I was responding to your statement "asking questions is so unloving." I was indicating that asking questions can express either love or derision. I made no claim regarding a personal ability to acutely discern between the two. But now that you mention it. . .I certainly do sense a rather derisive tone to your writings, but that would be a result of the obvious and not a manifestation, on my part, of an advanced ability to discern.
People falsely believe they can interpret the tone of internet messages:
At the same time, those reading messages unconsciously interpret them based on their current mood, stereotypes and expectations. Despite this, the research subjects thought they accurately interpreted the messages nine out of 10 times.
The reason for this is egocentrism, or the difficulty some people have detaching themselves from their own perspective, says Epley. In other words, people aren't that good at imagining how a message might be understood from another person's perspective.
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