Skip to comments.When Kids Stop Believing in Santa Claus
Posted on 12/21/2014 8:18:14 PM PST by SeekAndFind
Earlier this week, a woman wrote in to Slate's Dear Prudence advice chat asking whether it's considered lying to allow her daughter, who is three, to continue to believe in Santa Claus.
Prudie's take: Nah.
"Reality will eventually out," wrote the columnist, Emily Yoffe, "but theres so much reality in this life, that one of the delights of childhood, and of being a parent, is to spread a little fairy dust occasionally."
Later in the chat, though, another person wrote in saying that his or her parents kept the Santa thing going until the writer was nine, at which point this person found out and felt "incredibly embarrassed" that he or she had been "duped" for so long.
The takeaway is clear: There is no way to not traumatize your children.
So, barring an early reality check from an elementary-school Scrooge, when is a normal age for kids to realize who's actually leaving those presents under the tree?
In studies for which she interviewed children, University of Texas psychologist Jacqueline Woolley noticed a drop-off in belief in Santa after the age of five. That's also when belief in the Tooth Fairy peaked, as well:
Percent Who Believe, by Age
Her findings resembled a 1978 study that found that 85 percent of 4-year-olds believe in Santa, but only 65 percent of 6-year-olds and 25 percent of 8-year-olds do.
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Oh they still believe in Santa Claus, only now he lives in Washington DC.
As young as I can remember, I never believed in either.
RE: Oh they still believe in Santa Claus, only now he lives in Washington DC.
I knew this would eventually be mentioned :)
When they stop believing he pops a cap in they ass.
Our house never had any discussion or symbols of Santa Claus to be found when the children were being raised.... only the story of the birth of Christ. Somehow I can’t wrap my mind around the concept of ‘lying to your children’... even if one thinks it is for the intentions of fantasy.
I don’t recall ever believing Santa or the Tooth Fairy were real, certainly not at 7.
My friend took strong exception to that statement, and the fight was on. Unfortunately, I don't remember who won.
I think by 9 I knew mom and dad, and the grandparents were responsible for the “Santa” presents.
As young as I can remember, I asked my mom, how could Santa fit down our chimney? since we had coal furnace, and I had a conception of the whole thing. She replied in exasperation, that he didn’t come down the chimney, but came in the front door. It was in that moment that I knew, more from the tone of her voice than anything else.
Well, so be it. My grandkids are so much more sophisiticated than I was at their age, yet they are still naive in so many ways. It’s a magical time, and let it take its course.
When my son got older and would say, “I know you’re Santa Claus”, I would answer, how can I be Santa Claus? How can I go around the world, very to every house and give presents to every kid on Christmas Eve?
I was still able to go work the next day.
My 11 year old still wants to believe in Santa...she still believes in the tooth fairy too.
Santa is merely included in the story of Christmas at our house, but he is a very fun part of the story.
Truthfully, I didn’t want to be the parent who’s kid ruined it for other kids!
RE: When my son got older and would say, I know youre Santa Claus, I would answer, how can I be Santa Claus? How can I go around the world, very to every house and give presents to every kid on Christmas Eve?
He shoulda said — I know you are MY Santa Claus...
Did he say he saw Mommy kissing you underneath the mistletoe?
My kids are 21 and they still believe in Santa Claus. How do I know that? I ask them- every year. It all started when they were about 5 (they are twins). Rather than go into the regular song and dance, I just told them that Santa Claus only gave presents to children who believed in him. So every year I ask them if they believe in Santa and every year they tell me yes and every year they get presents from Santa.
My favorite Christmas was when my oldest son knew there was no Santa .. but the youngest son did not. The oldest one had more fun than most preparing stuff for the youngest.
It was so much fun.
There is no need to lie. We have always told our kids the truth and it has been great fun to get stuff in stockings. As they grew, our kids would also help to stuff each others’ stockings and that is what they’re teaching their kids as well.
Telling about Saint Nicholas does not at all detract from the Christmas story or the fun of stockings.
That's not the takeaway. The takeaway is that parents who look for takeaways also consider their children to be a daily to-do list, and therefore THEY will always traumatize their children.
For the real parents, sensitivity, nuance and assessment of intellectual and emotional development will guide the proper time to tell the truth to the child so they understand the tradition as creating a way for people to be kind and generous to each other across sometimes difficult social boundaries, for their whole lives - not just as children, and not as some dirty trick played on the child by their parents.
Of course, for liberals obsessed with Leftist-assigned self-hating cultural suicide talking points, none of this matters.
How many children and adults across the globe believe Jesus’ birth is why we celebrate Christmas?