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The cure for homosexuality: solution that brought him out of 'gay' life ^ | Tuesday, July 23, 2002 | Stephen Bennett

Posted on 07/23/2002 2:04:07 AM PDT by JohnHuang2

I remember my childhood days in the early '70s when my friends and I would get together in their basement and play "house." I would be the daddy and my friend Lynn would be the mommy. Her younger sister Claire would be our little girl. A 4 foot by 4 foot miniature vinyl Barbie playhouse was our "home sweet home." It was a great time of make believe and pretend, fantasizing what the "real thing" would be like one day. Deep down, I really had a secret crush on Lynn and loved playing house with her, more than she ever knew. Besides, it took me away from the unstable family life I had at home of a real mommy and daddy who both drank and fought much of the time.

Many years later as an adult in the early '90s, I remember lying in bed together with my partner on a Tuesday night. Tuesday night was TV night for us. We'd both come home from work and after dinner, clean up and put on a pot of coffee. Then we would get into some comfy T-shirts and cuddle up with each other as we watched "Roseanne" and our other favorite shows. After the 11 o'clock news, we'd do some sit-ups, turn off the lights and peacefully fall asleep in each other's arms. I clearly remember listening to the sounds of the crickets with a cool breeze blowing through our slightly opened windows. Our bedroom was filled with the romantic pale light of the moon and the star-studded New England night sky.

As I look back at that time in my life, I remember exactly how I felt. We had it all. We were on top of the world. A beautiful home, a dog, two cats, great friends and a loving, long-term, committed "storybook" relationship. No doubt, we were going to be partners for life. OK, so it wasn't exactly as I pictured it years earlier with Lynn and Claire, but hey, he was the man of my dreams.

As I sit here now typing, burning the midnight oil, I hear those crickets outside my window. I can see that same pale moon resting in that same star-filled New England sky. My two little children are both fast asleep after daddy prayed with them and read them "Goldilocks and the Three Bears." My beautiful wife also is sleeping tranquilly after reading her Bible and saying her prayers. She prays on her knees every night for our family members, as well as countless other families and friends across the country whose loved ones are entrapped in the homosexual lifestyle.

As I look back on all those years of Tuesday TV nights with my boyfriend, I realize the homosexual lifestyle was a deceitful counterfeit of the "real" thing. My partner and I were like the children in my childhood of days gone by. We were two men who thought we had the world in the palm of our hands – when in fact, we had nothing at all. We were two lost souls, living in a world of make believe – two emotionally hurting boys playing house, desperately clinging onto each other night after night, week after week, year after year.

As homosexual men and women across the country strive for their "special rights," civil unions and ultimately same-sex marriages, I can attest firsthand these individuals are making every attempt to resolve their inner homosexual conflict. These are feelings, thoughts and actions most have had ever since childhood. Many have hidden and suppressed their homosexual feelings for so long, until they finally gave in and "came out" to the world. Their inner struggle for self-acceptance has turned into a misguided outward struggle for civil rights. With each battle won on local, state and federal levels, their pillage is America's acceptance and tolerance. While they fill their storehouses with their vain plunder, they tirelessly continue their unending life-long search for their "holy grail": self-acceptance. No matter how hard they search or how long they try, I'm afraid it is something that will never be found.

Homosexuality is clearly an outward expression of things going on much deeper in a person – issues for many originating back to their childhood.

For homosexual men, in most all cases it has everything to do with a lack of relationship with the father. For women, the problem can rest with the mother and/or father or another male figure. For some, molestation or a premature sexual experience was the lead in to the homosexual lifestyle. Whatever the factors may have been to drive someone down that unwanted homosexual path, we must remember one thing: No one was born homosexual. To state such a fact is a tragedy, as well as cop out.

Just as no one is born an alcoholic or a drug addict, the same must be said of the homosexual. "Issues" are what bring a person down these lonely, painful paths – issues when finally dealt with will allow the person to come out of their destructive behavior. You don't need to be a psychologist to figure this one out.

