Stopping Pornography from Destroying Lives

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[Legatus]

Would you similarly tell a wife to treat the situation as an "opportunity to share in the sufferings of Christ"?

Any injustice provides that opportunity. When I wrote "It's not fair, it's not right. A man in that situation is in a position where only heroic virtue will suffice" I thought I was saying that the wife's behavior was wrong. I don't think the husband has to just stoically "stiff upper lip" it either. What makes that situation all the more unjust is that there is no other outlet. Yeah, cooking, cleaning, what have you, all have alternate solutions even if those alternates cause some hardship. Sex doesn't.

A wife whose husband is failing needs to do the same thing a husband with a failing wife should do: pray, pray, pray and then pray some more remembering that love is an act of the will whether it's felt or not. Let the offending spouse know the nightmare being endured, don't give the chance for "I had no idea" to ever be an excuse.

[don-o]

Thank you. We, the FReepers can make the difference.

[trisham]

I believe that, too.

[PapaBear3625]

Any injustice provides that opportunity. When I wrote "It's not fair, it's not right. A man in that situation is in a position where only heroic virtue will suffice" I thought I was saying that the wife's behavior was wrong.

The direction that I was coming from when I entered into this thread relates to the "Unclean Hands Doctrine" of common law (and reportedly going back to the Fourth Lateran Council), where someone complaining about a violation of an agreement must not himself also be in violation.

The essential applicability is that a wife is only allowed to complain about her husband's porn viewing if she herself had been fully upholding her end of the marriage with respect to sex. In other words, if she had been chronically rejecting him sexually, then she forfeits her right to complain if he watches porn; if she HAS been making an effort to satisfy his desires, and yet he still turns to porn, then she does have a right to rebuke him for that.

[POWERSBOOTHEFAN]

It’s also extremely disgusting.

[Salvation]

Thanks so much.

[SoCal SoCon]

Actually while I am more visually oriented than most women, earning potential and status are not what gets the ladies: check these polls

http://www.themodernman.com/what_women_want.html

http://www.outlookindia.com/article.aspx?217675

Whether or not a man listens to her and respects her feelings is a larger factor than how much money he makes or what his status is. If women in India feel this way, I imagine this trend is magnified in the US, where there is no rigid caste system and women are more independent from their husbands financially, as this Time article shows

http://www.time.com/time/specials/packages/article/0,28804,1930277_1930145_1930309-1,00.html

And far from “slurping empty calories at Starbucks” 7 million women in the US are anorexics.

http://www.state.sc.us/dmh/anorexia/statistics.htm

http://www.disordered-eating.co.uk/eating-disorders-statistics/anorexia-nervosa-statistics-us.html

It might also interest you to know that thinner women, aka girls you consider hot, have a lower sex drive in general (Lupton, Deborah. Food, the Body, and the Self. Thousand Oaks: Sage Publications Ltd, 1996, p.34)

P.S. Who the heck is Tony Soprano?

[SoCal SoCon]

I also notice you failed to answer my point about lower porn usage among women despite the fact that men aren’t as svelte as they used to be either.