I absolutely abhor abortion as a form of contraception.
Having that said, a very good friend (aged 40) told me recently that she'd had an abortion.
I went through a moral crisis about it.
I love this person like a mother. She has seen me through many calamities in my life..not least being the death of my own mother last year.
So what should I have done? Hit her with a big stick?
I don't think so.
I hugged her.
And listened to her cry.
posted on 11/17/2002 6:51:23 PM PST
No, darling, I don't have any interest in persecuting people who have had abortions - nor would I say you should whack her with anything. As your friend's reaction shows, it is a terrible thing. What is even worse is that the Democrats shield the actual horror of it behind rhetoric about "saving women's lives" or a "woman's right to choose". It's time that lie was exposed.
Secondly, you'll hear a lot of rhetoric out of the Left about being "pro-choice". But since when did Planned Parenthood set up adoption clinics? The only choice they are interested is not a choice at all, it's reaching for the abortionist's forceps.
Now there are certain things which should be made illegal immediately, such as partial birth abortion, which is a crime against humanity. As for "generic" abortions, it will take a large cultural change to effect its removal - but as your friend's reaction showed, those who have been through it are not the same afterwards. It's a horrible thing. And as such it needs to be exposed for what it is.
posted on 11/17/2002 6:59:06 PM PST
Every time a gal has confided in me that they had an abortion, the emotional reaction is so powerful I have been miserable for weeks thereafter. Each of those women, whether they say they still "believe it was the right thing to do" or not, are affected for life by it. God can and will forgive them when they ask for it, and I believe that is the only way out for them. If they don't, the rest of their life becomes distorted by it. I still cry for them when I recall...
posted on 11/18/2002 2:31:32 AM PST
So many women were lied to and manipulated. I don't always fault the women who "choose" abortion. Their lives are irrevocably changed, and always for the worse. When they make this "choice", they are often without moral or emotional support. The so-called fathers want nothing to do with the new baby, their families may not support an unwed mother, they may think that their financial circumstances are so dire that they can't even fathom living themselves, let along supporting a baby.
We must support these women and help them make the right choice -- for LIFE -- and be there when they do.
My father told my mother to have an abortion, and when she didn't he up and left the country. I thank God that my mother didn't abort me, I thank God that her parents supported her (not always the case, especially in the sixties), and I thank God for my mother, who raised me on her own even when it wasn't easy.
Women need to love themselves first. If they love themselves, they can and will love their unborn child.
God bless your friend, and I hope she makes peace with God and herself.
posted on 11/18/2002 11:09:46 AM PST
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