Because weddings have become the event, and not the means to be what is supposed to be the event, becoming a wife.
Another tactic of Marxian abolition of the family. Make weddings so absurd, expensive and tasteless and the divorce seem (and actually be) inevitable, so as to make society at large say “why bother”.
“Claire, 33, a chef from the Isle of Man, says: ‘They wanted us to be there no matter what.’”
Where is ‘the heck with you, I’m not going’? Young women can always get new friends to replace any they have to discard.
Spoiled children starring in the movie in their heads. Friends should be honest and say they can’t afford such an extravagance and the couple will have to pay the expenses for their participation. That would bring a modicum of reality into the production and might save everyone, including the bride and groom, a lot of wasted effort and money.
Because they pick stupid friends who actually do go into debt for their self-adulation.
Because they can.
I don’t attend weddings unless I am endorsing and expressing approval of the marriage. Accepting an invitation is not an obligation, particularly when the invitation is expensive. I don’t tell people why I am not attending, because that would be rude, but I do not automatically go when invited.
As for my wedding, it was small and God-centered. It was about making our vows before our friends and family and in the presence of God, not about being the center of attention.
It’s been happening for a long, long time. Too many couples spend too much time worrying about the wedding when they should be preparing for the marriage.
I remember when the wife and I were engaged, and she and her friends would look at the bridal magazines. I joked there should be one called "Grooms and Other Bridal Accessories".
Here’s how you fix this situation:
Noooooooooo!
You want a Caribbean beach wedding? Fine.
You want me to be the Chief Bridesmaid? Fine.
You want me to be there? Pay.........................................
The simple or not simple answer for the bridesmaids, etc is ‘thank you, I love you, but I just can’t afford this. Enjoy your wedding and I will be thinking of you in that day. “.
Not much difference between weddings and funerals. They’re both choreographed productions that most guests don’t want to attend.
Social media has caused these bridezillas to (think they have to) have to outdo each other in lavish and singular venues because everything is reported in pictures to each other starting with the engagement day and ring. Every single detail is shared and there is unspoken pressure to one up and keep up.
These bridezillas are driven by peer pressure egged on by the out of control social media picture sharing and wedding industry marketing.
Awful.
They won’t admit it but I know my parents have money put aside for a wedding on the almost zero percent chance that I get married. But should that miracle occur I promise them I won’t go for a beach wedding in Barbados or somewhere.
Pretty much what I was gonna say. Marriage is a covenant between man, woman and God. Not a clown, party event.
The bride’s mother is often the driving force. It gets old listening to the wedding preparation progress, as if her daughter is the first young lady to tie the knot.
Because the bride is thinking: “This all about MMMMEEEEEEEEEE!”
I have found throughout the years that there is an inverse correlation between the amount of $ spend on the wedding and how long the marriage last.
All my friends/family that had these lavish weddings are all now divorced, where as the cheapos are still together after many years.
My cousin married a woman whose family insisted on a black tie event (that is every male guest had to wear a tuxedo) and 350 guests. The marriage lasted four years. His second wedding reception was a barbecue in the backyard. They’ve been married almost 40 years.