Skip to comments.Dave Says Pay the Lady
Posted on 07/24/2013 9:28:03 AM PDT by Altariel
I borrowed $30,000 from my aunt to buy a condo eight years ago. We had a deal that she would get her money back, plus a piece of the profits, when it sold. If there were no profits, she would get back her original $30,000. Recently the condo sold and I lost the money I put into it, plus my aunts money as well. I make good money and dont have any other debt, but Im a little resentful now that she wants me to pay her back. Do you have any suggestions?
I dont want to be mean, but you have no right to be resentful toward your aunt. This is the deal you signed up for, and she did nothing wrong. Wanting her money back now isnt greedy or malicious on her part, and its definitely not worth putting a family relationship at risk.
I know what youre thinking, because its just human nature. You just went through a lot, and the situation didnt work out as planned. Plus, it doesnt sound like your aunt is hurting financially if she put $30,000 toward helping you in the deal. Part of you is thinking she has plenty of money, so why doesnt she just forgive the debt and forget about everything?
If you were barely scraping by, I might suggest that you sit down and talk with her over a cup of coffee, explain the situation and ask her to forgive the debt. Right now, the little girl part of you is whining, Oh, come on. Just let me go! But the grown-up Christine knows better. That part of you is whispering, You know what to do
Pay her back as quickly as possible, and get this bad deal behind you for good. You said you make good money, so just take care of your responsibility. Itll hurt some, but its better than taking a chance on ruining the relationship with a very generous and loving aunt.
Im working on my debt snowball, and Im trying to settle with a pushy collector. I dont have the $9,000 I owe, but I have $3,000 Id like to offer as a settlement. Recently the collector has started asking for a lot of information I dont feel comfortable providing. What should I do?
Lots of times in these kinds of situations collectors are trying to gather up as much information as possible in order to sue you. Even if thats not the case here, theres no reason for you to be supplying them with a bunch of extra info. Just offer them the $3,000, and make it clear that your financial coachwhich is metold you not to answer any more of their nosy questions.
Make sure they understand that your offer of $3,000 stands as a settlement of the debt today. If theyre willing to accept the offer, get a statement in writing saying that the $3,000 represents payment in full before you cut the check. If they choose not to accept your offer, and they keep asking questions that are none of their business, just tell them to call back when theyre willing to discuss terms. Then, hang up!
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I’ve never understood why some lousy little condo units sell for what you could buy a nice stand alone house for.
Christine,you ignorant slut.Pay the money back,deadbeat.
No direct exterior maintenance issues; the condo fees and the condo assn pays for snow removal, lawn cutting etc as well as major improvements like a new roof. It’s not a good deal in my view but some like it.
Location, location, location.
The quickest way to turn friends or family into enemies is to lend money to them. Far better to just "give" them what you can afford and be done with it.
Something tells me that Christine is a Liberal
Christine is definitely a liberal. I couldn’t believe that letter. Dave was so much nicer to her than I would have been.
I’D like an aunt like THAT!
I’d struggle to pay HER back no matter who else DIDN’T get repaid.
Sounds like a line from Storage Wars.
And another thing Christine, your aunt let you borrow the money interest free. Had you taken a loan, even at 3%, you would owe the bank an additional $3780 in interest over the 8 years. Money that your aunt is willing to forgive. So your aunt not only lent you 30K, she also is forfiting 3780 in profit she could have made in a smart investment.
I think Dave makes up these questions.
Dave Ramsey ping
It makes sense for people with certain allergies who still want to own their own place. My brother has a condo. He’s allergic to dust, grass, and pollen, so just the lawn-mowing service saves him a lot of suffering.
Good point, not to mention how much the value of the dollar has declined. Gasoline, alone, was at least 40% less, back then, so even if the $30,000 is repaid in full, it still is a net loss (although Auntie did engage in some financial speculation, regarding possible profit).
Dave Ramsey Ping!
Dear Christine: YOU are a jerk!
You can hire a lawn service for a stand alone property where you own the land under the house.
Why take the time and resources to make up the questions when he has thousands of people contacting him for advice? He’s more practical than that.
Now, he MAY have one of his team answer the question then he signs off on it. His book EntreLeadership gives some good insight into how Lampo Group runs. He’s big into succession management so there are numerous people who know his concepts so well they can answer questions as he would.
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