophiles will be able to personally inform children inside elementary schools about pedophiles & who they REALLY are. We need classes for this purpose where pedophiles show kids in school that we are not child molesters. We can teach them the truth that other misguided adults will not reveal..."
"This is the Pedophile Credo or Constitution. It supports who we are without apology, and stresses self-acceptance and other child-loving awareness. Read it and learn by heart! Supporters of the PLA (Pedophile Liberation Army) must read this document and defend it... [1..40]... Those were the 40 basic commandments for all pedophiles to live by. One day we will have equal rights under the law, but only if you stand up and refuse to be a victim! This is a war and we need to win it at all costs. Fight ignorance and hate. Pedophiles unite! Pedophiles must organize! Pedophiles must act with one voice... Join the PLA today!"
Notice the similarities between the Pedophile Agenda and the Homosexual Agenda?
'If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death;
Yep. Whatever people do in their own bedroom, barn, brothers bedroom... is their own business.
"I think the author is suggesting that they are deluded."
Yes that is exactly what the author Stephen Bennett said. It is based on his own, before and after, lifestyles. I'm not thinking we need to prove anything to Fethiye or Emmylou. Evidently they are not seeking any greater happiness than they have found already. So be it.
Just know that this author was there. He said he was on top of the world. Everything was perfect. But when Jesus came into his life and offered him forgiveness it completely changed him. The straiined relationships in his life were restored. He found a happiness that he hadn't even dreamed of before.
Bennett writes of his personal experience. Say "good for him" if you want. Say "I am happy enough, thank you very much". But you cannot say, "I'm just as happy as he is" because you just don't know.
I just want you to know that this is the most profound statement I have read on this thread. Statesmanlike, honest and complete. No one could ever argue or dismiss this point.
Most people consider the desire of a man to make love to another man's rump to be a serious disorder. You may not, but most people do. Most people consider such to be filthy and disgusting and highly perverted from the purpose of reproduction. Feces are full of germs, the rectum is clearly not designed for the use to which homosexual men put it, etc. etc. I'm not saying that people shouldn't have the right to do so if they want - just like a man can make love to his cows in his barn if he wants. But you can see why I don't want my kids to learn about such stuff.
Nice catch, JH2; tx.
I think I'll reserve my comments and simply wait to see if this sick b*stard actually tries it. Then I can have a "discussion" with him about it.
These people need to be identified, pursued and locked away in the furthest, darkest rat-infested hole we can find, and I'm not talking about San Francisco.
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