Posted on 06/05/2013 4:39:26 AM PDT by Kaslin
I listen to you often and enjoy your radio show, but why don’t you ever ask women to go to work? When a family is broke, and the woman is at home raising one child who is already in the fifth grade, why can’t the wife get a “second job?”
George
Dear George,
I think far too many ladies, in the name of paying for stuff they don’t need, have left the household and the children for the workplace. Many of them didn’t even want to do this; they just felt obligated to do it by people like you. There are a lot of ladies who have sacrificed their ability to be full-time moms on the altar of the car payment.
Now, sometimes ladies have to go to work. There’s a time and a place for that kind of thing. But if there’s any way I can financially and budget-wise figure out how mom can be waiting at home with a big hug and a plate full of cookies when that fifth grader walks in the house – and if that’s what she wants to do – then you’re going to find me fighting for her opportunity to do that. There’s no higher calling on the planet than motherhood. We’ve lost that in our culture, and we’re suffering dearly for it.
I’m no Neanderthal jerk. I don’t say every mother has to be at home or they’re a bad person. But these days we’ve got very few people who defend full-time, in-the-home motherhood. The inference you’re making is that she’s not helping, or worse, lazy. Why don’t you go take over her job for a week? I think you’ll find out in a hurry there’s not a lazy bone in her body!
—Dave
Dear Dave,
I’m 24-years old, and just got married two months ago. We make $80,000 a year, have our emergency fund and no debt, plus we’ve saved up for a 15 percent down payment on a house. I know you suggest 20 percent, but is 15 percent okay?
Tony
Dear Tony,
I don’t have a lot of issues with 15 percent instead of 20 percent. You’ll probably end up having to pay private mortgage insurance, but it sounds like you guys are in good enough shape financially to handle things.
However, I generally recommend that couples wait until they’ve been married at least a year before buying a home. Buying a house is huge decision. That’s why I think it’s smart to wait and get to know each other even better before making a decision of this magnitude. Plus, you need to figure out just how close you want to live to your mother-in-law!
Seriously, take your time and don’t rush things. There will still be great deals on the market in a year or so, and you’ll be able to save more money, too!
—Dave
The Left trumpets the need for universal day care.
The Left trumpets smaller class size.
The Left trumpets a woman’s right to choose.
But when a woman chooses to provide her own children with the smallest possible day care class, the Left explodes in rage.
“Girls just want to have fun.” - the great social commentator, Cindy Lauper, 1984.
Some 60-70 million dead unborn babies later, its time to repent, let go of Satan's plan, and see what God has for women, since he made them.
There’s no higher calling on the planet than motherhood. We’ve lost that in our culture, and we’re suffering dearly for it.
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Amen and amen!
My wife was a stay at home Mom, we are retired now.
What used to piss me off the most was going to PTA meetings and having the teachers reactions when she told them she was a Housewife. They looked on her like she was dirt.
We didn’t have a lot of the things our friends had, but we had a good life with each other and our kids. We raised them, not some day care.
Been married 20 years - my wife has been a
full time home schooling mom since our first
child was born 17 years ago. I cannot remember
a time in the past 17 years when $$ wasn’t tight.
We’ve never taken a Disney vacation. Don’t have a
boat or a camper. Don’t even have a flat screen
TV. But we do have three daughters who have had
the absolute best mother, teacher, mentor, and
example of what a woman should be. Yes I’ve had
to work 50, 60, sometimes 70 hours a week just
to pay the bills (still do) - and yes my wife
could have stayed in the workforce and earned
waaaay more $$ than I currently make (she has
her degree in secondary English education).
But the blessings we’ve received by having her
in the home far outweigh the “trinkets” we’ve
done without.
“... she was a housewife”.
Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt AND sent the postcard. The phrase is usually “just a stay at home Mom” or “just a housewife”. It takes thick skin to stay at home. It really does. No matter your I.Q. or your level of education.. you suddenly become a window licking moron, lazy, out of touch, and worthless. That being said, It isn’t ONLY the liberals who hold this view. I have had comments on this very site about being out of touch or that “I should get out in the world more”. I even read one comment from a female freeper that she “tried it and was going nuts” so she went back to work full time where she is happy. My best advice for any woman just beginning to be a stay at home wife/mom... ignore the words and insults and know that you are raising a future generation of intelligent, thoughtful, conservative adults. “The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world”. Hugs to your wife, Venturer!
AMEN AGAIN!!
God has blessed you.
I stayed home with my kids for 15 years. My oldest is now a financial analyst at a very well known company in NYC, completely self supporting at 25 years old. I even home schooled her for a stint. The other two are well adjusted and doing fine also.
The flak I caught for doing this — from neighbors, from relatives, from my so-called Catholic MIL ..was unbearable at times. Now I don’t hear a peep from any of them on how well she turned out — no credit ever given. It was always rubbed in my face that so and so “actually works,” yet somehow what I did wasn’t seen as real work.
I’m already back working at a second career. Life is long. I look back on those days as the best of my life. Women need to get their heads out of their butts and realize they have only ONE chance to raise that kid.
I always held firm in those days to that quote by Jacqueline Kennedy ...”If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do matters very much.”
I stayed home raising kids and loved it, but it was not an easy gig, up at all hours, driving, waiting, cleaning, cleaning again, cooking, creating holidays and traditions, it was exhausting but my kids had the security of knowing I was there for them.
Unfortunately their dad couldn’t behave himself and took himself off the reservation.
But I am here for them still. Just working part time and putting dinner on the table at 6 every night. Without a “boyfriend”. I am all about the kids.
God Bless you, yldstrk.
I remember a woman telling me that you couldn’t adequately supervise several small children at home, they needed more socialization. I reminded her that the state’s official infant to adult ratio was 4 to 1, so a woman with three young children had fewer kids than the state’s maximum - and playmates to boot.
Ping so many Dave Ramsey fans the kids think they’re next!
....or something like that. :)
Indeed He has, Ann Archy. There are days I look at the budget and think “There’s no way in the world this should work.” But day after day, week after week we have more than enough - even after giving more than 15% to tithe/charitable donations.
And this spring we found out my oldest daughter was accepted into a major university with a full tuition scholarship plus a $4000/yr stipend. Both of our parents sniffed at the idea of homeschooling, her parents even thought I was forcing their daughter to stay home against her will. But our kids are the only ones on either side of our families that the grandparents actually want to spend the night with. They are polite, respectful, helpful, and thankful. I attribute that to the constant attention to character and discipline that my wife (and I) have paid during their formative years. Indeed, God has blessed us!
All the journo-lists are checking their email and parroting instructions from the Democrats to feign outrage at Chambliss’ comments. What a sad, predictable and pathetic crew.
We were the same. We didn’t have the latest anything but we had fun.
Unfortunately the school was shut down a few years ago and the kids are now bussed into town for school, but while it was open, it was the longest continuously operating school in California and all the old timers who had been educated there fought tooth and nail to keep it open.
I hear you as a wife and Mom, I have worked part time occasionally to help out but most of my family is disgusted that I don’t have a career and work. For years I allowed them to make me feel inferior and now I just tell them I like being home with the kids, it is fulfilling, I wish I would figured this out about 15 years ago.
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