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We need to talk about sexual assault in marriage
vox.com ^ | Mar 8, 2018 | Anonymous

Posted on 03/09/2018 4:08:27 PM PST by Pollster1

Eight years into our marriage, sitting in a therapist’s office with my husband, I mustered all my courage and said my deepest, darkest truth: “When we have sex, I feel like I’m being violated.” The unwanted sex at times made me sick: Once I had to run straight from bed to the bathroom, where I retched into the toilet. I spared him and the therapist that detail.

My husband shrugged and, staring ahead with more indifference than disdain, replied, “She’s always so melodramatic.”

. . .

I acquiesced. At the time, it didn’t feel like a choice; it felt inevitable. I lived every evening dreading the signals of my husband’s desire. I bargained my way out of sex as often as I could. I gloried in being sick enough to have the right to refuse.

On the nights when I couldn’t get out of it, we used a method that I had taught myself to tolerate and that he, astoundingly, tolerated as well: I read a book to distract myself for as long as I could while he did the thing he needed to do. I did not let him kiss me for the last several years of our marriage. That was the rule . . . and I don’t have to pretend to like it. This satisfied him.

. . .

I am a humanities professor who teaches feminist theory, models feminist behavior for my students and my own children, and has achieved success in a male-dominated field. Last year, my teenage son and I chanted in support of women’s reproductive rights at the Women’s March in Washington . . .

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KEYWORDS: marriage; metoo
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I rarely post articles, but this illustrates the culture wars better than almost anything I've read in years.

I feel sorry for both her and her husband. Why would a person like this marry a man, and why would she stay with a man who was so far from whatever it is she is looking for and continue for years when she would not "let him kiss" her? Why would her husband stay with a cold and malicious witch long enough for reading a novel to become a habit of hers?

1 posted on 03/09/2018 4:08:27 PM PST by Pollster1
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To: Pollster1

Their problem, not mine. I don’t want to hear about them.


2 posted on 03/09/2018 4:13:54 PM PST by dforest (Never let a Muslim cut your hair.)
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"...I am a humanities professor who teaches feminist theory...

She has self-identified her problem.

3 posted on 03/09/2018 4:14:11 PM PST by Islander7 (There is no septic system so vile, so filthy, the left won't drink from to further their agenda)
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To: Pollster1

So, what did she marry him for? Money maybe?


4 posted on 03/09/2018 4:15:08 PM PST by eastexsteve
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To: Islander7

That’s a mouthful, it’s much easier to say fully retarded.


5 posted on 03/09/2018 4:15:37 PM PST by Bulwyf
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To: Pollster1

Wow.

What a bitch.


6 posted on 03/09/2018 4:15:41 PM PST by Tzimisce
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To: Pollster1
When we have sex, I feel like I’m being violated.

This is old news. We learned from feminists back in the 90's that all sex is rape. This is just new packaging for an old project.

7 posted on 03/09/2018 4:17:02 PM PST by NutsOnYew (If the world was perfect, it wouldn't be.)
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To: Pollster1

She’d prefer that government be her Sugar Daddy so she could only put out when she could get something out of it.


8 posted on 03/09/2018 4:18:15 PM PST by E. Pluribus Unum (<img src="http://i.imgur.com/WukZwJP.gif" width=800>)
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project = product. I got the “pro” part right.


9 posted on 03/09/2018 4:19:20 PM PST by NutsOnYew (If the world was perfect, it wouldn't be.)
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To: Pollster1

The wife is committing spouse abuse.


10 posted on 03/09/2018 4:19:24 PM PST by kaehurowing
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To: Pollster1

Toxic feminism.


11 posted on 03/09/2018 4:20:16 PM PST by Captain Compassion (I'm just sayin')
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To: Pollster1

last time I checked, divorce is legal in this country.


12 posted on 03/09/2018 4:21:09 PM PST by left that other site (For America to have CONFIDENCE in our future, we must have PRIDE in our HISTORY... DJT)
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To: Pollster1
Eight years into our marriage, sitting in a therapist’s office with my husband, I mustered all my courage and said my deepest, darkest truth: “When we have sex, I feel like I’m being violated.” The unwanted sex at times made me sick: Once I had to run straight from bed to the bathroom, where I retched into the toilet. I spared him and the therapist that detail

I would have filed for divorce the next day, and tossed that BITCH to the curb!!

13 posted on 03/09/2018 4:21:28 PM PST by painter ( Isaiah: �Woe to those who call evil good and good evil,")
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To: Pollster1

This satisfied him.


Not a chance. Only a mentally ill and deluded person could write such a thing.


14 posted on 03/09/2018 4:22:04 PM PST by lodi90
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Geez, what a mentally disturbed woman.


15 posted on 03/09/2018 4:23:04 PM PST by Fai Mao (I still want to see The PIAPS in prison)
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To: Bulwyf

16 posted on 03/09/2018 4:23:10 PM PST by EEGator
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To: eastexsteve

A significant percentage of American women are man haters.


17 posted on 03/09/2018 4:23:18 PM PST by vooch (America First Drain the Swamp)
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To: Islander7

Her choice of profession is such a stereotype, its comical.

She’s an angry leftist cow. But what is her husband? My bet is he’s a beta-male who also likes to virtue signal his SJW credentials.

They must both be two cynical, superficial, selfish people.


18 posted on 03/09/2018 4:24:45 PM PST by PGR88
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To: Pollster1

The more these people keep digging in to the private relations between the sexes, the more they will kill them.


19 posted on 03/09/2018 4:25:06 PM PST by Behind the Blue Wall
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To: Pollster1

Another rash of #metoo.


20 posted on 03/09/2018 4:27:25 PM PST by TADSLOS (Alex Jones isn’t quite the wing nut now, all things considered.)
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