In 1992, I became a Christian, accepting Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. When I fully understood the forgiveness God extended to me through the atoning blood of Jesus Christ, I realized the life-changing power that lay within this efficacious act. I knew that the forgiveness that was so graciously given to me now needed to be extended by me to someone else who needed it just as much: my father.

After 28 painful years of a damaged relationship with the one man whose love I craved and desired the most, my many years of wandering and numerous homosexual encounters came abruptly to an end.

It happened one morning in my parents' kitchen. My father and I did something we never really did before – we talked. We both dealt with the past, we vented, we questioned, we understood and we healed. And in an emotional embrace I'll never forget, we both did something else: We forgave. I have never been the same man since.

In a single moment of time, the doors to my painful childhood were slammed shut once and for all, never to be opened again. My homosexual needs and desires were gone and I was changed. Completely. My heavenly Father showed me by example what I needed to give to my earthly father. I crossed that fearful heterosexual threshold that so many other brave men and women in my shoes have done before me. And in doing so, I found something I never could have imagined – the cure for homosexuality. Forgiveness.

Our acceptance and tolerance of the ever-growing homosexual deviancy in America today is really a paradox. You see, we are actually committing a grave injustice toward these misled men and women. We're not helping these people by affirming them, but actually hurting them even further. By enabling them to remain emotionally stunted and trapped in their pasts, we as a society play a major part in keeping them from their potential futures. And according to the Bible, as a nation, our acceptance and tolerance of homosexuality will keep us from our potential future as well.

I've found the cure for homosexuality. Forgiveness. Share it with your "gay" and lesbian friends. Give them some food for thought.

No doubt I am on a mission today: to bring the truth about homosexuality to the world – that no one is born homosexual, it has everything to do with the childhood, and complete change is possible. Completely possible. From the calls that are coming in weekly around the country from homosexual men and women themselves, I can tell you, this message is making a major impact ... one forgiving heart at a time.

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To: Emmylou
Because I'd wager that Buddhists are less than two percent of the population; and they're worshipping a false God, which violates the First Commandment, which makes their behavior immoral

Freedom of religion is covered in the Constitution and while not exactly what the Founders had in mind from their belief systems, it still has been addressed by SCOTUS. Sodomy on the other hand has also been addressed by SCOTUS and the laws in effect against it have been found not to be unconstitutional. The only way you would get SCOTUS to change would be to hope for a liberal POTUS to be elected who would believe in such drivel to appoint judges to overturn such laws. And while Bush has become quite liberal on some issues in the past few months, I don't think he's that liberal

81 posted on 07/23/2002 1:52:55 PM PDT by billbears
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To: Kevin Curry
In the case of a person who breaks free of the homosexual lifestyle there is an added bonus in the here-and-now, for he escapes a disease-ridden and grossly dysfunctional way of life that can never truly satisfy because it is a wholly counterfeit way of life. It is wonderful that the author of this piece escaped a lie and found Life.


83 posted on 07/23/2002 1:55:09 PM PDT by yendu bwam
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To: PeterPrinciple
A group of church leaders in Little Rock Arkansaw put an ad in the paper: "Learn how to be a man, Meeting at 6am on Wednesdays". 1,000 men showed up.........The need is great, read the article on Noble Masculinity again.

I want my sons to grow up to be noble, masculine men.

84 posted on 07/23/2002 1:57:10 PM PDT by yendu bwam
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To: Emmylou
But what about people who are comfortable and fulfilled in gay relationships?

Sure, just as there are alcoholics who are quite happy to down a quart of vodka every day, and don't want anyone interfering with their lifestyle. But don't preach that condition as good and normal and something to be glorified and experimented with - particularly to impressionable kids. This is what's being done in schools (against parents' wishes) and in the theater and in many other places as well. Such is a form of child abuse.

