Posted on 09/12/2019 8:18:01 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
Women are attracted to men that they think they can change.
Men are attracted to women that they don’t want to change.
Over time, just the opposite happens.
It’s just that simple.
"Oh, wait, the dreaded "you'll die alone" thing. Got news for you, half of all married people "die alone". Usually chicks when the man dies earlier. An argument can be made that everyone dies alone anyway. It ain't a team sport. And it appears you have never spoken to anyone about older guys in senior centers. It's like 20 to 1. Those old geezers are fighting off waves of old women like a machine gunner in the Pusan Perimeter!"
LOL, the imagery that appears in my brain!
Mine did, but she knew when I met her that I would never make a lot of money in my chosen profession. Didn’t bother her then, and 19 years later doesn’t bother her now.
On the other hand, the flip side is that there is an absolutely stunning number of extremely accomplished and successful yet surprisingly attractive women from forty on up who are wonderful people that are simply looking to find a life partner who is near their age and in a similar position in life professionally and financially
So if you are a successful and accomplished guy with a lot to offer and are willing to stay in your own age lane and reject the half your age plus eight thing, the whole “ Women won’t marry down” is a not a bug, it’s a feature.
My divorce lawyer insisted that if I ever re marry a prenup was mandatory and he would personally shoot me if I neglected to put one in place.
Can’t disagree with that but coming to the rather stunning realization that in some instances that I may actually be the one who is the intended target of the agreement or at least that it’s mutual. And that’s saying something
Not sure how I feel about that but can not deny that there are some truly outstanding and accomplished women who are also as much wonderful individuals as they are accomplished from a career perspective
Uh...Like my wife was...and once the kids came along I became just “staff”...20+ years now...If I had to do it all over...
BTW how does one reply to the original post? I see no link
Part of good marriage philosophy is that the kids, as important as they are, will eventually leave the nest. So its most important to keep the spousal relationship alive and well, otherwise you wind up not having anything in common after the kids are gone.
We could have an affirmative action lottery, to force economically attractive white men to marry black women.
Bring the kids into the world. Raise them right. Kick them out. Hope they remember you when we get old.
We are in the kick them out stage. Whoo Hooo.
You are looking at internet listings about base pay.
The posters with direct knowledge are mostly talking about experienced people with seniority, and who work jobs which involve lots of overtime during bad-weather events, at time and a half, double-time, adverse-weather differential, travel differential, etc, etc.
Base pay is NOT necessarily what experienced people wind up making.
Check out the City of Burlington Vt union contract. Base pay for a line worker first class is up to $82K. In Vermont.
On reason I would be hesitant to marry a younger woman is because I would not want to kick the bucket and leave her in a position where she is alone for 25+ years
Of course, the obvious solution to that dilemma is to marry a woman so much younger than you that when you kick the bucket she is still young enough to enjoy your money and live the life she chooses with whatever kind of guy she chooses
That’s a problem with its own self solution
Popular culture destroys boys and men and anything masculine... schools expect boys to be little girls...
We are literally destroying our nation from within.
Yup, horror stories abound and are seemingly the norm as opposed to a rarity
Our society is broken and the system is corrupt and is destroying the basis and foundation for a healthy relationship
The solution is to avoid the system by signing a a fair and mutually agreed to marriage dissolution contract before the wedding so if you don’t make it in the marriage, the dissolution is quick, as painless as possible and gets done without lawyers on both sides ending up with the bulk of everything you have built in your marriage
There really is no other way.
I am 52, I don’t know a sole who matches your description in my age range.
You could go the route of being a young woman's sugar daddy while she gets through college. She graduates and moves on, and you find another sugar baby in the fall.
Yes thats what I told my wife....in counseling she flat out said kids are top priority...and the counselor said nothing...I then new right then that counseling was worthless...But I know there is blame to go around...the kids, multiple cats, dog, and iphone get all the time..miserable situation
You could go the route of being a young woman’s sugar daddy while she gets through college. She graduates and moves on, and you find another sugar baby in the fall.
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Thought under class college girls looked way to young for me when I graduated and felt kind of creepy asking one for a date.
That’s back when I was 23 .
At my age now, it is creepy
I’ll pass
I will give the universal male response: I would have been extremely happy to stay in my age lane for Neil I hit 30. After that.....hell no.
:^)
At least the gay ones are now out so women won’t have to dig very deep into their closets.
Too many college degrees today aren’t worth the paper they’re printed on. Marrying a hard working good man with a trade skill is where it’s at.
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