But, we have no control over God or nature or bad luck or whatever one wants to call it.
That is exactly my point. There is no control, or certainty of whether the unborn will ever be born. Until the baby is born, no one can ever say for certain it will be born, even though in most cases, they are.
Remember, this was in response to your statement, but denying such status until the moment of birth ... is abominable, and my point is that giving such status before birth is presumptuous.