Posted on 08/04/2013 7:27:54 PM PDT by Morgana
You know, this Blessing sounds like an IDIOT.
Well stated. I agree.
I understood your post, quite clever :)
Just such a disturbing trend.
We've always been open about her adoption, how could we not be, she's Chinese, we're not!— and she's always been such a daddy's girl I can't see her happier with anyone else besides her father. I can understand wanting to make a biological connection, but in her case it won't be possible. But even if she could, she's told us she knows who her Mommy and Daddy
are. We had two people, one a relative, one a friend that tried treating her differently because she wasn't blood related. We told them they can change their attitude or stay out of our life.
We chose international adoption because the hoops New York state wanted us to jump through to adopt were ridiculous. A child was waiting in an over crowded orphanage that was meant for us. Neither she nor we need to be reminded we are family. I never even considered in vitro or a surrogate. There were already babies waiting! And our first child was biological.
I agree. I wonder how many here sat and read the whole article. As the article states, there is a difference in deliberately creating a person to be deprived of his/her real parents and an orphan given up for adoption who, 9/10, wasn’t planned or who was and lost his/her parents to a tragedy or a crime. That’s what this donor industry does. It literally creates babies whose biological parents have decided they want nothing to do with them before they are even conceived, and they get paid to do so. These biological parents really have no idea where their child(ren) are going when they deposit their sperm or eggs into a donor bank. The children are then created in a lab, and how many “imperfect” children are disposed of, or how many “excess” are left on ice indefinitely?
That is exactly what I thought. There is something twisted in this, and unhealthy.
What disregard and disrespect for the man who was her real father. How could she be this way towards him? Completely selfish and thoughtless.
Well said. This is just offensive to even consider someone like this.
Not only a father, but a life—she wouldn’t exist without her parents going that route!
The first words that came to my mind were ‘major drama queen’.
It is not the normal course of affairs for a parent to abandon its offspring. For an individual to be distraught upon learning this happened to them personally strikes me as normal. She’ll get over it. Obviously you’re strong, so go ahead and kick her while she’s down if it makes you feel better.
It’s chilling! I admit, I hadn’t thought much about this, other than my own experience and subsequent rejection of the whole idea. Having friends who are adopted, I’ve listened to them express their own confused emotions of feeling ‘unwanted’ and other such feelings. I was just sick reading this article and the realization of what it surely must do to so many of these people.
I am a big fan of adoption. But that wasn’t the case here....what was done was already done.
Hi. The majority of the posting are putdowns. Clearly, your one fine writter-focusing on the raw emotions-that can only be expressed by persons deeply traumatized. Kudos to you. You are, one fine and informative writter.
Between my low eyesight deep pain, and real need to receive help and answers—not to mention, realizing, I’ll also be shammed, causes my heart to race. I should be used to it by now. I’ll just toss the additional hurts onto the top of my already skyhigh cuttings pile.
To you, those in your story, and the millions harmed by the Industry, I’m sending to you, a giant hug. Really, I’d make it better, if I could. This issue is not going away, and neither are we. Check out, www.thepetitionsite.com/165/114/603/reproductive-rights-denied-please-sign-this-petition-to-restore-unite-a-family./?...
Drama queen
Her father, legally and morally was the man who raised her.
The rest of this is the sign of a rigid, unable to flex and adapt to circumstances brain and outlook on life.
“and that the man she knew and loved as her father for 32 years was not her father”
Speaking as the father of two adopted kids - BS!!!!
If you sweat over them, feed them, discipline them, help them with science projects, worry over them for 30+ years - you ARE THE DAD!
The loss one feels when learning the father you have known as your father all of your life is not your biological can be enormous.
Everyone reacts differently. Some can say oh, well and go on with their lives. Some people need to work through it.
This irritated me too. We adopted 3 babies and we are their REAL parents!
This has to be fiction.
She’s confusing “a sperm donor” with a father.
The notion that she would sink into a deep depression because after 32 years she discovered Dad was not of the same genetic material strikes me as a someone with serious mental illness that simply manifested itself with this discovery.
In most cases it is not a rejection. In have never understood why people are so quick to draw that conclusion.
I have known who my biological father was most of my life. Since the topic was a forbidden one there was no one to ask about him. (My mom got pregnant in high school back in the days when that was not as accepted as it is today). That is an enormous burden for a young child to carry and it does creep up on you at times in adulthood.
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