The people who are communicating all this to unsuspecting, innocent families are evil.
They are trying to cover their evil deeds by saying it’s ‘for the good of the families’.
The only thing they’ve done is caused already grieving familes further harm, and I wouldm’t doubt it gives them a thrill. Kind of like telling you your mother was a whore after the funeral.
It is more akin to telling you that someone is desecrating your mothers grave.