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The Upside of Office Flirtation?
Slate ^ | December 5, 2017 | Allison Benedikt

Posted on 12/08/2017 5:25:58 AM PST by C19fan

When I was 23 years old, my boss would look down the gap at the waistband of my jeans when he walked past my desk. I was an entry-level fact-checker at my first magazine job, and he was an older and more powerful editor. My career, at the time, was in his hands. Once, when we had finished working on a story together, he suggested we get a drink to celebrate. It was a Friday night, and I remember feeling extremely nervous as we sat across from each other in a dark bar. He was flirting with me, I could tell. The next weekend, he asked me out again. A few days later, he kissed me on the steps of the West 4th subway station without first getting my consent. We’ve now been happily married for 14 years and have three children.

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KEYWORDS: dating; harassment
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To translate if the person doing the so called harassing was Mel Gibson and not butt ugly Harvey Weinstein and Al Franken the women would have been all into it. There was a Saturday Night Live skit involving Mel Gibson and Rob Schneider as running a OB/GYN office. All the women wanted appointments with Gibson.
1 posted on 12/08/2017 5:25:59 AM PST by C19fan
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Money quote: But what my friend saw in this current moment were mixed messages: It’s good to be aggressive if your date is interested, but read the room wrong and you are done. It feels great to be chased when you are attracted to the person doing the chasing. Otherwise, the chaser might be seen as a predator.

Betas and below are predators.

2 posted on 12/08/2017 5:27:38 AM PST by C19fan
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To: C19fan

Well, she probably would not have wanted to date someone like me who owns guns and has voted for Canadian politicians named Preston, Mike, Stockwell, and Stephen, lol. But hey, I don’t think I would have kissed her without her consent.


3 posted on 12/08/2017 5:30:28 AM PST by OttawaFreeper ("If I had to go to war again, I'd bring lacrosse players" Conn Smythe)
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To: C19fan

Better a marriage than a molestation but still.

This is playing with plutonium.


4 posted on 12/08/2017 5:31:14 AM PST by HiTech RedNeck (Tryin' hard to win the No-Bull Prize.)
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To: HiTech RedNeck

Women are attracted to men who are willing to take risks to win them.


5 posted on 12/08/2017 5:35:29 AM PST by marktwain (President Trump and his supporters are the Resistance. His opponents are the Reactionaries.)
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To: HiTech RedNeck

Man has been playing with plutonium since the beginning of time. He just never realized it.......


6 posted on 12/08/2017 5:35:50 AM PST by The_Media_never_lie
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To: C19fan
>>When I was 23 years old, my boss would look down the gap at the waistband of my jeans when he walked past my desk. <<

Why don't I think this was her first time?

7 posted on 12/08/2017 5:37:45 AM PST by ealgeone
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To: marktwain

Only if they are initially attracted to them. Those betas do take risks, but now their reward will be a loss of jobs, assets and jail time.


8 posted on 12/08/2017 5:40:06 AM PST by Jonty30 (What Islam and secularism have in common is that they are both death cults)
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To: HiTech RedNeck
This is playing with plutonium.

Also called "Tickling the Dragon's tail".

9 posted on 12/08/2017 5:40:40 AM PST by Bloody Sam Roberts (Ban pre-shredded cheese now! Make America Grate Again.)
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To: marktwain

Well he could leer or he could buy her a $20,000 ring. The second is a classier risk.


10 posted on 12/08/2017 5:40:51 AM PST by HiTech RedNeck (Tryin' hard to win the No-Bull Prize.)
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To: C19fan

She could tell he was flirting. Air-head alert.


11 posted on 12/08/2017 5:42:05 AM PST by miss marmelstein
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To: C19fan

Translation: I was one of the thousands of liberal young women who went into journalism and slept my way to a better career.


12 posted on 12/08/2017 5:42:25 AM PST by Opinionated Blowhard ("When the people find they can vote themselves money, that will herald the end of the republic.")
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To: C19fan

I’m thinking of “Calvin and Hobbes” and the wonderful game of CalvinBall. In that game, each player can make up any rule at any time. It’s joyful chaos.

What we have in the dating world is one-sided CalvinBall. The women make up all the rules. Alpha males can get dates and do a little flirting. Betas are predators and harassers. If things don’t work out, maybe the man goes to jail (”rape! rape!”) or the woman gets the house, the boat, the kids, and half his money.

None of this ever seems to go the man’s way.

Which is one major reason there is so much work being done in the area of sex robots. See, if men don’t like the rules of the game, we can always decide not to play the game.

And I can tell you I know a lot of single men who are quite happy. No game? No worries. But single women? Pretty much 100% bitter, angry people who feel that they missed out on all the good stuff. But that’s what you get for making up rules for a game that no one wants to play.


13 posted on 12/08/2017 5:44:02 AM PST by ClearCase_guy (Benedict McCain is the worst traitor ever to wear the uniform of the US military.)
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You don’t get your honey where you get your money. Everybody knows that.

I was dating a girl that came to work for the textile mill where I was working. We had to keep it quiet. She asked about me and discovered I was gay and sleeping with a married woman in data entry


14 posted on 12/08/2017 5:48:48 AM PST by AppyPappy (Don't mistake your dorm political discussions with the desires of the nation)
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>>You don’t get your honey where you get your money.<<

Sound advice from my dad: don't dip your pen in the company ink well.

15 posted on 12/08/2017 5:51:51 AM PST by ealgeone
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To: ealgeone

Managing in an office wherein there is an interoffice romance going is quite an adventure too. A married guy who worked for me had a romance with someone in a neighboring office who was also married. He used to brag about it often. I took him aside and pointed out that his paramour was married to a hot head. I told him I did not want to catch a round meant for him at work from his paramour’s husband. I said if the thought of that did not deter him, consider he had a $750K house which he would surely lose as he and his wife had 3 teenagers at home and since he was close to retirement, half his pension. The big head won out, he stopped the affair.


16 posted on 12/08/2017 6:02:53 AM PST by Mouton (The MSM is a clear and present danger to the republic.)
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To: C19fan

Wait....leaning in to attempt a kiss requires verbal permission now?


17 posted on 12/08/2017 6:21:19 AM PST by bk1000 (I stand with Trump.)
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To: C19fan

He was still guilty of sexual harassment. She just didn’t complain.


18 posted on 12/08/2017 6:29:26 AM PST by Mariner (War Criminal #18)
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To: C19fan

I found my wife at the company I worked for,, neither of us was in a position of authority..


19 posted on 12/08/2017 7:17:51 AM PST by ▀udda▀udd (>> M A G A << "What the hell kind of country is this if I can only hate a man if he's white?")
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My wife and I met in the hospital we both were assigned to in the Air Force. Both of us were officers but she outranked me. Six-month romance. Then we got married.

Been married to her for 42 years now.

BTW, she's still outranks me....

20 posted on 12/08/2017 7:28:32 AM PST by HotHunt
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