86 posted on 07/23/2002 2:00:31 PM PDT by yendu bwam
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To: ThirstyMan
I think the message that he's putting forward is that for many homoesexuals, change is possible. Studies (including recent ones) have certainly shown that. I've met a lot of homosexuals who wish they were straight and could live lives with wives and children. It's horrendous to not even allow people to tell them that change might be possible for them - yet those who do are excoriated by the homosexual community.
87 posted on 07/23/2002 2:04:25 PM PDT by yendu bwam
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To: Emmylou
No Emmylou. I don't think that people who find happiness as a result of a serious disorder should encourage others (particularly my kids!) to consider that disorder as normal or good. Homosexuals have a right to live their lives as they see fit. They don't have a right to mess with the lives of my kids (as in Boy Scouts, the Catholic Church, our schools, etc. etc.). Unfortunately, many homosexuals seem intent on interfering with the raising of my kids (or actually gaining physcial access to them) and with what I teach them. I am angry about that - along with millions of other parents.
89 posted on 07/23/2002 2:12:55 PM PDT by yendu bwam
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To: Emmylou
"So you think this was a better nation before the abolition of slavery, the passage of women's suffrage, and the civil rights movement?"

That's an incredibly stupid question. I believe that every human being, male, female, slave, free, black, white, straight and gay should be afforded the same rights under the law.

I don't believe in special priviledges for any group. I don't believe in quotas for racial minorities. I don't believe in laws that would codify a woman's right to equal pay for equal work. I don't believe in laws that would redefine marriage to allow those in same-sex partnerships the same legal status as marrieds.

But that's not my point. My point is that American society in 2002 is in severe decline. As a conservative I'm interested in conserving the things that the Founders of our nation found essential to our country's stability.

You, on the other hand, seem to be interested in "progress" for "progress"' sake. How the proliferation of sodomy and homosexuality contributes to anything resembling "progress" is unfathomable.

90 posted on 07/23/2002 2:14:51 PM PDT by Chunga
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To: Emmylou
I don't. I think they should quit because it is dangerous, unhealthy, morally corrupt and mostly, because it is a 'abomination before God'. This article points out a method to stopping the disgusting behavior. Pretty neat. When a door slams shut, you can depend upon God to open a window. For sure!
92 posted on 07/23/2002 2:16:21 PM PDT by Republic
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To: tessalu
May the Lord bless you and yours and wash away your pain.
93 posted on 07/23/2002 2:22:36 PM PDT by justshutupandtakeit
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To: FourtySeven
The author used that term for dramatic and ironic effects.

But don't let that stop you from "Fire, Ready, Aim."
95 posted on 07/23/2002 2:26:20 PM PDT by justshutupandtakeit
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To: Republic
That is why the word "gay" was chosed by the propagandists, as a mask for the most Ungay lifestyle imaginable.
96 posted on 07/23/2002 2:28:51 PM PDT by justshutupandtakeit
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To: yendu bwam
But what about people who are comfortable and fulfilled in gay relationships?

Sure, just as there are alcoholics who are quite happy to down a quart of vodka every day, and don't want anyone interfering with their lifestyle.

I'll remember that the next time somebody tells me they're happy in their relationship. Instead of believing them and being happy for them, I'll mentally compare them to a raging alchoholic. Because, really, they're just alike!

Why is it that the standard (non-religious) argument against homosexuality is that its bad because other things are bad (incest! alchoholism! kleptomania!)? Well if you ask me, a homosexual relationship, even if it is not exactly like a heterosexual relationship, is a lot closer than it is to anything else in the usual "parade of horribles."

97 posted on 07/23/2002 2:32:02 PM PDT by Fethiye
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To: Emmylou
There was no intention for the constitution to write laws. Only treason was considered significant enough to place in the constitution. Punishment of homosexual behavior was left in the hands of the states and they took care of it.
98 posted on 07/23/2002 2:36:05 PM PDT by justshutupandtakeit
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To: Chili Girl
Nice article - a bump for later circulation. Nice to hear it stated that "issues" cause homosexuality - that it's not something they were "born with". It is a choice.
99 posted on 07/23/2002 2:37:10 PM PDT by Chili Girl
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To: Emmylou
Buddhists don't believe in a God.
100 posted on 07/23/2002 2:38:30 PM PDT by justshutupandtakeit
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