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The mothers who regret having children
BBC ^ | 04-03-2018 | Jean Mackenzie

Posted on 04/03/2018 8:47:16 AM PDT by Trump20162020

"If I could turn the clock back I would not have had children," says Rachel who is now in her 50s.

She has three children - her youngest is 17 - and for most of this time she has been a single mother, which is when the reality hit her.

"There were times where I didn't feel mature enough to be responsible for somebody, this little person that needed me for their existence," she says.

"It just felt like an endless round of putting a bottle or food in their mouth for it to come out of the other end - and at what point was any of this going to be fun?

"I just felt like screaming that actually it's not all it's cracked up to be. If you're really maternal then that's great you've got everything you've wanted, but when you're not maternal all you've done is trap yourself."

(Excerpt) Read more at bbc.com ...


TOPICS: Society
KEYWORDS: children; regrets
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1 posted on 04/03/2018 8:47:16 AM PDT by Trump20162020
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To: Trump20162020

If all she thinks is that you feed a child, then it comes out the other end, and that’s all there is to life, then I guess I see her difficulty......


2 posted on 04/03/2018 8:49:22 AM PDT by Dilbert San Diego
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To: Trump20162020
and at what point was any of this going to be fun?

Parenting: You're doing it wrong.

3 posted on 04/03/2018 8:50:17 AM PDT by ClearCase_guy (I'm still somewhat onboard but very disappointed. Not so much "Winning" lately.)
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She has three children — her youngest is 17 — and for most of this time she has been a single mother …
End of false premise. BBC had to lie in its headline, for the zillionth time.
4 posted on 04/03/2018 8:50:32 AM PDT by Olog-hai ("No Republican, no matter how liberal, is going to woo a Democratic vote." -- Ronald Reagan, 1960)
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To: Trump20162020

Sounds mentally ill.


5 posted on 04/03/2018 8:50:41 AM PDT by petitfour (APPEAL TO HEAVEN)
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To: Trump20162020

“It just felt like an endless round of putting a bottle or food in their mouth for it to come out of the other end - and at what point was any of this going to be fun?”

Really fighting to win the Mother Of The Year Award, she is. I feel for her kids, though.


6 posted on 04/03/2018 8:51:11 AM PDT by LouieFisk
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To: Trump20162020

Why is it always the Brits that are saying things like this?

Imagine being one of those three and knowing millions now can identify you are child that never really had any meaningful love from your own mother because in her heart selfish needs supersede your very existence.

Rome v. 2.0


7 posted on 04/03/2018 8:51:43 AM PDT by Reagan Disciple (Peace through Strength)
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To: Trump20162020

Parenting is an obligation, no way around that reality.

And yes it can be incredibly thankless as well.

That does not mean it is without joy.

You create your own reality, you can choose to be miserable or choose to find joy... how you choose to perceive it will dictate your experience.


8 posted on 04/03/2018 8:53:28 AM PDT by HamiltonJay
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To: Reagan Disciple

This is the result of postwar Labour policies. And the subsequent adoption of those policies by the Tories exacerbated that.


9 posted on 04/03/2018 8:53:48 AM PDT by Olog-hai ("No Republican, no matter how liberal, is going to woo a Democratic vote." -- Ronald Reagan, 1960)
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To: Trump20162020
Regrets for me about having kids can be summed up in one word.

Teenagers.

Yikes!

10 posted on 04/03/2018 8:56:39 AM PDT by HotHunt
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“It just felt like an endless round of putting a bottle or food in their mouth for it to come out of the other end - and at what point was any of this going to be fun?”

A quote for the history books.


11 posted on 04/03/2018 8:57:35 AM PDT by avenir ("But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine."--Paul to Titus)
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To: Trump20162020

I can only imagine the fun this poor dumb woman is going to have when all the children in her neighborhood are muzzies.


12 posted on 04/03/2018 8:57:49 AM PDT by Da Coyote
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For sure God knew what He was doing when he gave me sons rather than daughters!


13 posted on 04/03/2018 8:59:00 AM PDT by caww
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To: Olog-hai

Once I saw “single mother” I didn’t need to read any further. Could have also just said “selfish mother.”


14 posted on 04/03/2018 9:01:05 AM PDT by boycott
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If you're really maternal then that's great you've got everything you've wanted, but when you're not maternal all you've done is trap yourself.

I'm not paternal at all...which is why I've made the choice not to have children.

Why was she so foolish as to have multiple kids if she feels this way?

15 posted on 04/03/2018 9:01:17 AM PDT by Simon Green
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....”for most of this time she has been a single mother”....

Single with three kids! Looks like her brain matter wasn’t connecting to begin with.


16 posted on 04/03/2018 9:04:47 AM PDT by caww
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To: Trump20162020

All I can say is, Lady, I’m sure glad an angel didn’t appear to YOU 2000 years ago and ask you to bear my Savior into this world.


17 posted on 04/03/2018 9:05:38 AM PDT by Buckeye McFrog
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To: Trump20162020

That’s are challenging Hallmark Card to find.

I know you wish we didn’t exist but Happy Holidays Mom?!


18 posted on 04/03/2018 9:07:03 AM PDT by Leep (Make The Swamp Small Again!)
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...and for most of this time she has been a single mother...

And there is the problem.

19 posted on 04/03/2018 9:09:23 AM PDT by FlingWingFlyer (#NotARussianBot)
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To: boycott

Well she obviously choose unprotected sex at the very least as a single......she took the risk three times of a baby on the way. “Selfish” mother is an understatement.


20 posted on 04/03/2018 9:11:02 AM PDT by caww
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